My husband is telling EVERYONE

tbirt24 · May 2009

When we got our BFP we decided that we were going to tell our parents only until we had been to the doctor. My appointment isn't until June 5. He saw his sister on Mother's day and we both decided to tell her, which was fine with me. But then he just started telling everyone. All of our friends, other relatives, and everyone at his work. This morning I almost lost it. We saw a random friend of my SIL at the gym and he just blurts out "Hey, Jennifer, We're pregnant!" I know that the look I shot him was enough for her to know that I wasn't happy about him telling her. I'm not even 5 weeks yet! ARGH.

nicolebuchalla · May 2009

It's cute that he's excited, but I understand you not wanting the world to know just yet. I'm sorry!

Jen1231 · May 2009

Oh boy, that's not good. My DH did the same exact thing. I think it was just because he was so excited for everyone to know.

jennybeams · May 2009

Just be happy. You only get to tell people once, and if he's telling them now, you can't take it back and tell people in 5 weeks. Enjoy the moment, no matter how unplanned it may be.

someflower6 · May 2009

aw... i know that must be annoying, especially since it's brand new news, but it's also kinda sweet that he's so excited. best of luck to you both!

sumrsmith · May 2009

Mine does, too. Partly due to excitement and partly (as he explained) so that he feels more involved with this pregnancy process ..... since he doesn't feel any of the physical changes of anything. I told him that's fine, but if something goes wrong you are the one telling all these freaking people!

tbirt24 · May 2009

My main problem is that he's telling most of the people when I am not around! He told MY BEST FRIEND at a party when I was in the bathroom. Then I had to explain why I hadn't told her already. The boy needs some duct tape across his mouth!

KatiKM · May 2009

My Dh is doing the same thing! We are a little further along than you but we just found out a week ago. We agreed to tell our moms for mothers day and then a select group of our closest friends.

Well now apparently everyone at the shop he works at knows. Interesting how excitement has gotten the best of them.

liubride510 · May 2009

Congratulations!!! OMG!!! Our babies' due dates are close (God willing). My husband and I have decided to wait until about 8 weeks before telling everyone. I don't know how I'm going to keep it a secret for so long since we've been TTC for about 10 months now. We honestly didn't think it would happen for us.

It's wonderful your husband is so excited he can't contain himself. I must admit I'd be a little horrified is he blurted the news out at the gym but it will be something you can giggle about later......maybe ;-).

beckyanddon · May 2009

My DH told my sister first.... I didn't even get to hear her initial reaction. I tried to play it off that I wasn't kind of dissapointed.

blessedinthewest · May 2009

That didn't happen to me because we both agreed not to tell anyone until the first u/s. I think if you're going start being selective with who you tell it make it really hard. We just said everyone or no one. But we had a really early u/s at 7wks.

Alex17 · May 2009

I'm surprised at some of these responses.

I get that he is excited, but I would be pissed if my husband did this. Especially if you had already discussed a "telling" plan.

I get that it's already done, so you should just enjoy it or whatever. But my DH would be in the dog house!

WendyinSwitzerland · May 2009

I can share one thing that has tempered my & DH's enthusiam to tell the world is some of the heartbreaking posts about m/c's on this board! That was a wake-up and made us resolve to really wait until 12 weeks....maybe if you showed him a few posts, he might understand your reasons for caution? bcs that's exactly what haunts me...thinking of the possibility of un-telling folks later!

(but anyway, it is still cute that he's that excited...but JEEZ, he should leave you a few people to tell yourself!

kimberleigh30 · May 2009

That's so cute that he's so excited, but I can totally understand why you'd be annoyed.

Temp785382312506150 · May 2009

Alex17:

I'm surprised at some of these responses.

I get that he is excited, but I would be pissed if my husband did this. Especially if you had already discussed a "telling" plan.

I get that it's already done, so you should just enjoy it or whatever. But my DH would be in the dog house!

I have to agree. Have you tried talking to him about this after he starting telling the world? You have every right to be angry even though it can't be undone. I would want him to know that what he did was wrong.

mrs_sherod · May 2009

tbirt24:

When we got our BFP we decided that we were going to tell our parents only until we had been to the doctor. My appointment isn't until June 5. He saw his sister on Mother's day and we both decided to tell her, which was fine with me. But then he just started telling everyone. All of our friends, other relatives, and everyone at his work. This morning I almost lost it. We saw a random friend of my SIL at the gym and he just blurts out "Hey, Jennifer, We're pregnant!" I know that the look I shot him was enough for her to know that I wasn't happy about him telling her. I'm not even 5 weeks yet! ARGH.

He's just excited, but TRUST me, I know. It was exactly 4 weeks ago I go my BFP. I wake up at 6:30am and took the test with my first urine of the day. While brushing my teeth I saw it [PREGNANT] in the little window. I showed my husband and he started dancing. By 7 am, his mom knew and everyone on his job! We had our first appointment last week Thursday and he took a pic of the u/s pic and posted it on facebook! I can't be upset with him for being so happy, but geez mister! Big Smile

MmeBP · May 2009

it must be a male thing because my DH tells everyone! As soon as we got the BFP on the pregnancy test he was on the phone with his parents...after three weeks I've learned to deal with it...he's excited and it's cute!

MissyC979 · May 2009

I would be annoyed if he told important people in our lives without me. I would have a heart to heart and at least get him to wait until you are around to tell people.

ebat · May 2009

Alex17:

I'm surprised at some of these responses.

I get that he is excited, but I would be pissed if my husband did this. Especially if you had already discussed a "telling" plan.

I get that it's already done, so you should just enjoy it or whatever. But my DH would be in the dog house!

ditto, there would have been a talk after the 1st extra person he told

Shannonlea · May 2009

If he wants to tell his co-workers, whatever. Telling your best friend while you are in the bathroom? Thats just plain nuts

ahappygilmore · May 2009

Alex17:

I'm surprised at some of these responses.

I get that he is excited, but I would be pissed if my husband did this. Especially if you had already discussed a "telling" plan.

I get that it's already done, so you should just enjoy it or whatever. But my DH would be in the dog house!

This. We discussed a very specific telling plan. If DH broke that, I would be so angry!

Also, before we got pregnant I told DH I didnt want to share until after 1st tri and I told him about how common miscarriages are. Once we got our BFP, he thanked me for explaining that to him.....he had no idea how common they really were and did not understand why I wouldn't want to share our pregnancy until later.

kob227 · May 2009

jennybeams:
Just be happy. You only get to tell people once, and if he's telling them now, you can't take it back and tell people in 5 weeks. Enjoy the moment, no matter how unplanned it may be.

Ditto. My dh did the exact same thing but I just decided to enjoy it rather than worry.

kob227 · May 2009

Ok, not the exact same thing. The best friend thing is ridiculous, I didn't read that part when I first responded. We've been to a few parties where he started telling everyone and I was annoyed, but I also found it cute and enjoyed the congratulations.

tbirt24 · May 2009

I did have a talk with him about it..but now so many people know that its going to be hard not telling anyone else. He is so excited, and I am very very glad that he feels that way. I just hope that everything goes well and we won't regret telling everyone so early!

Thanks, girls! Talking about this and seeing your responses has made me feel much better about the situation.

pregnantchica · May 2009

My husband was the same way and it wasn't all that cute that he was sooooo excited that he had to tell some people! I was/am pretty superstitious with letting people know before three months. Our parents okay, but everyone else NOT! Fortunately, that's behind me now!

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