Have 2 under 2 - criticized for using pt daycare

JennyCraig · May 2009

I found out a short while ago that one of my SILs said to my other SIL that it is "just wrong" that I kept DS#1 in FT daycare until my LO was 6 weeks old (I needed to recover from my c-section!) and that I currently have DS#1 going to daycare twice a week so he can have some fun and I can do important things like grocery shop and clean the house!! Has anyone else been criticized like this?? Am I an evil person?? I am off work until LO is 11 months but I'm just trying to find some sanity while having 2 kids under the age of 2!

mommacaz · May 2009

i would do the same thing if i had 2 and could afford it. i don't see anything wrong with it.

freeburger16 · May 2009

I see nothing wrong with it - if getting a break gives you some sanity it will only make you a better mom when they are home with you. And I agree that daycare is great for socialization for the kids.

Dont let it get to you!

DNK777 · May 2009

mommacaz:
i would do the same thing if i had 2 and could afford it. i don't see anything wrong with it.

Me too. I can't imagine running after a toddler while taking care of a newborn right after my c-section.

shari_rngleson · May 2009

that is ridiculous. ?you need to do what works best for you. ?people really need to stop being so critical!

mommacaz · May 2009

DNK777:

mommacaz:
i would do the same thing if i had 2 and could afford it. i don't see anything wrong with it.

Me too. I can't imagine running after a toddler while taking care of a newborn right after my c-section.

that's the thing..i needed at least 2 weeks before i felt decent. sadly..lol..DH wants 2 under 2 but luckily i'll have two sets of grandparents to help out!

rsweethart · May 2009

I think its a great idea and a good way to keep your sanity...having two can be challenging at times.

carlab44 · May 2009

I'm still on maternity leave (will be through June) and DD usually still goes to daycare her normal 3 days a week. If it is a nice day or we have a play date I'll often take her out. But we have kept her in daycare while I'm on maternity leave for several reasons.

1. If we pull her out we lose our spot. And finding part time daycare is extremely difficult. So since we have to pay for the slot we figure we might as well use it.

2. It has given me one on one time to bond with DS, and also gave me time to rest in those early weeks (since DD no longer naps).

3. It has given DD something to do. Getting out of the house can be difficult with a newborn and a toddler and DD would get bored if we sat around the house all day.

4. I needed the break. Operating on little sleep then getting up at 6am to manage a toddler all day and not having a kid free moment until DS goes to bed at 9pm is difficult. When she is at daycare I can have a few moments to myself when DS naps.

soxfan74 · May 2009

People are too critical! Don't let it get to you! I think it is a great idea too that I would do myself when the time comes and I need to.

I love the name Avery!! Sooo pretty!!!!

honeybeez · May 2009

Use it if you can. I would have if I was able to afford it. DH went back to work a day after I came home. I had a c/s and have a toddler. I was tired and in so much pain.

I think people talk a bunch of crap when they're jealous.

Mrs.Hizzo · May 2009

Well, I do the same thing. Finn goes to mom's day out three mornings a week. It's wonderful for all three of us. I started him three months before the baby came, so that he could get used to it. He loves the days he goes to school. Yammers all morning about "'chool" and his favorite kids there, grabs his lunch and tries to go out to the car long before we actually need to leave. And I get three mornings a week to run errands that would be a huge hassle with two of them. Clay gets three mornings a week to have me all to himself, instead of being stuck in the bouncy while I deal with his demanding big brother. So as far as I'm concerned, it's a win, win, win. Totally worth the $22 I pay each time he goes.

irishmolly04 · May 2009

NO! I have C in daycare (well it's just a lady up the road & she minds 2 others children) one day a week. It's great to know that I have one day to spend with B & give him my full attention & I know that C really benefits from it. He gets so bored being in the house all the time so at least he has one day where he can play with the other children & just have a change of scenery. Like you said, it gives you a couple days just to get stuff done which is nearly impossible with 2 young children. If you can afford it by all means ignore SIL & enjoy it!!

emaly · May 2009

I could have written this post word for word, except that DS only goes to daycare 2 days a week. It has saved my sanity on some days and I like the extra quiet time to bond with DD and also catch up on some much needed sleep.

kelly pavao · May 2009

I wish I could have sent my boys to daycare after my c-section, recovery with 2 year old twins was not a good time, and it's good for them to get out and socialize anyway and losing your spot would stink, it takes a while at some places to get in.

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