C/would you put someone in a position where they had to choose between you and someone else?

tmp-195892875001867 · May 2009

This might be the only choice and I don't know if I can do it.

kfishie · May 2009

Is this job related? No matter what, sounds like a really tough position. I guess without knowing the specifics and just assuming job stuff, I would have to ask if you like your job and what are the chances of you finding another job given the current market? Oh, and do you need to work right now (ie: is it possible to stay at home)?

Smuches4u · May 2009

I get the impression that you can't/don't want to plaster the details on the net & I respect that. But I don't think we can fairly answer this question without details.

I can say that if someone is putting you in the position that you need to make ultimatums, then maybe you need to put that person out of your life. I've found that ultimatums only prolong the inevitable.

I'm sorry this is even on your mind. Big hugs.

MamaDep · May 2009

unfortunately, I think it's sometimes unavoidable.?

tmp-195892875001867 · May 2009

I hate to be vague, but you are right, there is just too much to share.

I know I would be the "chosen" one but I don't know if I want to bear the burden of responsibility for the choice (if that makes sense). I know I shouldn't but I would.

Meg_Meg · May 2009

Smuches4u:

I can say that if someone is putting you in the position that you need to make ultimatums, then maybe you need to put that person out of your life. I've found that ultimatums only prolong the inevitable.

I'm sorry this is even on your mind. Big hugs.

I think this is great advice! I'm sorry you're having such a hard time.

Mrs.K&C · May 2009

If it's the only choice...I would if I had to, depending on the situation of course.

SeasonalCook · May 2009

You have to do what's best for you and your family. And if that means making someone make an uncomfortable choice, so be it. Good luck honey!

tmp-351858625009089 · May 2009

Ugh, it sounds like a really crappy situation. But, gathering from what you've said, I imagine that ultimately the other person has put themselves in this situation. Or at least has not done enough for themselves to keep them out of it. So if the choice has to be made, it doesn't sound like it's your "fault" that you'd be the chosen one. Does that make sense?

In work you often have to do what you have to do. As long as you're not doing something ethically wrong (or legally for that matter!), sometimes you just have to make that hard decision and do what's best for yourself. I don't mean to sound harsh, but sometimes that's just the reality of things.

eastbaygirl · May 2009

SeasonalCook:
You have to do what's best for you and your family. And if that means making someone make an uncomfortable choice, so be it. Good luck honey!

Ditto. I think as women we're told by society we have to care about everyone and be uber nice - I'm the poster child for that.

But at the end of the day, you do have to do what's best for you and take care of your family. That's priority #1. As long as you're not totally stabbing someone in the back - do it.

m&m818 · May 2009

SeasonalCook:
You have to do what's best for you and your family. And if that means making someone make an uncomfortable choice, so be it. Good luck honey!

Ditto this. I had to do this once before and while it was hard and scary (way out of my comfort zone) it moved my family in a better direction. (it was more family related then work)

Wishing you luck with your decision.

Celyn · May 2009

i made my ex choose between me and his chick on the side, but i don't think that's what you meant

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