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How much do you rely on your mom for advice?

PlannedChaosPlannedChaos
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As a follow-up to my comment about following books or some doc's "method" - how much advice to you get from your mom on how to handle your baby? 

I personally listen to my mom quite a bit, because she always seems to know what to do.  My DH and his first wife never had any advice or help from their mothers (nor did they read any books), and I'm just going to say it plainly - they screwed up.  There are so many very very basic things about baby care that my H doesn't know - despite the fact that he had 3 children prior to us having Chloe together. 

So I'm curious - do you listen to your mom?  (I'm going to leave MILs out on this one!)

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Re: How much do you rely on your mom for advice?

  • adamwifeadamwife

    I have this problem with my mother - as soon as she starts telling me what I should do I completely tune her out.  It's her method of giving unsolicited advice that grates my nerves.  Now, when I ask her a specific question I can usually listen long enough tot get the answer I want and then tune her out as she rambles for another ten minutes.

    I usually call my older sister for advice.  She has 3 kids ages 4 and under.  I have found that the "rules" have changed so much since my mom and MIL had kids, that newer moms give better advice.

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  • Mandy EllsworthMandy Ellsworth
    I listen to my Mom a lot.  We are a close family so I know that whatever she says, she is always thinking about the boys and has their best interest at heart.  Although I don't always take the advice, I do always listen.
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  • PlannedChaosPlannedChaos
    imageadamwife:

    I have found that the "rules" have changed so much since my mom and MIL had kids, that newer moms give better advice.

    This may be why my mom is still relevant.  She is in healthcare, and deals with infants almost daily in her job, so she stays up on a lot of the current guidelines. 

    I did have to explain to her why my older DD's 15 year old crib wasn't ok to use again though!

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  • megs042107megs042107
    there is a lot of advice from my mom that i listen to. ?but there's some stuff that I don't listen to, like putting sugar in cereal to make it more tasty for baby. ?i think she knows that's not an ideal suggestion, but clearly it's something she and her sisters did when we were babies.
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  • mavs_girl07mavs_girl07 member
    Honestly, no.  I love her to death, but when it comes to advice on babies she and my MIL are the last ones we listen to.  If we listened to them, we would've given dd water starting at birth, started her on solids at 2mos., and let her CIO at 3 weeks.  We were on a long road trip and dd was screaming her head off so I was in the backseat with her...my mother recommended that I take her out of her seat and just hold her...while the car was still moving!!!!  If we need advice we go to friends who have babies or young kids.
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  • SummersJuly15SummersJuly15
    I rely on my mom a lot......she always seems to have a good tip or advice for something......although I am pleasantly surprised at how much DH and I have learned on our own so far.....
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  • cristyucristyu member

    You guys are so lucky.  I wish my mom was still here. Crying

    Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but this post made me think of her and wish she was here.

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  • PlannedChaosPlannedChaos
    imagecristyu:

    You guys are so lucky.  I wish my mom was still here. Crying

    Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but this post made me think of her and wish she was here.

    Awwww...::HUGS::  Sorry it made you cry!  I have thought about that many times. My mother drives me insane quite frequently, but I would be so lost without her.

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  • jll1881jll1881
    My mom can be overbearing with advice sometimes, but I feel like she's actually gotten better since DD was born.  I think the best advice she gives me is reminding me that I'm a great mom and supporting the decisions I make.  I've had quite a struggle breastfeeding, and my mom has been so supportive.
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  • Marie RMarie R

    My mom and I are super close, so I go to her quite a bit.  She's given me advice on everything from baby blues to what to do if DD if constipated.  My mom's really good though about not giving advice if its not asked for.  She says she doesnt want to be too pushy and overbearing and wants me to learn on my own. 

    My step mother on the other hand...

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  • esutton76esutton76
    I usually call my sisters, sil and my best friend when I need advice.  My sister is a nurse with two boys and I call her and ask her medical opinion on things.  I called my friend almost everyday after I brought my ds home from the hospital, because she had a little girl last year and she really helped me get through the first few weeks.
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  • cristyucristyu member
    imagePlannedChaos:
    imagecristyu:

    You guys are so lucky.  I wish my mom was still here. Crying

    Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but this post made me think of her and wish she was here.

    Awwww...::HUGS::  Sorry it made you cry!  I have thought about that many times. My mother drives me insane quite frequently, but I would be so lost without her.

    Don't be sorry and don't feel guilty because your mom drives you insane sometimes. =)  I think I'm just sensitive because mother's day is coming up.....

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