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Is anyone waiting to buy things?
We are not having a shower because we are Jewish and MIL did not have one and doesn't beleive Jewish girls should have showers.
DH would like to wait until the baby is born to purchase baby things. I think this is insane because the last thing I want to do when I bring the baby home is have to run around and buy things. I also think we are going to spend a lot of unnecessary money if we wait and do everything at once when we could be buying it little by little on sale.
That being said... is anyone waiting to buy things or bring things into the house until after the baby arrives?
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Re: Is anyone waiting to buy things?
No. I can only imagine how busy and tired I will be with a new baby. I think that is crazy.
Just wondering, would you have a shower if someone offered or would you turn it down because your MIL says no.
We're Jewish and still had a shower. Here's the thing - when our parent's and grandparent's had us - they were kept in the hospital for close to a week which gave dad and grand-dad plenty of time to set up the nursery. Not the case anymore - you are in and out and you will 100% not want to shop!!! I get the superstition but it's just not practical IMO.
What we did do though is keep everything at my parent's house. The nursery was set up with the crib and furniture but we didn't wash any clothes except for a few things to bring baby home in until after baby was here and then my mom washed everything.
No way! I just can't imagine having to deal with all of that stress right after the baby is born. You would just be making your life harder on yourself.
Also, I've never heard of this before, all of the jewish girls I know have had baby showers. Why is it that jewish girls are supposed to?
I am waiting, but that is only bc of medical problems w/ baby. I thought I might lose him a few weeks ago, and having to look at his stuff made it that much harder. Once he is here and healthy, I will set up his nursery, and then we throw a "meet the baby" party. If people want to bring gifts, great, if not, whatever. New babies really don't need that much stuff anyway. I will just buy the necessities and roll with it.
To answer your questions... if someone offered to make me a shower I would not turn it down at all. Two of my good friends are making me a small luncheon that will be like a shower, but only for about 10 people.
My mother is completely clueless... MIL made my bridal shower. My mother lives thousands of miles from me and never had any of this done for her so she wouldn't assume it should be done for me.
DH's family is Jewish and so is my Step-Mom, but my Step HATES showers she would not let me have one for my wedding... but thats not the problem. I dont really want a shower because of my own beliefs but I am very jealous of those who are having one and those who have all this cute baby stuff in their homes already. I am not bringing ANYTHING into the house until after my LO comes, but my Step and my Dad will make sure that when I get home from the hospital everything I need and most of what I want will be there waiting for me.
That being said i really really really want to go shopping for stuff but have been very good and have not done more than look.
The truth of the matter is that there are only a few things you *need* when baby arrives. Off the top of my head -- carseat, place for baby to sleep, blankets, clothes (PJs, onesies, hat, mittens), diapers and wipes. We were moving a month after DS was born so we didn't have a nursery set up at all.
Obviously you need a carseat to bring baby home in. Definitely don't underestimate the amount of time it take to install one -- the first time is a bi#ch unless you have someone help you who has done it. Will you be using a cradle, pack-n-play, bassinet or co-sleeper? You'll need that too. Many don't put their babies in a crib right away, so I wouldn't worry about that too much. Assuming DH is off work and will be able to run out and pick up stuff or you'll have someone around to help, it can be done. Just don't count on doing it yourself because you may not feel up to it. I felt lousy for a couple weeks after my son was born.
We are Jewish as well and my DH's side is somewhat religious and doesnt believe in showers and bringing things into the house. DH luckily is only half agreeing with them and we did not really do anything till after our big ultrasound...but now he feels more confident and we have bought a few things. I want to have the nursery set up and he is ok with that, and we are going to have a shower becuase my side is going to throw it.
I say do what you believe, if you really want to just have the neceissities then maybe DH will compromise on that. I kept telling mine i'm the one taking carrying the baby so i have a little more say then him!!!!!! (it wont my battle)
Ahh not a problem for me... DH is a carseat technician trainer!
You're golden. And seriously, if you all feel better getting everything after, it can be done. Half the gadgets and gear you don't even need right away. Plus, someone will be making a million trips out for things you forgot anyway.