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What should we do?

alicia023alicia023 member
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My shower is May 30th, and my mom sent out the invites around the 1st of May and we put on them to please RSVP by the 20th..and I know we still have 2 days, but she said only 1 person has RSVP'd so far. And I'm kinda freakin out.. Sooo, would you just plan on about 1/2 of the people coming or should my mom call them and ask if they are coming if she hasn't heard anything by Thursday? She just doesn't know what to do about food and how much to get. TIA
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Re: What should we do?

  • Policeman's BridePoliceman's Bride

    i don't know what is with people in this day and age with RSVPing to things but it's super rude. i would wait until your RSVP date just to give them the benefit of the doubt that they will respond and then after that i would get on the phone and have your mom call them. i know it's a pain but it would be more wasteful for her to buy way too much food or not have enough b/c everyone showed up. 

    i feel your pain!  is it really that hard to pick up the phone or email someone that has invited you to a party?  where have all the manners gone? are we just too busy to do the little things any more?  sorry for my venting!  i hope your shower is lovely and that you get a response from people. 

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  • ljlkmljlkm
    After the deadline has passed, call all the stragglers and see if they're coming!
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  • ilenegraceilenegrace member

    This happens everytime I plan a shower.... so annoying. I would wait till your RSVP by date and then have your mom (not you) start calling. In the case you still don't hear from everyone I would buy food to feed as many as you invited. Better to have more food than not enough. Good luck!

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  • mani_and_memani_and_me
    Like all of the PP said. I would wait until the RSVP date has passed then get on the phone, email or text.
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  • mamabearicsonmamabearicson
    This is why I like to do "regrets only" instead of RSVP.  It's seems to work out better if people only have to notify you if they are NOT coming. 
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  • At1stsightAt1stsight
    Agree with PP - have her call on the 21st. RSVPs can be nightmares- this is why my hostesses are planning to send it out 2 weeks ahead of time and request the responses for one week prior. They figure people can't 'forget' when they only have one week to reply and they'll have to make fewer calls, hopefully. I'm sure more than one person will show for you!
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  • hopefulmomhopefulmom member
    How hard is it to RSVP.  Wait a day or two after your RSVP date and then have your Mom call everyone who has not responded.  I had to do this for my DD's shower.  I just told whoever (or left the message) that we had not recieved their RSVP and wondered if they planned to attend since we have to order the food.  If I left a message I said that if I did not hear from them by such and such a date (gave them 2-3 days to call me back) I would mark them as UNABLE to come.  When I left that message I definitely got calls back.  I guess they didn't want to be left out.  lol  We would not have made food for a ton of people we didn't think were coming!  That would have been totally wasteful.  We did not have anyone come that did not call back.
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  • kenitaw248kenitaw248

    imagemamabearicson:
    This is why I like to do "regrets only" instead of RSVP.  It's seems to work out better if people only have to notify you if they are NOT coming. 

    This sounds like great advice. I might have to start doing the same. 

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  • angiec418angiec418

    for our wedding, less than half of the people we invited RSVP'd but nearly all of them, plus extra people we weren't expecting, showed up to the wedding and reception. Most of the RSVPs we got were telling us that they weren't coming anyways. We even included an RSVP card for them to just write their name on, check YES or NO, then send back in the self-addressed AND postmarked envelope that was with their wedding invitation. Total waste of money buying all those freaking stamps.

    People just don't understand that when you say to RSVP, you mean it.

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  • clberry6492clberry6492

    i would call around and find out who is coming. we had more than half come to my shower. it was 3/4 of the people we invited. it made a difference for favors and food.

    if it makes you feel any better, my dh's family didnt rsvp at all. they just showed up. luckily, i heard through the grapevine who was coming and who wasn't. we were a little irritated by that! 

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