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If you were a fly on my bedroom wall last night..

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So last night I was so excited about my ewcm i jumped into bed and let DH know the deal :)

We proceeded to have sex when all of a sudden, he stopped and lost his h.o. I basically said "umm... whats the matter?" He said "i cant get comfortable".

I flipped out.... i know i shouldn't have..but ohhhh i did. I proceeded to tell him how uncomfortable it is fingering yourself every day to check your cm and cervix. How uncomfortable it is when you have a migraine headache due to the med's you have to take. How uncomfortable it is having a dr. stick a turkey baster in your ute. And how uncomfortable it is to try and fall back asleep after you wake up on your days off to take your temp.

Needless to say... 1/2 hour late we completed the task and he had nothing further to biitch about!

 

10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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    Well, there ya have it! lol...

    Glad you were able to get it done!

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  • AutumnBride102007AutumnBride102007 member
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    Well, there ya have it! lol...

    Glad you were able to get it done!

    Dont get me wrong...lol..i was balling my eyes out while yelling these things... I just think that the canceled iui this cycle on top of the failed clomid in addition to all the neg. opks... then that..i just lost it. 

    10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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  • sare_bearsare_bear

    oh my gosh.  I feel your pain!  Sometimes DH's just don't get it. 

    At least you were able to get the job done.

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  • maltwin1maltwin1 member

    Something about your post made me really want to stand up and applaude, but I know that if I had given that speech to DH he would have either been scared out of his mind or been very irritated at me.

    Congrats though!

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  • Kie310Kie310 member
    imagemaltwin1:

    Something about your post made me really want to stand up and applaude, but I know that if I had given that speech to DH he would have either been scared out of his mind or been very irritated at me.

    Congrats though!

    ?

    Mine too - but I'm glad it worked for you!!!?

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  • AutumnBride102007AutumnBride102007 member
    imagemaltwin1:

    Something about your post made me really want to stand up and applaude, but I know that if I had given that speech to DH he would have either been scared out of his mind or been very irritated at me.

    Congrats though!

    lol..at first he was very irritated with me...but i think once he had a few mins to really think about it, he felt bad. (and i felt bad for yelling)

    10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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  • Mrs CarrilloMrs Carrillo
    LMAO!  Thats funny that sounds like how I sounded the night I got home from my HSG.  My DH was being the biggest baby complaining about his back (which never hurts) and here I was with cramps, not to mention still in shock and depressed about finding out I have 2 freaking uteruses!  I laid the law down and told him that if I had to go through that then we were having sex every day for the next month, in hopes that I'm one of the lucky who gets KU after the HSG!  Yeah he didn't have a problem with that at all.  :)
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  • Rhonie82Rhonie82
    Interesting. If I even mentioned to DH we were having sex due to my cm he would stay limp forever and a day.
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  • AutumnBride102007AutumnBride102007 member

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    Interesting. If I even mentioned to DH we were having sex due to my cm he would stay limp forever and a day.

    lol... when we first started ttc, that was an issue for us. I had to 'act' like i just randomly wanted it..lol. fast forward 18 months... and here we are. lol

    10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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  • sazzettesazzette
    I gave that speech to DH twice. I told him that I know it's not easy for him to make it happen "on command" but he needed to figure out a way to make it work b/c I can't nor I feel I want to be all sexy every time. He's more understanding now. :)
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    imageMrs Carrillo:
    LMAO!  Thats funny that sounds like how I sounded the night I got home from my HSG.  My DH was being the biggest baby complaining about his back (which never hurts) and here I was with cramps, not to mention still in shock and depressed about finding out I have 2 freaking uteruses!  I laid the law down and told him that if I had to go through that then we were having sex every day for the next month, in hopes that I'm one of the lucky who gets KU after the HSG!  Yeah he didn't have a problem with that at all.  :)

    I don't mean to change the subject from the OP, and perhaps I missed an explaination of this at some point...but did you say you have two uteruses??? 

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  • AutumnBride102007AutumnBride102007 member
    imagemaltwin1:

    imageMrs Carrillo:
    LMAO!  Thats funny that sounds like how I sounded the night I got home from my HSG.  My DH was being the biggest baby complaining about his back (which never hurts) and here I was with cramps, not to mention still in shock and depressed about finding out I have 2 freaking uteruses!  I laid the law down and told him that if I had to go through that then we were having sex every day for the next month, in hopes that I'm one of the lucky who gets KU after the HSG!  Yeah he didn't have a problem with that at all.  :)

    I don't mean to change the subject from the OP, and perhaps I missed an explaination of this at some point...but did you say you had two uteruses??? 

    it's ok..i wondered the same...

    10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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  • Mrs CarrilloMrs Carrillo
    imageAutumnBride102007:
    imagemaltwin1:

    imageMrs Carrillo:
    LMAO!  Thats funny that sounds like how I sounded the night I got home from my HSG.  My DH was being the biggest baby complaining about his back (which never hurts) and here I was with cramps, not to mention still in shock and depressed about finding out I have 2 freaking uteruses!  I laid the law down and told him that if I had to go through that then we were having sex every day for the next month, in hopes that I'm one of the lucky who gets KU after the HSG!  Yeah he didn't have a problem with that at all.  :)

    I don't mean to change the subject from the OP, and perhaps I missed an explaination of this at some point...but did you say you had two uteruses??? 

    it's ok..i wondered the same...

    Yeah, I did say that.  And its ok thats the same exact thing I said to the doctor last Wednesday when I found out at my HSG.  Bicornuate uterus, thats what I have.  I put a post on here about it last Wednesday, but not too many people knew about what it was.  A few have sent me info. 

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    imagesazzette:
    I gave that speech to DH twice. I told him that I know it's not easy for him to make it happen "on command" but he needed to figure out a way to make it work b/c I can't nor I feel I want to be all sexy every time. He's more understanding now. :)

    I'm completely feeling your "can't nor I feel I want to be all sexy every time"!  Thank you to that one!  I've always been the one who wanted too much sex, but dang now that we're TTC its sucking the nympho out of me LOL!  You'd think it would be reverse. 

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    imageMrs Carrillo:
    imageAutumnBride102007:
    imagemaltwin1:

    imageMrs Carrillo:
    LMAO!  Thats funny that sounds like how I sounded the night I got home from my HSG.  My DH was being the biggest baby complaining about his back (which never hurts) and here I was with cramps, not to mention still in shock and depressed about finding out I have 2 freaking uteruses!  I laid the law down and told him that if I had to go through that then we were having sex every day for the next month, in hopes that I'm one of the lucky who gets KU after the HSG!  Yeah he didn't have a problem with that at all.  :)

    I don't mean to change the subject from the OP, and perhaps I missed an explaination of this at some point...but did you say you had two uteruses??? 

    it's ok..i wondered the same...

    Yeah, I did say that.  And its ok thats the same exact thing I said to the doctor last Wednesday when I found out at my HSG.  Bicornuate uterus, thats what I have.  I put a post on here about it last Wednesday, but not too many people knew about what it was.  A few have sent me info. 

    Wow...that is something I haven't heard before! Does this effect your fertility in any way? Like doubling your chances of getting pregnant perhaps?

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  • Mrs CarrilloMrs Carrillo
    imagemaltwin1:
    imageMrs Carrillo:
    imageAutumnBride102007:
    imagemaltwin1:

    imageMrs Carrillo:
    LMAO!  Thats funny that sounds like how I sounded the night I got home from my HSG.  My DH was being the biggest baby complaining about his back (which never hurts) and here I was with cramps, not to mention still in shock and depressed about finding out I have 2 freaking uteruses!  I laid the law down and told him that if I had to go through that then we were having sex every day for the next month, in hopes that I'm one of the lucky who gets KU after the HSG!  Yeah he didn't have a problem with that at all.  :)

    I don't mean to change the subject from the OP, and perhaps I missed an explaination of this at some point...but did you say you had two uteruses??? 

    it's ok..i wondered the same...

    Yeah, I did say that.  And its ok thats the same exact thing I said to the doctor last Wednesday when I found out at my HSG.  Bicornuate uterus, thats what I have.  I put a post on here about it last Wednesday, but not too many people knew about what it was.  A few have sent me info. 

    Wow...that is something I haven't heard before! Does this effect your fertility in any way? Like doubling your chances of getting pregnant perhaps?

    Sorry this is long.  I don't know how to re-start the quote thing.  Well the doctor said I can still get pregnant, just may be harder.  So he's referring me to a Specialist.  I have heard you can get pregnant in both uteruses at same time, but it is kind of rare.  The other obstacle for me is the crazy cycles I have.  I'm crossing my fingers and praying that its still possible though.  I feel like I took off on a tangent on AutumnBride's post.  :(  I'm sorry!  I hope you're not mad. 

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    imagesazzette:
    I gave that speech to DH twice. I told him that I know it's not easy for him to make it happen "on command" but he needed to figure out a way to make it work b/c I can't nor I feel I want to be all sexy every time. He's more understanding now. :)

    I'm completely feeling your "can't nor I feel I want to be all sexy every time"!  Thank you to that one!  I've always been the one who wanted too much sex, but dang now that we're TTC its sucking the nympho out of me LOL!  You'd think it would be reverse. 

    LOL

    I like sex but the TTC sex is not as fun and sometimes we look at each other like "again?" haha it's funny. I try to sexy it up sometimes but I seriously can't do it all the time :P 

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  • AutumnBride102007AutumnBride102007 member

    i'm so pissed! How dare you?!

    LOL!! Totally kidding!!!

    I dont mind at all :) i just wish you the best of luck!!!

    10-8-12: Grant is born!! Now a family of 5! 2-3-12: Totally unexpected BFP!! 12-10-10: Vera and Nora are born! *Beta#1(13dpFET):262*~ *Beta#2(20dpFET)4,835 TWINS!!!!!*~*Beta#3(@6wks)11,032 TRIPLETS!!!!! Baby A h/b: 109. Baby B h/b 112. Baby C h/b *praying* 4-6-10: FET (2 ET)....BFP 1-15-10: IVF (2 ET)..... BFN (1-28) 1-12-10: ER! 21 eggs! 10 to keep, 11 to donate :) 8-11-09: IUI #4 (FSH hCG) BFP .... 9-08: C/P 6-19-09: IUI #3 (FSH hCG) BFN 5-28-09: IUI #2 redo (FSH hCG) BFN 5-08-09: HSG: All clear! 4-21-09: IUI #2 canceled (clomid reaction) 4-1-09: IUI #1 (natural) BFN 9/08: S/A less than 5mil (10% mobile) -varicoseal surgery to fix...results worth it! 5/06: Endometriosis surgery 9/07: off of BCP A rejection is Gods protection. A dissapointment is His reappointment
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    imageMrs Carrillo:
    imagemaltwin1:
    imageMrs Carrillo:
    imageAutumnBride102007:
    imagemaltwin1:

    imageMrs Carrillo:
    LMAO!  Thats funny that sounds like how I sounded the night I got home from my HSG.  My DH was being the biggest baby complaining about his back (which never hurts) and here I was with cramps, not to mention still in shock and depressed about finding out I have 2 freaking uteruses!  I laid the law down and told him that if I had to go through that then we were having sex every day for the next month, in hopes that I'm one of the lucky who gets KU after the HSG!  Yeah he didn't have a problem with that at all.  :)

    I don't mean to change the subject from the OP, and perhaps I missed an explaination of this at some point...but did you say you had two uteruses??? 

    it's ok..i wondered the same...

    Yeah, I did say that.  And its ok thats the same exact thing I said to the doctor last Wednesday when I found out at my HSG.  Bicornuate uterus, thats what I have.  I put a post on here about it last Wednesday, but not too many people knew about what it was.  A few have sent me info. 

    Wow...that is something I haven't heard before! Does this effect your fertility in any way? Like doubling your chances of getting pregnant perhaps?

    Sorry this is long.  I don't know how to re-start the quote thing.  Well the doctor said I can still get pregnant, just may be harder.  So he's referring me to a Specialist.  I have heard you can get pregnant in both uteruses at same time, but it is kind of rare.  The other obstacle for me is the crazy cycles I have.  I'm crossing my fingers and praying that its still possible though.  I feel like I took off on a tangent on AutumnBride's post.  :(  I'm sorry!  I hope you're not mad. 

    So you could get pregnant again while you're pregnant.
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    imagesazzette:
    imageMrs Carrillo:

    imagesazzette:
    I gave that speech to DH twice. I told him that I know it's not easy for him to make it happen "on command" but he needed to figure out a way to make it work b/c I can't nor I feel I want to be all sexy every time. He's more understanding now. :)

    I'm completely feeling your "can't nor I feel I want to be all sexy every time"!  Thank you to that one!  I've always been the one who wanted too much sex, but dang now that we're TTC its sucking the nympho out of me LOL!  You'd think it would be reverse. 

    LOL

    I like sex but the TTC sex is not as fun and sometimes we look at each other like "again?" haha it's funny. I try to sexy it up sometimes but I seriously can't do it all the time :P 

    Yeah same here lol!  Thats funny.  :) 

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    imageAutumnBride102007:

    i'm so pissed! How dare you?!

    LOL!! Totally kidding!!!

    I dont mind at all :) i just wish you the best of luck!!!

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  • Mrs CarrilloMrs Carrillo
    imageAutumnBride102007:

    i'm so pissed! How dare you?!

    LOL!! Totally kidding!!!

    I dont mind at all :) i just wish you the best of luck!!!

    LOL.  Thank you!  GL to you too!  :)

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    imageMrs Carrillo:
    LMAO!  Thats funny that sounds like how I sounded the night I got home from my HSG.  My DH was being the biggest baby complaining about his back (which never hurts) and here I was with cramps, not to mention still in shock and depressed about finding out I have 2 freaking uteruses!  I laid the law down and told him that if I had to go through that then we were having sex every day for the next month, in hopes that I'm one of the lucky who gets KU after the HSG!  Yeah he didn't have a problem with that at all.  :)

    I don't mean to change the subject from the OP, and perhaps I missed an explaination of this at some point...but did you say you had two uteruses??? 

    it's ok..i wondered the same...

    Yeah, I did say that.  And its ok thats the same exact thing I said to the doctor last Wednesday when I found out at my HSG.  Bicornuate uterus, thats what I have.  I put a post on here about it last Wednesday, but not too many people knew about what it was.  A few have sent me info. 

    Wow...that is something I haven't heard before! Does this effect your fertility in any way? Like doubling your chances of getting pregnant perhaps?

    Sorry this is long.  I don't know how to re-start the quote thing.  Well the doctor said I can still get pregnant, just may be harder.  So he's referring me to a Specialist.  I have heard you can get pregnant in both uteruses at same time, but it is kind of rare.  The other obstacle for me is the crazy cycles I have.  I'm crossing my fingers and praying that its still possible though.  I feel like I took off on a tangent on AutumnBride's post.  :(  I'm sorry!  I hope you're not mad. 

    So you could get pregnant again while you're pregnant.

    Yes thats possible too.  But don't know how often it happens.

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  • illinigalillinigal member
    Well said.... if the guys only knew half of what we go through.  I hope the BP action gets the result you're hoping for.
    TTC #1 since October 2008. Dealing with MFI.
    IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
    IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
    IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
    Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
    IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
    Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
    Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
    IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
    IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
    ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer :(
    Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
    IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
    IVF #6 planned for Spring 2013. Praying for our take home baby/ies.
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  • *Bee**Bee*

    Come on people...seriously.  A bicornuate uterus is not two uteruses.  It is one uterus that is a different shape than "normal".  It is heart shaped.  So, no, it would not be possible to get pregnant twice.  And even if you did have two uteruses, you still couldn't get pregnant twice because the first pregnancy would send hormones through your body telling you not to ovulate anymore and so there could not be a second pregnancy. 

    I suggest you start asking your doctor what things mean before assuming it means something else.

    Or at least try google.

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  • Mrs CarrilloMrs Carrillo
    To anyone who wants to know more about it I would highly suggest looking for yourself to find out information.  There are a lot of terms used for mullerian anomalies and it can get confusing. 
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  • juietbridejuietbride member
    Indifferent Happy he was able to man up and finish his job!
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  • SparkyFuentesSparkyFuentes

    Hi there. ?I usually post on "trouble TTC" so forgive me for jumping into this conversation like a ninja. ?But I couldn't help being touched by your bedroom story. ?

    My DH and I are going through the same thing, and we are slowly finding that it's getting more and more difficult. ?At first, he said he didn't want me to tell him things like "I'm ovulating now! ?Let's have sex!" and I didn't. ?When the time was right, I had to just initiate sex and try to make it seem normal, lusty, and totally unrelated to babymaking. ?

    The problem was that I was such a good actress, and was so convincing in my fake nonchalant-ness, that he thought it was okay to turn me down if he wasn't quite in the mood. ?Or if he had somewhere to be and wanted a little extra time to get dressed or trim his nose hairs. ?Needless to say, this resulted in me getting incredibly mad and incredibly hurt on several occasions.?

    Then of course after I got mad and started either crying or yelling, his h.o. was history. ?We are on our 4th month of trying now and we have decided on a system. ?I am going to initiate sex when I need to and make sure that there is adequate time. ?He is going to work extra hard to do it when I say do it (without asking questions or pushing me away), but I am going to still avoid actually coming out and saying "hey, this is a potential fertile day - let's go!" ?The only indication that he will have is the calendar hanging on our fridge. ?I highlight all the days that I might sneak attack him as soon as I know what those days are. ?Then all he has to do is look at the calendar to know that he needs to NOT push me away, etc. ?

    I don't think that guys appreciate the physical and emotional stress that this causes us every month. ?Just keep in mind that they probably never will. ?Best to just come up with a simple system that he understands. ?

    Good luck to you! ?And sorry about the loooooong post.?

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