I just broke down at work

Rachael07.07.07 · May 2009

I found out my best friend (well maybe former bff) is pregnant with number two. Of course she announced it on facebook. She and I have had a little falling out in the last few months (not due to anything remotely baby related), she was my maid of honor. She knew we were struggling with IF when she announced #1...and now he's 6months old and she's KU again. She's never asked how we are doing or about IF. I'm so bitter, I'm so sad. I hate IF. This is the first #2 announcement we've had to deal with since we've been trying. It's like another reminder of how long we've been at this. Sigh.

ladychicago · May 2009

oh hon.... i feel your pain. i feel like i just wait for the #2 announcements to roll in. i'm so sorry you're dealing with this!

crysbena · May 2009

Whoa... same exact thing just happened to me....literally minutes ago...hence my "Screaming at FB doesn't help" post. I know what you're going through. It sucks...it's not fair.

Breaking down at work sucks too.... I think I'm leaving early.

I'm so sorry... ((HUGS))

caityr · May 2009

Its almost quittin time-I myself will be having a cocktail tonight...

I am so sorry. Nothing about this is fair:(

AuburnBride06 · May 2009

I'm sorry. I know all too well how bad it hurts. I am Officially the only one who is not pregnant and who does not have any kids. My bf from college, who is broke, not married, and has no insurance, is 9 weeks pregnant. She was my last friend without kids.

The sad truth is that for the most part, people without IF don't understand (because they CANT understand) and usually they don't care about the IF struggles of their friends, so they are not going to care enough to ask about how youre doing or about the treatments or anything else. I've always got the impression of , "oh that sucks, but at least it's not me".

I try to tell myself that their pregnancies have nothing to do with us. Easier said than done.

{{{HUGS}}}

Echloe · May 2009

Oh I know it hurts. ?I'm sorry. ?This just doesn't get easier. ?Especially with people popping out several babies in the time it takes us just to get a stupid blood test or ultrasound. ?: ?(

Rachael07.07.07 · May 2009

Wow, sucky day!! I'm sorry you're dealing with the same thing Crysbena. Hugs back to you. I wish I could go home early too. I know others have been at this even longer than DH and I have but man it sucks no matter what. What gets me is that this friend of mine had a rocky recovery after the first, something like post partum cardiomyopathy...which is really bad from what I read and it is very risky to have a kid...and now she's going to have a second???

Kiki11 · May 2009

I'm so sorry

I have been crying for the past week since finding out my best friend is pregnant. This sucks. (((hugs)))

perry7285 · May 2009

i'm sorry. ((hug)) hang in there.

Gina070605 · May 2009

I'm so sorry. IF is a terrible thing. I am going through the same "issues" with my sister (they are the same time line as your friend...6 month old and one on the way) She told my by a text message.

jenick · May 2009

I'm sorry Rach. I replied to myself on FB when I saw this on here. My "wave" of seconds started a couple years ago and it sucks every time. You take the time you need and if she's a true friend, she will be there for you when YOU are ready. Just take care of yourself. I'm here for you!!

~jen

Triathletegirl · May 2009

So sorry! Our Sunday School class is a young married class-aka baby making class. We are one of only 2 or 3 couples that don't have kids-and most of the women have bumps now...and I HATE it. Friends who get KU just don't get our pain. I hope you work things out w/ your BFF.

BTW, I broke down in my principal's office today during my annual review. She handed me the tissue box and just let me be. Fortunatelty, she has been in the loop regarding all my appts. this year.

franklintngirl · May 2009

I'm sorry. I understand. At church it seems like everyone is having a baby or they just had a baby. Some sundays it is hard to see all those kids.

waitingforbaby#2 · May 2009

(((hugs)))

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