I Am An Ungrateful Horrible Human Being

Kandie35 · May 2009

ok, I hate baby showers. There, I've said it. I mean, I really hate them! My friends have been wanting to throw me one and (I think I wrote a post about how) I gave in only if it were a casual coed family style bbq type thing. Well, I've been very busy with course work etc and let my two friends plan everything without any involvement from me. I just heard from my cousin who received an invitation, that now it is going to be at my one friends house and is a typical baby shower type thing. I'm not gonna lie - I cried all day yesterday over it. I don't cry very often. I was just so frustrated. Now I am completely dreading the whole thing and wish there was a way that i could get away with not going (obviously not possible). Maybe I can go into false labor and they will keep in the hospital that day to keep an eye on me and release me at the end of the day. Aren't I horrible!!!???

JenniferTCU · May 2009

No you're not horrible!

I totally hate them, too. I bet if most people were honest about it, they'd say the same thing. Maybe I am wrong and we're both horrible. The only fun ones are the ones where it's just a big party and it's a couples thing. Why did they switch to a typical shower?

shelby9201 · May 2009

You are SO not horrible! I too am dreading the baby shower experience. I have never in my life attended one and I was hoping to completely avoid it for myself. Of course, I have three seperate groups of friends who are insisting they each throw one. Of course, I am grateful that they are so excited, but I cannot fathom how I will get through the experience. I successfully managed to avoid any sort of bridal shower, but I fear I will not escape unscathed this time.

Good luck and let me know if you hatch the perfect escape plan!!!!

Michele

Mango2 · May 2009

I'm right there with you. One I did really enjoy b/c my sister and my nieces were here from Toronto so I had family to share in the experience. Otherwise, not so much. One set of friends kept insisting and we finally did a "Meet the baby" event after DD was born... only no one else showed up except the 2 people hosting. I was so embarassed, but they had insisted despite the fact that I kept saying no.

pinkysun · May 2009

They are hard. I Love planning them but hate being the subject of one. For my bridal shower I was so nervous. You want to put on a happy face and seem like you are having fun for the sake of the people who thew it for you because it was with the best of intentions, but it is hard being up there on display. Just suck it up and keep a smile on your face and think of all the good loot you'll be getting!

Also think of how much you are loved and how happy everyone is for you!

psvenson · May 2009

I'm so with you on this one. I am DREADING my baby shower! I hate, I mean HATE these kind of girly, tea party kind of things and was really hoping it would be a laid back jack n' jill get together with all of my and my DH's friends. I just found out that my MIL's best friend wants to be the host (I barely know her) and is just going to invite female family and my two closest girlfriends. Ugh.

It will be a yawnfest and I feel so ungrateful---but I really don't want to go. She just called me to find out the best weekend to schedule, and I am avoiding it like the plague. I feel bad, but geez, I just want it to go away.

leffe1 · May 2009

NO! You are not horrible. I don't want a shower at all! I know I will be up against lots of resistance though! We will see.

busybea · May 2009

Nope you're not horrible! Ditto here.... I hate them too! I just hate being the center of attention and all the ooooh-ahhhhs and goo-goo gaa-gaas. I basically told my mom that I JUST wanted a lunch with the girls but my MIL has something else up her sleeve, I can just smell it! My g-friends are cool with it and besides DH and I have pretty much purchased everything we need. All that is left are the basic bottles and onesies!

dlborg · May 2009

No, you are not horrible!! I felt the same way when my very sweet and generous neighbor offered to have one for me. Mine was held this past weekend and I am still here to talk about it. I HATE being the center of attention and I have so much family drama going on that I kept trying to think up excuses to cancel it. I was a total nervous wreck, but it turned out ok and the time flew by. My baby got so much stuff and I really got sucked in by all the cute things people bought for her. Mine was also a girls only event, but it turned out very nice and there was no drama either!!

BrideBuddies · May 2009

My friend just had her first baby in Mid March. She had such a hard time with the pregnancy, we discussed having a shower right before she was due.... yeah, that never happened.

So now I'm planning a "Meet the Baby" party for her and she's cool with that. It means less focus on her and more on the baby. And you don't have to play stupid games.. you can just let people hold the kid. Plus, she ended up having so much newborn clothes, I'll be spreading the word that the kid could use some bigger sizes already! HA!

I'm leaning toward doing the same thing... since she wants to throw a shower for me, too.

SFAug07 · May 2009

I hate traditional baby showers too! I talked all my friends out of throwing me one. We will either have a BBQ before the baby is born (celebrate the addition to our family kind of thing) or a meet the baby party after she is here.

maschmidt16 · May 2009

I am right there with you all on the shower thing. You're not a horrible person. Personally, I think the traditional baby (or bridal) shower is a bit antiquated these days. I'm really dreading having to go to mine but there's really no way around it. I made it clear, though, that I want real food, no prissy little finger sandwiches with the crusts cut off.

As pp's mentioend, just try focus on the fact that you have some many people around that care about you and think all the loot you'll get. It will go by quick enough.

Kandie35 · May 2009

Well, another thing is that I seriously doubt there will be much more than a handful of people show up anyway, which will just add to the awkwardness. Most people were invited out of obligation and they live out of state (Philly, Boston, DC, CA, NC, DE, etc). If they do show up, ugh, my friend's house is cute but tiny and I don't know how she plans to squeeze people in there. .. C'mon false labor for that day!!!!!!!!

lmizgala@hotmail.com · May 2009

Too funny. My sister and I often joke about this topic. We hate showers too and swore to each other that we would never throw on for each other!

You are not horrible, just human. People really do mean well.

Good luck...will all be over soon. Indifferent

L.

bchap122 · May 2009

I am with you!! I hate them. I have lived in CA for only a year so the list would be short which would make it even more pathetic. I said they can take me to brunch if they like, but nothing more!

Peppernut · May 2009

UGH! ?I can't stand 'em.

A former sister-in-law of mine actually had everyone hold hands in a circle and do some weird, new-age spiritual girlie thing. ?My mom tried to hold it in, but she just started laughing so hard she passed out right in the middle of it (she has narcolepsy.) ?It gave both of us an excuse to scoot out early. ?:)?

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