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**richardslove or others nursing toddlers**

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I was just wondering how it was going for you and DD w/ the weaning process.
I have really been struggling w/ whether or not to begin refusing when DD asks to nurse and had a bit of a mini breakdown tonight.  The judgments were really getting to me.  I am now officially over it. I started reading after she went to sleep and I have finally put my internal argument to rest.

During my meltdown, I was thinking about how it was going for you guys on the weaning front?  Anything to get my mind off my own dilemma!  ;-)

Or any other moms nursing past 12 months...

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  • fjarilfjaril

    Little dude is only 14 months and we're still nursing. For us, it's mostly morning, noonish and night. So when he wakes up after the midday nap and at bed time. I've nursed in public and I'll just put him on if he's fussy or hungry and I forgot a snack.

    I think since he's not walking on his own, people probably don't think twice about how old he is. 

    I haven't actively tried to wean him. He sure does enjoy eating real food, so I think he's doing what works for him. 

    Not sure I'm helping at all... 

     

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  • carlinlpcarlinlp member

    we're still going strong too.  we're still at 4 times a day and i just started trying to get down to 3 but he won't have it.  he just gets so mad and it's pitiful when he wants to nurse, I hate refusing.  we're pretty undecided as to whether or not we're going to have another baby as of now, so I'm not in any rush to wean him at this point.  I think I'll let him decide when he's ready.

    I know it's hard but try to ignore others judgments.  do what is best for you and harper, those are the two most important people in the situation.  :)



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  • richardsloverichardslove

    We're down to just nursing at night.  She was still nursing in the morning and right when I'd get home from work AND before bed.  I was so glad she dropped the after work nursing session.  For the morning when she would ask for "milk" I would offer her her sippie cup of yogurt or milk.  She would take her sippie cup.  The night nursing session is going to be hard for her to drop, it's her way to relax before bed.  Each night I've been cutting the session shorter and shorter.  Last night I let her nurse for 10 minutes, then I rocked her for 5 min. or so, then put her in her bed w/ her doll.  She fussed for about a minute then began talking to her "baby".  She finally fell asleep on her own in about 10 minutes.  My LC said to just decrease the time each night or give her an alternative (sippie cup). 

    My goal is for her to be totally weaned by the time she 2.  She'll be 21 months tomorrow.  We're almost there! 

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  • m_and_mm_and_m

    I have no input on weaning since we're not trying. DD still nurses every couple of hours if I'm around, but she can go up to 5 hours if I'm gone (like MDO days).

    I think we get away frmo judgements for two reasons- 1, she's so small people assume she's only about a year or less. 2, I don't give them a chance to pass any because I act as if they're ridiculous to think I would not be nursing her. "What? She's only 18mos! Of course she's still nursing, she's just a baby! Don't you know that UNICEF and WHO recommend a minimum of 2 years of nursing, and that's just a minimum! Why wouldn't I do what's best for my child?" I totally talk with exclamation points, too. ;) Really though, I act incredulous at the thought of not nursing her. It makes people back off, family and IL's too.

    Well, my mom thinks H is way too old to nurse but I told her I didn't care what she thought because she hadn't read the research and didn't know what she was talking about. She agreed she hadn't researched and that it was her own visceral reaction and has not mentioned it since.

    I also spend lots of time around other moms who nurse toddlers, which is huge for my confidence level.

    Hang in there as long as you guys want to keep nursing!

     

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  • richardsloverichardslove
    imagem_and_m:

    I have no input on weaning since we're not trying. DD still nurses every couple of hours if I'm around, but she can go up to 5 hours if I'm gone (like MDO days).

    I think we get away frmo judgements for two reasons- 1, she's so small people assume she's only about a year or less. 2, I don't give them a chance to pass any because I act as if they're ridiculous to think I would not be nursing her. "What? She's only 18mos! Of course she's still nursing, she's just a baby! Don't you know that UNICEF and WHO recommend a minimum of 2 years of nursing, and that's just a minimum! Why wouldn't I do what's best for my child?" I totally talk with exclamation points, too. ;) Really though, I act incredulous at the thought of not nursing her. It makes people back off, family and IL's too.

    Well, my mom thinks H is way too old to nurse but I told her I didn't care what she thought because she hadn't read the research and didn't know what she was talking about. She agreed she hadn't researched and that it was her own visceral reaction and has not mentioned it since.

    I also spend lots of time around other moms who nurse toddlers, which is huge for my confidence level.

    Hang in there as long as you guys want to keep nursing!

     

     

    I totally agree!  My MIL said this weekend when dd wanted to nurse "You're still doing THAT?!?!?!".  I said, "by THAT do you mean giving dd beneficial antibodies to help build her immune system, vitamins/minerals/protein, and comfort?"  "Then yes, I'm still doing THAT."  That was the end of that conversation.  :)

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  • btrrcupbridebtrrcupbride
    I also don't usually give people the chance to make me feel bad for nursing but have just been letting is get to me lately.  Usually it is water off a duck's back.
    We also are not trying to wean.  I would just like to cut back during the day.
    The things I am doing are starting MDO, never (and I mean NEVER) sitting down b/c if I do she is BEGGING, shortening her night feedings, and offering alternatives during the day.  We nurse on demand so she is still getting milk frequently throughout the day.
    Thanks for the support.  It is hard not to let other peoples comments bring you down and I am not so bold as to actually call some of them out.
    Thanks!
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  • brideonjuly8brideonjuly8 member
    imagerichardslove:
    imagem_and_m:

    I have no input on weaning since we're not trying. DD still nurses every couple of hours if I'm around, but she can go up to 5 hours if I'm gone (like MDO days).

    I think we get away frmo judgements for two reasons- 1, she's so small people assume she's only about a year or less. 2, I don't give them a chance to pass any because I act as if they're ridiculous to think I would not be nursing her. "What? She's only 18mos! Of course she's still nursing, she's just a baby! Don't you know that UNICEF and WHO recommend a minimum of 2 years of nursing, and that's just a minimum! Why wouldn't I do what's best for my child?" I totally talk with exclamation points, too. ;) Really though, I act incredulous at the thought of not nursing her. It makes people back off, family and IL's too.

    Well, my mom thinks H is way too old to nurse but I told her I didn't care what she thought because she hadn't read the research and didn't know what she was talking about. She agreed she hadn't researched and that it was her own visceral reaction and has not mentioned it since.

    I also spend lots of time around other moms who nurse toddlers, which is huge for my confidence level.

    Hang in there as long as you guys want to keep nursing!

     

     

    I totally agree!  My MIL said this weekend when dd wanted to nurse "You're still doing THAT?!?!?!".  I said, "by THAT do you mean giving dd beneficial antibodies to help build her immune system, vitamins/minerals/protein, and comfort?"  "Then yes, I'm still doing THAT."  That was the end of that conversation.  :)

    GOOD FOR YOU!!  Yes

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  • beaglebridebeaglebride
    Hello ladies!! I know I haven?t posted and/or been on in awhile but this particular topic spoke to me!! We still nurse and DD is 19 months old. I, myself, am physically ready to stop but emotionally, I don?t think I have processed it yet. I love that we have that ?bond? still. But for DD, I think it is mostly comfort. We nurse on demand but she really uses it as a crutch to go to sleep, and stay asleep, at night. That is my biggest hurdle. She is finally able to understand when I say "no mommy milk right now" when we are in situations where we can?t nurse. You know, when we are in the middle of the store or something and she lifts my shirt!!   Anyways, just wanted to add my 2 cents. We co-sleep so I know I have caused part of the problem with night nursing but that is what works for our family.   Any advice anyone has is greatly appreciated too!  
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