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The day you deliver, outside will be fair. Your baby will arrive in the early afternoon. After a labor lasting approximately 44 hours, your child, a boy, will be born. Your baby will weigh about 4 pounds, 1 ounces, and will be 22-1/2 inches long. This child will have light blue eyes and some brown hair.
PLAIN STUPID!
This is in reguards to everyone who replied to my last post about my husband just finding out that he was in fact the father of the 2 year old. He knew there could be a possibility but the fact that he didn't even know she was born until she was 5 months old. On top of that it is not the fact that he wants nothing to do with her the BM will not let him have contact with her. The new boyfriend of the BM told my husband that if he called or tried to contact the BM again about trying to see her then there would be serious consequences to pay. So that is why he was thinking about giving up his rights to her. Not so that he didn't have to pay child support. He is very good about paying the child support. He pays her and his ex-wife with whom we see the children every other weekend. I have posted about the 3 step kids before. So to answer your questions NO he doesn't want to get out of paying child support. He just doesn't have a connection with this child. And to the other poster that said why would I want to have a child with him. Like I said it is not that he doesn't want to be a father he knows nothing about this child and doesn't have a connection with her at all. He doesn't feel anything with that child. My husband is a very GOOD FATHER to the 3 that we see. I know he will be a GREAT FATHER to the 1 we are expecting in August. So thanks for all the rude comments!!
The day you deliver, outside will be fair. Your baby will arrive in the early afternoon. After a labor lasting approximately 44 hours, your child, a boy, will be born. Your baby will weigh about 4 pounds, 1 ounces, and will be 22-1/2 inches long. This child will have light blue eyes and some brown hair.This discussion has been closed.
Re: PLAIN STUPID!
LOL.
It was the way the post came off. He finds out he is the dad, you're expecting, if he gives up his rights will he have to pay child support?
IDK why you would make the OP anyways because we aren't laywers. Every state, and every situation is different. To get a valid answer to your question you need to call a lawyer!
Everything in life is a choice. Him not having a connection with his other child is his CHOICE. He could easily get a lawyer and go to court. Seriously what is the BM's boyfriend going to do - spank him?
I read your previous post, but I did not post a reply, you seemed to have plenty already, so I didn't throw my thoughts in there but I will now.
BM's boyfriend has no place to be making these threats, what a loser. Your DH should not let that moron deter him from building a bond with his child. DH will be paying child support so someone else can play daddy to her, and he gets nothing. If your DH wants this child to be part of his life, then he should fight to make that happen. BM's boyfriend has no legal standing and can't stop your DH from being around his child.
And from another side to consider, does DH really think his baby is better off being around some weirdo who threatens people to get what he wants? What happens when that child is older and wants to know why her real daddy isn't around? Is your DH going to tell her it's because some lame kind threatened him and he didn't want to cause waves?!?!!?
He should fight for her if he wants her in his life.
Please chill! Go back and read your own d@mn post to see why the posters assumed your DH was trying to get out of paying child support!
Your DH should be raising all kinds of holy h*ll to see his own child. Why would he let some punk tell him to stay away? You need to get yourselves an attorney to set up visitation. Period.
Yes, it's everyone else and has nothing to do with you and your poorly worded post.
If your DH wants to be a 'good father' and be there for all his children then he needs to step it up. Just because BM and her bf are fighting him on seeing his DD doesn't mean he can't. It just mean he needs to put up more of a fight. Something plenty of people here have to do quite reguarly.
We asked questions and gave advice based on what YOU posted.
It's sad that he isn't willing to fight with every breath he has to see his child, that he would rather walk away because he doesn't feel a "connection" and some random stranger made a threat.
If you have unprotected sex with someone it's never a bad idea to wait around and see what might show up 40 weeks later.
Before you go on another rampage you need to look at how you worded the OP, you asked: If he gives up his rights does he still have to pay child support. THerefore we answered based on the way the question was asked. You didn't add the rest of the stuff about him being threatened, just that he wasn't "allowed" to see her and it didn't sound like any real attempt had been made on his part to do so. If you don't want it to come off as something it's not then PROOF READ!
As I said in my original reply to your post, IF he wants to see her he has to make an effort. Most men do not have a "connection" with their child until they see and spend time with that child unlike a bio mother who spends every second of the day with the child until birth, but they even need to spend time bonding with the child.
If he does want to spend time with the child then he needs to make the effort. If the child is kept from him then he needs to document every attempted visit and what happens. He also needs to document any threats that are made to him. If he has a court order and she is in violation of it then go to court and she can be charged with contempt.
If he wants to take the easy way out I still think it is a crappy thing to do! He is her FATHER and whether he gives up his rights or not biologically HE WILL ALWAYS BE HER FATHER! I can't understand why he would think she would be better off without him if he is such a GOOD FATHER as you put it.
this!
I am also going to add, if it is his child he should be man enough to fight for her. My DH met my DS when he was around 14 months old. He had NO connection with him, he isn't even his bio dad. He would have done anything for him (he's not even his bio dad, he still will do anything for him)
"If he gives up his parental rights to her then does he still have to pay child support?" what did you expect with this?
Don't get mad because you asked how he can sign away his rights to get out of paying child support.
If your husband wants to be apart of his childs life then he needs to take the BM to court and get visitation establish. If he hasn't done that then she is under no obilagation to allow him to see his daughter. Stop playing the marytr and do what is right by this child.
What taagent said.
And since I'm probably the "stupid" person who said "why would you want to have a child with someone so willing to sign away his rights to his own child" let me state that (a) I wasn't aware off the top of my head that there were other kids and he's such a "great" father to them, (b) he pays his child support for this child unfailingly and (c) he has no relationship with this child let me add that the post was written so it read that he wanted to sign off so he wouldn't have to pay CS. I'm not the only one who read it that way; if everyone read it the same way, then there must have been a problem with how it was written, no? We're not all PLAIN STUPID.
To continue: OF COURSE he doesn't have a relationship with this child. If he has a relationship with his other children it's because he WORKED TO BUILD ONE. He has to do the same for this child as well, whether she's newborn, two or fourteen or an adult. It's what he needs to do with this child, just like he did with his OTHER children and what he's going to do with your child as well. He's neglecting his duty to his OWN CHILD by being so willing to walk away just because of how she was conceived, because her boyfriend says no or she's not cooperating. If BM isn't willing to let him have visitation, then he needs to fight for it. Take her to court. He'd do it for the other kids, wouldn't he? Otherwise he's NOT a good father. He's a Sperm Donor. And your child and step-children will have a half-sister they will never know just "somewhere" and your DH will have a child "somewhere" that he will never know. Sperm.Donor.
I quoted Virginia standards for relief from child support in my post, btw. If her douche boyfriend isn't going to adopt the baby, the state won't let him give up his rights just to get out of child support. BF will get the benefit of your DH's child support and the benefit of being "daddy" as long as he's around to be one.
Your post makes me want to puke. Do not throw out insults and call people stupid, when YOU were the one who asked the STUPID question.
Could you walk away from your own child, regardless of the situation because you don't feel a connection? Could you know that there was a child out there that shares your DNA and not feel a connection? Wouldn't you want to fight for that child? I think that you said that visitation was court ordered, if that is the case then he is not a man I would have children with if he was not fighting for that, for every second he was allowed to have that child. It says a lot about your moral character that you are choosing to have a child with him, that you are going to be the 3rd woman he has knocked up. Your lack of common sense and self-respect makes me sad.
He feels nothing for this child because he's not had the chance to be involved in her life. And the boyfriend of BM doesn't have ANY right to say that your DH can't be involved.
It seems to me that he doesn't need to worry about going to court to terminate parental rights... he should worry about going to court to get the visitation time that is owed to him. There's no reason that he can't start fostering a relationship with his daughter now. And you should be encouraging THAT, not the termination of parental rights.
I can't WAIT to see what Hind has to say. hehehehe