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Post Pardum or an a$% hole husband?
Ok...so I've been slightly depressed lately. My mother in law makes me feel like a complete waste of human life on a pretty regular basis. She walks into my house, her house or whereever we are and pretty much takes the baby from me. Today I told her I had it under control and she said "so, I don't care. I want her." and took off with my baby. I purposely don't pump bottles when I'm around her because I want to get the baby back. But don't worry....MIL doesn't miss a minute. She comes in and WATCHES ME NURSE.
My husband can't take a dump without calling her and telling her the size shape and consistancy....she knows everything about our life, our financial situation etc. before I do.
Today was the last straw. I don't want to get into all the details but lets just say that there was a very public situation that embarassed me. Then she tells me not to get mad and not to fight with DH...I asked her to please not get involved. I feel like I'm constantly fighting her for my baby and my husband. DH says I'm hormonal and his darling mother is perfect. I can't take it any more...should I go to my doctor and ask for something? I don't think that will change the situation...I'll just be medicated while they run my life. What would you do?
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Re: Post Pardum or an a$% hole husband?
You don't need pills, you need marriage/family counseling.
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A$$hole DH. Hands down.
Boundaries are SOOOOO important. You need counseling on your own first they can give you skills for dealing with a Mamas boy. Talk therapy can help you grow a set while learning how to set boundaries w/o rocking the boat too much. I would slowly and gently remind DH that you are his #1 woman. Watch how his Mother treats him and act the EXACT same way to him. It will crack you up how easy it is to get results.
i really want to know what the public situation was first.
then i would probably tell you to get counseling, both marital and individual (especially for your husband good god)
I know how you exactly feel. My MIL acted like I was the worst person in the world when my DH and I started getting serious. Now that I have had her first grandchild, she wants to be my best friend. That sh*t dont' fly with me. Everytime we would fight, he would storm upstairs and tell his mom. I could hear him due to thin walls. Then that would start a whole another fight. Somehow my DH has learned not to go running to her all the time. There are sometimes he still does it. I agree counseling.
Wow. This. And you need to nip it in the bud NOW before it gets worse, although it sounds as if it's already gotten to that point. Get counseling quick. It's not PPD, it's your husband and his shiteous mother.
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