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Mothering Instinct vs guilt

Melissa17Melissa17
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months

I am surprised at how many women let guilt get the best of them when dealing with their LO and family.  Maybe I am over protective, but I do not care who you are or how you are related to my daughter- she is MY daughter.    I will do anything to protect her from anything or anyone.

If you do something I have asked you not to do, there is no warning.  Trust is broken.  If I cannot trust you to follow a simple request, how can I trust you with other larger things that could be life threatening.  I do not care if you did ______ with your child, that was your child. 

Seriously, get over the guilt.  Just because its a family member doesn't give them automatic passes. 

Sorry, had to get that off my chest. 

Disclaimers: No, this was not directed to anyone person.  Yes, my husband is part of the decsion making in the house and with our LO. 

 

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Re: Mothering Instinct vs guilt

  • violetvirgovioletvirgo

    i agree.  of course, i don't have crazy IL's (they are actually pretty awesome), but i have no problem telling my mom (who I'm very close to) to back off if she's overstepping and if she did something neglectful, i'd tell her about it. 

    dd is number one.

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  • GeoffreytheGiraffeGeoffreytheGiraffe member

    I hear what you are saying, but life is more nuanced than that.  Give my kid some whip cream? Grrr not what I wanted.  Shall I throw away years of our wonderful history? not so much.

    "measured respone" and "let the punishment fit the crime" are good buzz phrases..

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  • Tash13Tash13 member
    I agree.  My parents were so worried about not offending others that they literally put my sisters and I into harms way when we were younger rather than cause waves.  Trust me... I'll cause waves if I don't agree with what you just did with my kid and especially if you directly went against something I asked you not to do.
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