How often do you and DH fight?

DiandraLomax · May 2009

I feel like all I do with DH is feud. Lately we have been at one another's throats. :-( I know it is stress-related. He is about to graduate from school, and in this economy it's an uphill climb to find a job. He is constantly at class, I am alone almost every night, and when he is around he is doing HW. Then when he's free it's golf or baseball. Meanwhile I am working my butt off. I feel like an old bitter woman! AHHHHH!

Any advice?

jessiecow · May 2009

i think there is a relationship board on the nest, you may get more help there

DiandraLomax · May 2009

I posted in haste before I had time to finish my message.

We want to start TTC soon but in times of stress I just don't know if it's the best idea. Is there any good way to compartmentalize the stress :-( to make me feel more in the mood??

christykell · May 2009

jessiecow:
i think there is a relationship board on the nest, you may get more help there

jessie is very wise

Mrs.M317 · May 2009

Lately, not much. It seems to come in seasons sometimes, a few weeks of fighting, a few months of no fighting.It seems like when one of us is in a bad mood, the other one ends up in one too! We also fight more when we haven't been having sex consistently, and usually that happens when one of us is super tired or super stressed.

Hang in there!

DiandraLomax · May 2009

OMG don't you ladies ever feud with your husbands...now I am jealous

ccbanana · May 2009

I think it's completely normal to have arguments, especially in your circumstances. DH and I argue about once a month. But there are times when it becomes more frequent and it usually revolves around our stress levels as well.

I'd say hang in there and pick your battles. He's about to graduate and is heading into a tough job market. If it were me, I'd be a little tense as well.

GL!

Mr. & Mrs. Woodtick · May 2009

MH is in school right now also (so am I for 1 more week) and when it's close to finals time we fight more. Hopefully it will get better when he finishes school and has to work full time. Hang in there.

Glowconsin · May 2009

The first year we fought a lot. We had a lot of things to work out. As terrible as it sounds, I was mourning a bit of my former independence too. Give it time and remember to breath. You guys married each other for a reason. No one ever said marriage it easy.

MiniMir · May 2009

You are going through a stressful time. I know I tend to take my stress out on the one I love the most because I feel safe with him. It's not fair to him. I will say that TTC can be a stressor in itself, so keep that in mind. But, as my mom always says "This too, shall pass". Hang in there!

a.graves · May 2009

The best advice I EVER got was from my sister. Attack the issue not your H. Because some people fight and they start attacking each other not what they are mad about.

Hope that helps. It has helped H and I a ton.

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