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stormi glam
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feel overwhelmed at night?
stormi glam
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I'm fine during the day but around 4 or 5 i start to get into this panic mode and get sad and feel like I'm not going to be able to handle things....But I do fine
When will the feeling go away? Is this "the baby blues" the nurse warned me about? I havnt cried and I dont really get sad unless Im frustrated, becasue I want to get to sleep
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Re: feel overwhelmed at night?
jesus christ you are 4 days postpartum, give it some time!!
I still feel that way sometimes. It gets progressively easier though. You'll get through it. The first 3 weeks it took everything I had not to take my staples out and shove her back in where she belonged. Thank god it gets better or I wouldn't have made it.
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It gets better I promise! I know we are not that much farther into this than you are, but I had those days at first too. You will figure out what works for you.
Just remember your main concern in your baby right now. Don't try to be supermom. Just sleep when baby does. If LO will only sleep on you, so be it!
This is normal. When DH went back to work after taking two weeks off to be home with me and the baby, I broke down crying and it was because I felt the same way, like I didn't know if I could take care of our daughter by myself when he's working grave shift.
It got better, especially when I had one of my friends come over to help. It will take a while but I think its just especially a little bit more overwhelming for first time moms.
So hang in there, you will do fine. But don't hesitate to say anything to DH or your doc either when things are just way too much.
I felt "nighttime anxiety" for a good 2 months. Sleep deprivation combined with the uncertainty that is being a new mother combined for some pretty bad anxiety.
It's better now, though. I am still sleep deprived, but not as bad, and I know that no matter what, we will make it through the night, and tomorrow is another day! Hang in there!
Are you talking about 4 or 5 in the afternoon? This is still the hardest part of the day for me. This is when sleep deprivation catches up with me and I want a nap really badly. I'm also thinking about all I want to get done before DH gets home. I do a lot better if I at least lay down for a little while. DS is a 45 min napper at best so I don't really have time to sleep but I get a snack, a drink of water and lay down for 30 min or so to try to regroup a little bit.
Your baby is still really young. Since you know this time is coming every day plan to lay down and relax for a little while whenever your LO goes down for a nap around this time. I don't do well with sleep deprivation and considered taking a nap as much of a requirement of being a good mom as changing DS's diapers at that age. Some days it still is!
For me, routine and organization is key. I would have felt the way you do if DS hadn't been born early and had to go to Newborn Intensive care. The nurses awesome teachers.
Our schedule is 3:00, 6:00, 9:00, 12:00 feedings. During the day time I BF and pump, then at night I bottle feed the milk I'd pumped earlier on in the day. But, if I don't have enough milk, I'll supplement with formula. It's not best for baby, but now and again is okay if it keeps my sanity. When done I get directly back to bed and force myself to sleep. Sometimes he'll let me sleep 4 hours between feedings at night, no complaints when that happens.
How often do you feed your LO? If you feed to often your baby will become a "grazer". This is something no parent wants. Your baby will be hungry ever hour and you will be miserable. You can force LO to be on a schedule.