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Those with a nanny, please come in..

Pumpkin111Pumpkin111 member
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I work from home and have a nanny coming in now.  It's fantastically awesome and I can get soooo much done..

Only problem I'm having is that when C cries her really nasty angry cry, I want to get up to solve it.  I told M (our nanny) that I would stay out of her way as much as possible so she could figure out what works for her..

It's been a few days and she hasn't quite gotten the hang of it yet.. I've given little tips here and there.. what do you do?  Step in and show her how to do it or continue to leave her alone and figure out what works for her?

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  • DAugerDAuger
    I'm going to be having the same situation in a few weeks when I Go back to working at home. I would probably give her some tips. I woudn't be able to take the crying.
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  • LuLu38LuLu38
    I have help 3x week during the morning.  I am struggling with this as well.  I am a nervous wreck.  GL.  On the one hand, I think we have to back off.  On the other, WE KNOW often times what our little ones need.  Who the eff knows. 
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  • RobinLARobinLA

    I have a nanny fulltime M-Th and a half-day on Friday when I work from home.  I have to say though, I have the opposite problem.  My nanny is able to calm DD down faster than I can.  It's amazing.  She's so good with her.  She actually teachs me. 

    But if it was the opposite, I would step in.   Continually show her until she can do it on her own.  I'd hate to hear DD crying so much.

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  • betsnupbetsnup member
    It's only been a few days - hang in there, because it will get easier.  Honestly, I would leave her alone and let her figure what works best for her and you LO.  I have help 2 days a week, and it was hard the first couple weeks, but now it has gotten SO much easier.  There are times when I want to step in and correct or help her, but they need to develop their own bond and your LO has to trust your nanny.  Good luck!
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  • eris1995eris1995 member

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    There are times when I want to step in and correct or help her, but they need to develop their own bond and your LO has to trust your nanny.  Good luck!

    I agree with this.  I SAH, but I was a nanny last summer.  It was only for a month because the baby's grandma who normally watched him was on vacation.  The mom had 2 weeks off, but wanted to get things done so that's why she hired me.  Every time her son would cry she would step in.  He knew that she was home and we had a hard time connecting because of this.  It made things VERY difficult. 

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  • Pumpkin111Pumpkin111 member
    imageeris1995:

    imagebetsnup:
    There are times when I want to step in and correct or help her, but they need to develop their own bond and your LO has to trust your nanny.  Good luck!

    I agree with this.  I SAH, but I was a nanny last summer.  It was only for a month because the baby's grandma who normally watched him was on vacation.  The mom had 2 weeks off, but wanted to get things done so that's why she hired me.  Every time her son would cry she would step in.  He knew that she was home and we had a hard time connecting because of this.  It made things VERY difficult. 

    Okay cool.  I'll keep doing what I've been doing.. It's sooo hard!!  :(
    She is doing a good job, but she's young.. Her mom ran an in home daycare when she was in her tweens so I know she has good experience.. I just need to let her find her groove! Thanks ladies!

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  • GASuzukiGASuzuki member

    Hey Pumpkin! My MIL was watching Quinn during the day... (My mom is coming tonight to take over...) It's really hard, but I think the best thing really is to let them figure out what works for them. I told my MIL what worked for me and she watched what I did, but really the best thing was when she figured out that she could lay Quinn down and play with the Whoozit with her.

    But I know it's hard. Man, every time I heard Quinn cry I wanted to run and grab her... I did that in the beginning, but that got old fast...


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  • CES&HAACES&HAA member

    I am in the same situation - a nanny comes in on the days I work from home.

    I spent a few days with her and DS, showing her his schedule and how I liked things to be done. After that, I let her do her own thing (save one or two times when I couldn't get my work done because he was throwing a fit...then I stepped i). She needs to figure out her own ways of comforting him and meeting his needs. It is isn't easy, but I feel like working at home is a priviledge (for me) and I should act like I am working when I am home.

    However, I will admit I keep headphones in all day and turn them up if he starts to cry =)

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  • cristyucristyu member
    imagePumpkin111:

    I work from home and have a nanny coming in now.  It's fantastically awesome and I can get soooo much done..

    Only problem I'm having is that when C cries her really nasty angry cry, I want to get up to solve it.  I told M (our nanny) that I would stay out of her way as much as possible so she could figure out what works for her..

    It's been a few days and she hasn't quite gotten the hang of it yet.. I've given little tips here and there.. what do you do?  Step in and show her how to do it or continue to leave her alone and figure out what works for her?

    Step in, definitely.  We trained our nanny on how to feed our baby, hold her, etc....Sometimes when I see her doing something off, it bothers me but I'm not as assertive as my DH. 

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