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Just feel so inadequate

finallyamommyfinallyamommy
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OK, warning, i am rambling here while i try to figure out how i feel. I'm kind of a SATM and kind fo a working mom.  

I have an 11 month old son and about four month ago I left my career--for a lot of reasons but mostly because I was struggling with how to get everything done well and not wanting my work to consume our home life after finally being able to have a baby. 

I now work from home PT and our son goes to  a babysitter about 30 hours a week.  I love her and it's a great situation. 

But sometimes i honestly still feel overwhelmed trying to do it all.  I used to be the more career oriented one and now i try to manage everything at home so my husband can focus on his demanding job.  Some days i drop my son off and I have no energy to get started on work.

I'm wondering if anyone else ever feels overwhelmed or just has no energy?  My son also isn't sleeping through the night and I'm starting a new IVF cycle, so i know there's a lot of reasons to be tired, i just still feel like i should be able to handle everything and do everything.  Or at least do more.  I constantly feel inadequate.  
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  • JLSBWGJLSBWG member
    Hmmm...there are lots of days that I don't have the energy for anything, but I muddle through.  I do have a new respect for working moms, since I became one.  It's hard, but I still wouldn't want to be a stay at home Mom though.   I do find that my career ambition is pretty much gone.  I enjoy my work, but I don't have the drive to climb the latter that I once did. 
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  • beenbizzybeenbizzy member
    I am way less career oriented than I was before DS.  Some days I simply go through the motions, but don't accomplish much - at work or home.  I'm sorry I don't have any great advice for you.  Once your DS is STTN, I hope it gets better.  Have you talked to your DH?  It sounds like you are carrying a lot of anxiety and maybe he can help with some of it.  [[hugs]]
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  • kgb1411kgb1411 member

    This feeling comes and goes with me too.  I don't know if this would help you, but we just hired a cleaning service twice a month.  It isn't too expensive, and now I can actually relax in my house without seeing chores that need to be done.  I also find that cutting out other obligations can be helpful.  Sometimes when you are working, caring for a baby, and going through IVF, you can't make every bridal shower.  I hope that things get better for you soon.

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  • finallyamommyfinallyamommy
    Thank you so much for your kind words!
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  • crysas81crysas81
    You can't do it all and you don't have to. I have worked so hard on my career but now I feel like I did that because I didn't have anything else as my main focus. Now that I have my daughter, she's it. She now has my passion...not my job. I love what I do but I also have no interest in climbing the latter.
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  • anjalismomanjalismom
    I feel exactly the same way somedays,  I work 10hour days,  4 days a week , my poor husband who picks up my daughter at my inlaws made dinner tonight.   I feel useless somedays but I know my most important job is my baby girl. My focus has changed a lot. I also started my graduate degree, sometimes I am like what have I accomplished... anway my drive for work has gone. I just rush home to cherish the time with my daughter, time flies and this is precious time when they are little. Hope this helps and you feel better.
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