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3rd Trimester
Dad missing birth of first grandchild (VENT)
AARRG! My dad just called to tell me how excited he is about his upcoming business trips - and then he proceeded to tell me that he'll be gone both the week before and the week after my due date! So unless this kid comes early or late, he'll miss the whole thing. And he didn't even realize it until I told him!
He's always double-booking himself like this, completely forgetting that there are other things going on. Then he started asking me pushy questions about whether or not the baby is going to be born on his due date. I was like, "It's not an exact science - he'll come when he's ready. That's why people don't MAKE travel plans on or around the due date!!"
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Re: Dad missing birth of first grandchild (VENT)
Sorry if this sounds insensitive too, but I'd prefer my Dad not be around the 1st week that baby is here. I love my Dad, but don't want him in or near the delivery room, lol. I also don't think he would help much the first week.
He plans to fly in for a visit when the baby is a week or two old. I will hopefully be feeling much better and up for visitors at that point.
Well... if it's a business trip, did he even have a choice?
My dad is going to be gone for about a week near my due date (also with first grandbaby). I was bummed at first - but then I realized what pp said. He won't be too involved birth anyway. :: shrugs ::
Would have to agree w/this...my grandparents all lived OOT and when we were born, they would come afterward to visit. I certainly don't remember any of that...it was just a matter of practicality: too hard to predict when the babies would arrive.?
No apologies needed, maybe I'm just being hormonal. You're right. It's just that I'm an only child, really close to my parents (especially my dad) and DH is going to have like 10 ppl in the waiting room - it'd be nice to have my family there too. Plus, they live nearby, so it's weird to think they're here for everything else, but missing this. My mom will be there, but she's not good with hospitals, so she probably won't be in the waiting room either.
Thanks for setting me straight, and again, no worries about seeming insensitive!
Oh - that makes sense! Sorry someone important to you won't likely be in the waiting room supporting you like DH's family is.
Thanks! Guess I just needed to get it off my chest - I feel better now. Still stinks, but like pp said, it's not that big of a deal. I'm sure my dad will have tons of time with LO later on.
Oh that makes sense. I would be annoyed if all of DH's family was there and none of mine. I guess we are in different situations. No-one lives near us, so it will be just the two of us and maybe my mom.
Maybe your baby will come early? If not, I am positive that your Dad will spoil that kid rotten with love and attention when he gets back. Being the first grandkid is awesome!!