Anyone waiting to tell parents or IL's?

getnmarried910 · May 2009

We told my parents right away, but we haven't told my IL's yet. FIL we don't talk to, so he'll probably hear from my BIL or even MIL, but MIL we still haven't told. She's never had a good reaction so we decided to wait this time. I just don't want to deal with her crummy reaction again.

Jen&Louie · May 2009

How can she have a bad reaction to such wonderful news? Blah...sorry about that. Under those circumstances, I'd wait too.

We haven't told parents on either side yet. Ideally, we'd like to tell them together, in person but the distance makes it a challenge.

GershiGirl · May 2009

I've had two losses so we decided to wait until I'm out of 1st tri to tell anyone. We told our parents the last two times and they were soooo excited that it just made it that much harder for me when we found out the pregnancies weren't going to make it. I would still tell them if (God forbid) I were to have another miscarriage, but it's just a lot easier to tell after the fact so I never have to think about how excited and happy everyone was.

getnmarried910 · May 2009

Jen&Louie:

How can she have a bad reaction to such wonderful news? Blah...sorry about that. Under those circumstances, I'd wait too.

We haven't told parents on either side yet. Ideally, we'd like to tell them together, in person but the distance makes it a challenge.

Because she thinks she knows what is best for everyone and to her, we had kids too young (I was 26 and DH was 25 with the first), too soon for the second (he was a birth control baby, so out of our control), that no one needs more than two kids, especially if they have a boy and a girl because it's already the perfect family. I'm sure I could find more things she's said too. I try not to think about it or I get all fired up.

Melaina25 · May 2009

We haven't told either. We'd ideally like to wait until 12 weeks, but we will be in Thailand for FIL's wedding.

If we still see h/b at my next scan on the 22nd, we will tell them at 8wks.

Strunella · May 2009

We're waiting until the first tri is over. It is KILLING me! We just want to make sure everything is ok before sharing the news. I am dying to tell my mom, but she has such a BIG mouth that she would blab it to everyone in 5 minutes.

Jolene84 · May 2009

We are waiting until I'm a little closer to 8 or 9 weeks before we tell anyone. My DH is just concerned that something could go wrong and he wants to wait. It's killing me to keep my mouth shut but it's probably for the best.

justrachet · May 2009

We're waiting, but I'm dying to tell them! DH is Kenyan, and his family all still lives over there. It was 7 weeks after our wedding before he was able to talk to MIL on the phone to tell her that, yes, we did indeed get married and the wedding was beautiful. She lives in the bush and doesn't have a phone, so he has to call someone else and hope they're close enough to take their phone to her. He talked to her the day after BFP. If it were me, I would have gone ahead and told her because there's no telling when he'll get to talk to her again, but he didn't since I said I want to wait. I think we may tell my parents soon, and maybe my sibs, but will wait a 3-5 weeks to tell everyone else.

nadiarl · May 2009

I am holding off on telling my dad. It's complicated.

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