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preacherswife04
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kinda told a little fib to OB's office...
preacherswife04
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My OB doesn't see patients for 1st prenatal visit until 12 weeks. Well, we are moving states when I'll be 9.5 weeks and I really wanted to see my OB so I don't have to quickly find one when I move. When I called and they asked last LMP I was like, "Um, I can't say for sure..maybe like mid-March?" (FWIW, I really WASN'T totally sure until I looked at the calendar)It actually was April 1. Do you think they'll be really ticked when I get there and tell them it was actually April 1?
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Re: kinda told a little fib to OB's office...
Depends on how good of an actress you are.
I'm sure it happens a lot.
Please prepare your flame-retardant suit and/or escape plan.
Zach Rance 4 President
That's a great way to start things with your pregnancy.
Lying to your OB is never a good idea. What was going to happen at 9.5 weeks that couldn't wait? You couldn't have called and simply explained that you will be moving and preferred to see someone before then, since you didn't know how long it would take to get settled and see a new doctor?
NEVER lie to your health care practitioner.
Gabriel Ross - August 24, 2009 * Vivienne Rose - May 1, 2012
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Missy- Yes, I have a phone. Would you really just start calling random doctors or would you wait to get some personal recs?? I don't know anyone in Florida YET to give me good recommendations. How do I find one from states away??
Yes, I would just pick up the phone. Otherwise, you'll be waiting around weeding through whatever personal recs you happen to hear.
Honestly? Yes, I would just start calling people and try to do online research to find an OB. If you're not comfortable with that, maybe you could try some Bump/Knot local boards for Florida to get some recommendations.
If you wait until you get there, are you going to be asking all of your new neighbors for OB recommendations the first time you meet? It just sounds awkward, if you can do some research before you get there instead.
Ironically, I am from Orlando! lol. I never thought you'd say that. Do you want my dr's information?
I would visit local boards and ask for recs and find out who will be in my network/covered by insurance and start setting up appointments to meet the doc/midwife to choose.
Then you'll be ready to go when you arrive. Recs may give you a place to start, but I always make my own decisions on care providers based on how I interact with and click with them.
Gabriel Ross - August 24, 2009 * Vivienne Rose - May 1, 2012
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There are websites that have ratings of dr's and lots of bigger cities do a "Top 100" list of Dr's in the area- I would start there with your search, since you don't know anyone. If you don't book something soon, you may very well be waiting a lot longer than 12 weeks to get an appointment- some OB's are very busy and very hard to get appointments on short notice, especially an appointment with a new patient that they have to get background info on.
FWIW, I found my RE by checking out the Top 100 dr's list in my city, and she got me KU on our first cycle, so I'd say it's a damned good way to find a good doc.
I mean...you'll need to get into see someone soon after your move. Unless you plan on asking "so, who's your ob??" to everyone you meet on your first day, you'll need to prepare for this before you move.
I agree with everyone else--definitely be honest with your current OB.
Mrs DTW- I'd LOVE your docs info! Obviously I'm clueless. Feel free to PM me!
Thanks everyone else for the info. I was actually going to ask around at church (my husband works there...can't you see how conflicted I am over this lie? hehe:) not just random neighbors...
Douchetastic. Lying to your doctor is always a great thing. Especially when it is because you're a selfish f'ing moron.
Wow...why are women such bitches on pregnancy and mommy boards? I don't get it at all. Yes, I do get being a little sarcastic or a tiny bit snarky...but out and out name calling...GROW THE F*CK UP!
Jeez...she already said it was on accident and she's going to come clean...she just felt guilty about it. Way to make a pregnant hormonal woman feel worse.
I think you ladies take it for granted that you are on the internet and can be little keyboard cowgirls. Pregnancy isn't an excuse to act that way.
I would like to know who it is going to hurt by accidently saying a wrong date? If youasked me right now I couldn't tell you my LMS...I couldn't even find the calandar page that shows where I marked it. What makes the rest of you so superior?
Blah, blah, blah... She was given good, NICE advice by most posters, so drop the whole "you ladies" whiney act. And in her OP, she coyly said she had "given the wrong date"
, implying that she had meant to- didn't come across as an accident then, just sayin'.
No, I've pretty said exactly the same thing, pregnant or not and in real life to my dear friends. So it has nothing to do with hiding behind a keyboard.
It is WRONG and STUPID to LIE to your healthcare provider for any reason. In the OP, it was clear to me that she knew she was unlikely to be seen, so she deliberately lied about her LMP.
It can throw a LOT of things off to lie about your LMP. It can flag you as high risk and it can mean unnecessary testing that is expensive and unnecessary - which ties up the doctor and the equipment in the event that someone who is in actual emergency situation needs it.
I don't think much of grown women who cannot tell the truth and lie to get what they want, especially when it can effect the remainder of their pregnancies. Her file could end up flagged high-risk because of that little lie. It could mean unnecessary alarm and it could throw off the dates for testing in the future. All because she couldn't wait patiently or be honest about why she wanted to be seen more quickly than usual.
I have no sympathy for that, and I'm not going to hide my disgust at it. Despite that, I gave helpful advice, but frankly, I'm with Bacon on this one.
Gabriel Ross - August 24, 2009 * Vivienne Rose - May 1, 2012
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She also said she didn't fully realize until she checked her calendar. She's a "preachers wife" I think she feels guilty enough. I don't understand the point of being shitty. Do you have a good reason for it? Is it just humorous to make someone feel worse after they've already said they feel bad about it?
Yes, say "don't every lie to your OB it's not good at all...you have to come clean as soon as you get into their office...it's very important that they have all of your facts correct." The rest is catty nonsense.
Yes, my whole purpose was to be as rude as possible, which is why I responded pretty nicely.
No, I don't mind making her feel worse about it, because it was a dumb thing to do. I want to impress that on her and on anyone lurking who thinks it is a good idea or wants to do the same.
Given that she also said that she knew she couldn't get in before 12 weeks and that she fudged her dates deliberately, and given the title of her post, she lied and she knew it.
It is flat out stupid to do that. It is not in anyone's interest EVER to lie to a healthcare practitioner and can in fact have serious consequences. I take that seriously and want anyone reading to understand that it is not a game or something silly. It can have real, grave consequences to you.
Gabriel Ross - August 24, 2009 * Vivienne Rose - May 1, 2012
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I wouldn't worry about it! Just go to your appointment before you move. Tell him you aren't sure about the date of your lmp. They will probably do an u/s to get an accurate date and then he'll have the correct info. Plus, it would be nice to see the little peanut to make sure everything is okay!
Don't feel bad, you gotta do what you gotta do!
GL!
Ok, just one more thing. Just because someone is a "preacher's wife" does not mean that they are not capable of lying, manipulating, or doing the wrong thing on occasion. Nor does it necessarily mean they'll feel guilty for what they've done- not saying this is the case for this woman, but, *gasp* sometimes people aren't what/who they appear.
This.
Don't let a couple of harsh comments false teeth you?