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ADAC0507
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DH/IL Vent- long!
ADAC0507
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One day ILs were here visiting, and were taking DD back with them to drop her off at my parents' house (my parents and ILs live in the same town, away from DH and me). MIL wanted to sit in the back with DD, but DH told her that DD wouldn't go to sleep if MIL was in the back with her (and DD NEEDED a nap). MIL asked if the carseat would ride okay without the base, and DH said, "Well, yeah, we'll seatbelt it in!" and after MIL made some comment, DH said, "What were you gonna do, just hold it (the carseat)?" and MIL said, "Yeah." We blew it off, thinking she was joking and not stupid enough to really think that would be acceptable (I belted DD in myself anyway). The next day, DD was at my parents' house, so my mom took DD to MIL's office so she could play with her on her lunch hour. MIL wanted to take DD to see a friend of hers, so they loaded up in my mom's car and went 2-3 miles away from MIL's office. (Per my mom's story) Again, MIL wanted to sit in back w/ DD, so mom gave DD's carseat to MIL to buckle her in. As they pulled into their destination, my mom noticed the carseat wasn't strapped in. She smugly said, "I won't tell her momma she wasn't strapped in." Well, obviously she told me and I told DH. He said, "I will have to have a talk with her about that." Has he yet? No. And it's been 2 weeks. Any time I bring it up, DH practically yells at me and says he'll do it. I'm SO angry! Advice?
On a side note: ILs never had a carseat for DH when he was little. He always rode on the console b/t them or on one of their laps.
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Re: DH/IL Vent- long!
I highly doubt carseats were required back when your DH was a baby, so you can't really blame them for not using one. My mom used to carry me in her arms in the car whenever my dad was driving because car seats were not required by law in the 70s. BUT your MIL has no right to disrespect the laws now and she should not disrespect you either by doing that. My MIL is just like yours though, which is why I do not trust her with DS, she rolls her eyes all the time at me when I say, well you can't do that these days. Just because she did it in 1975 she thinks it is OK even though it might be something they found to be harmful and don't advise it be done anymore.
Damn MILs!!!!
If I were you I'd tell MIL myself how you feel if your DH won't.
I could be wrong, but I am pretty sure a base will not work in a car that does not have the newer LATCH system (again could be wrong) Anyways in that case there are instructions that show you how to strap the seat in with seatbelts, but that is for older model cars or I suppose if you just don't want to use the base.
I guess he's lucky they never had an accident. Really, I would tell MIL she will absolutely not be driving your DD anywhere if she won't follow safety rules. If DH won't do it, you should. GL.
That's going to be my rule until he talks to them and they agree to always buckle her in.
Check your manual to make sure yours straps in w/o a base (I would imagine it does). On ours there are little grooves on each side (kind of where it angles from the "back" to the "seat" of the carseat- does that make sense?), and the lap belt part of the seatbelt (we always use the middle seat/belt) slides into those grooves and then pull the belt tight. I'm terrible at explaining things. Maybe someone else can explain it better, or your carseat manual will have illustrations.
Strange, I've never heard of that! We use the infant carseat and base in one car, and have the convertible carseat (obviously without a base) in the other car as back up.