how do you stay positive?

Jpell5120 · May 2009

I had a miscarriage in Feb and a BFP yesterday. Im really excited but keep going back to the last pregnancy and thinking that ill miscarry again.

How do you girls stay positive?

Irishsapphire · May 2009

I try to focus on the positive things that happen--like the doctor confirmed a heartbeat on this particular date, etc. I also realize that it is more important to have a healthy baby than to just make any pregnancy work out. And my health is important, I need to take care of myself first.

kristin7701 · May 2009

I found this board and made a similar post at the beginning of my PG. Everyone here pretty much feels the same way you do, especially at the beginning. Do you have the SAL mantras? They helped me, as did knowing others were going through the same uncertainties. When it comes right down to it, you have to know that we don't have control over most of this and can just hope for the best.

Congrats on your BFP and best wishes for a H&H 9 months!

luckyangel · May 2009

SAL mantra for most of us is "today I am pregnant and I love my baby"

I just take it a day at a time and know that I can only do so much to make this pregnancy work, stay healthy, follow docs orders etc. ?Beyond that it's in God's hands. ?

I agree with IrishSapphire-its more important to have a baby than to just make any pregnancy work out. ?Definitely!?

easjer05 · May 2009

I don't always. I'm not a particularly positive person by nature and I am a worrier by nature, so positivity is hard for me. I lose my sh!t on a fairly regular basis, I think.

I get that out. I write down my worries and think about what I can do to change things. The answer is nothing, of course, and I hate that, but it does help to acknowledge the fear (gives it less power, I think) and to receive reassurance that I'm not alone in my fear.

I hold on to the positive signs - the positive pregnancy tests, the betas going up well, the symptoms of pregnancy I experience, every day that I don't have spotting, bleeding and wake up still pregnant.

It's hard. And time drags slowly for me right now. One week until my u/s and it's really hard not to worry about what we'll see. But I do try to stop myself when I realize I'm spinning myself out of control and I do try to think about this baby and what I hope and want for it instead of trying solely to protect myself. I pray, even though I don't do that much.

Lanette · May 2009

It's very hard to stay positive, it's been 2 yrs since our last m/c and I'm just now starting to get a little excited about this pregnancy. I know it's different for everyone, but you really just have to take it 1 day at a time. I just had to find things to do to just preoccupy my mind from running through every worse case scenario. I also talked to DH & my Dr and just let them know how nervous and scared I was to have another m/c, it can't hurt to have the extra support. GL and I hope you have a H & H 9!!!

Mrsjulybride · May 2009

Hi - I just found out two days ago that I'm pg again and now every twinge drives me crazy with anxiety! As everyone here has said we just need to take it day by day. Easier said than done of course, but it's all we can do. Good luck and here's to sticky babies for all of us!

kmtfu · May 2009

To be brutally honest - and I know this is going to sound AWFUL, but... I stay away from a lot of the posts that might be about m/c or where something's wrong (I realize how un-supportive that is of me) and really try to limit my time on these boards. That in itself has been a great help believe it or not. Plus, this time, I really don't FEEL pregnant. Like I know to wear a bra 24/7 and I know to get a nap in every day and I know to eat crackers throughout the day so I feel normal... basically, I try not to think of it until I get close to an appt (had 4 so far!).

GL - and CONGRATS!!

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