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Anyone like being a working mom better than being a SAHM?
Just wondering, I have to go back to work in Sept. (I'm a teacher) and my DD will be 15 months when she has to go to Daycare. I'm just so curious how I'm going to take it. On the one hand it will be nice to be with adults, have an hour to eat lunch and run to places, and have not such routine days. But on the other hand I can't imagine dropping my DD off at daycare and not being with her all day.
I think daycare might be good for her though because she will be 15 months and will have the chance to play with other kids etc.
But I'm sure I will be very emotional dropping her off.
Just wondering how the working moms deal and do you like it at all?
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Re: Anyone like being a working mom better than being a SAHM?
Daycare is the best thing to ever happen to my family. even if I were to SAH, they would still go. C has learned SO much, the kid blows my mind on what she can do compared to her friends who SAH. I also work in a school, love my job, the students and the people I work for.
I get the best of both worlds. You will see how she thrives and her vocab and ability will skyrocket. So fun to see!
Mixed feelings.
I enjoy my work, but I wish I had more time with DD.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
YES!
i haven't done both, so i don't know which is "better." i went back to work (i also teach school - HS) when DS was 3 months old.
it was and continues to be extremely difficult. i feel like i can't give 100% either place, or even close to 100% either place. like yesterday, i had to grade essays, even though it was sunday and i just wanted to hang out with DS. so i went upstairs and closed the bedroom door and DH was downstairs playing with DS. he was laughing and giggling and they were having the best time. and i was stuck upstairs grading papers. let's just say, i had a little cryfest up there by myself because i wanted to be down there. then i felt like was rushing through the papers because i just wanted to be downstairs hanging out with him, especially because i kept thinking "ugh, tomorrow is monday, and i will be gone again."
on the positive side of it, i do feel like i like the fact that i get to get out of the house and have conversations with adults, talk about books with my 10th graders, etc. but for the most part, it has been incredibly difficult.
the guilt i feel is more than words can express.
and, i have yet to work out on a regular basis since going back to work. i feel incredibly selfish giving up another hour with DS on top of all of the hours that i work. eventually i am going to make DH let me get a home gym so i can workout while DS sleeps (either in the AM before work or at night after DS goes to bed).
Two angel babies 11/09 and 4/10
I love working. Here is a cute post I saved from a few weeks ago on the WM board.
5 reasons I like being a working mother:
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/13898403.aspx
Thank you so much for this! I'm going back to work in 8 weeks and I'm absolutely dreading it! I think the main reason is the mom guilt. I'm scared DS will need me and I won't be there for him. It absolutely breaks my heart and I nearly cry just thinking about it.
I know it will probably be harder on me than DS, but I just feel like I'm not going to have any time with DS once I go back. I feel like the daycare will watch him grow up and will have a bigger influence on him than I will.
It sucks having to go through these emotions so I totally get where you're coming from.
I took a long term subbing position when DD was 8 months old. For me the first two weeks were horrible! Though DD stayed with my Mom, I hated leaving her with someone else. She screamed and screamed when I kissed her goodbye and left. She got used to it and that got better.
But what I hated most, was that I NEVER saw her! My hourse were crazy (get to school by left the house by 6:30 or so arrived to school by 7/7:15 and did not leave until 5:00 got home around 5:30ish or so. Fed DD got her ready for bed, spent some time with her and off to sleep she went at 7:30. Also, spent a good 6 hours over the weekend to keep up/get things done. Though I did not have ANY PREP BREAKS UNTIL THURSDAY FOR 1 1/2 HRS). It was crazy! I missed her dearly! Thank goodness for my wonderful DH and my Mom.
When it was over, I was relieved, I got to make up some of that time with DD, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I loved the interaction I got from the other teachers, and being around different people. I am thinking that finding a part time job or a parapro job would be the best for me. I dont know if I would want a full time teaching job right now, just by my experience that I had. This
I LOVE, LOVE being a working mom. I feel so lucky to be able to work 3 days/week outside the home and 4 days/week at home. I feel like I have two very different jobs and I love them both. We have an amazing in-home nanny who takes fantastic care of our son--she's like a member of the family and has taught me so much in terms of things to do with my son, how to engage him, etc. I love my adult time at work, love my colleagues and what I do and love making my own money. I took a long maternity leave (20 weeks) and was dying of boredom towards the end -- SAH full-time is just not something I would ever want to do and I'm so happy that my part-time gig has worked out so well. I don't feel any guilt-- in part because I choose to work and also because I never expected to or had any interest in staying home full-time.
I feel like I have the best of both worlds...
I work 7:30-12 M-F. I get to go out, make some $, use my degree that took me 7 years to get and I like what I do. Then, I get to come home and spend the rest of the day with ds.
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