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am I being selfish here? (rant)

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So, my best friend quickly volunteered to throw my baby shower the minute I told her I was pg. But recently, she's been extremely stressed out with working & going to school full time. I had my other close friend also offer to throw the shower, and she has no job & plenty of time. My best friend is thinking of moving to LA this summer once she graduates & will have a lot of life changes. I keep having this nagging feeling that she won't follow through with the shower. She's already told me there is only 1 weekend she can throw my shower in September (I'm due mid Oct), and I'm just worried she'll bail.

So I emailed her & said how about we let the other friend host & you can help her? I dont' want to be a burdon. Well now she's completely offended & mad at me because she thinks I'm being ridiculous.

 Am I being a snot? I think I need a reality check given how my brain doesn't seem to work properly anymore.

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Re: am I being selfish here? (rant)

  • cstwcstw
    Nah, you're fine. Just tell her how much you're looking forward to it but since you had not heard anything much about it, your pregnancy brain pushed you into planning overdrive. Ask if you can help by providing her a list, invitation ideas, or with anything else.
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  • TiffanyHenningTiffanyHenning
    I don't see why they cant do it together.
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  • purple_posiespurple_posies
    I think if you have two friends that want to throw you a shower there is no reason for you to feel bad about suggesting that they work together. Especially when one of their lives is topsy-turvy atm!
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  • EvelynsmomEvelynsmom
    You're good.  You were also thinking of her and not wanting to add more to an already full plate.  She needs to understand that.
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  • first-time-mamafirst-time-mama member
    I understand why you are worried..you wanna have a great shower..and you should get one Wink  I agree with you should just tell her that pregnancy brain pushed you into planning overdrive..Def ask if she needs any help with the invites/list/ideas... GL
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  • arob2009arob2009
    i had a ton of ppl want to throw me showers, the in laws, my 2 cousins & one of my closest friends.  I am not a fan of a bazillion showers so I suggested the ILs could do a co-ed shower & my friend could co-host with my cousins.  Although my MIL thought I only needed one where EVERYONE could come, I said I'd really like to have a women-only shower, even if there is going to be a co-ed one.  Besides that bump in the road everyone was happy with that solution.  I don't think there is anything wrong with asking friends to co-host.
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