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Terrified to start IVF

MidWestWife83MidWestWife83
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I have scheduled and canceled one cycle and now I am terrified to even schedule another...  I can't really even begin to explain the fear.  I guess it is a fear of failure or a fear of another loss.  I don't know if I could recover from another loss...  My husband is ready and wants me to call and schedule another cycle...  I just can't seem to get over this fear... it is so intense, it keeps me up at night... Thanks for letting me vent...
PCOS, Tubal Factor
2 Ectopic Losses = 2 surgeries = 1 unusable tube
IVF #1 June 2009 = SUCCESS! EDD 3/7/1
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Re: Terrified to start IVF

  • Flower2005Flower2005

    Just wanted to say that I know how scary it is.

    I had a mix of excitement/fear/anticipation and anger that we had to get to the point of IVF to conceive.  However, it's something you just have to do.  You just gotta jump.....good luck!

    We're here for you!

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  • jes0575jes0575

    You're definitely not alone - I'm scared to death. Of failure, of disappointment, of screwing up the medication, of not being strong enough, of side effects... I'm crossing fingers, toes and eyes that this Femara cycle will be it for us and we can avoid IVF.

    I think the pp was right though, you just have to make that leap of faith in hopes that everything will work out in your favor. ?

    Best of luck to you and congrats on your graduation!

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  • Steph9-17-04Steph9-17-04

    I was in your shoes back in February and March.  I was getting ready to start my 1st IVF on April 1st.  The thought of it was making me sick.  I didn't know what to do.  I felt like DH was into it way more than me.  I was afraid of the disappointment.  The list could go on and on!!

     At some point I decided to just jump right in.  I knew that if I didn't, I would probably regret it for the rest of my life.  The day that I did my first shot, I felt a huge sense of relief.  Like I was actually taking control of what was going on.  At that point I knew that even if it didn't work, I was doing everything in my power to make sure that we had a chance at a family. 

    In the end, our 5 year journey with IF brought us to a BFP after IVF # 1.  Do some thinking about it, but in the end, give it at least one try. 

     Good luck!!!!

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  • tapgirltapgirl

    That fear is SO normal - I think it is our way of trying to protect ourselves.  We are getting ready to start our 4th round of IVF (although we've only made it completely through 1 cycle).  I have cried to my DH several times about my anxiety and fear.  Even though we are not very hopeful, we have decided that we are more scared to not try and look back and wish we had. 

    I know this is hard.  I posted something similar to this last week - and some of the best advice I got was that "each cycle is different."  Good luck to you. 

     

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