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No names and no themes

ChelM1216ChelM1216
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I know I've said this before.  But I just find it thoroughly frustrating that DH hasn't really helped much with names.  We have Connor...maybe.  That's it nothing else.  The names I've come up with he just says "We'll see". Its irritating.  AND then when looking at baby stuff...nothing really jumps out at me.  With DS and with our twins, the stuff we had picked was like "YES! That's it!"  Now this time I feel like nothing really fits yet or seems to be what I want.  Not much point to this post I guess...just ranting.  Anyone else having a hard time finding the "perfect" whatever it might be...be it name or nursery design or color scheme?  20 weeks is coming on Saturday and I really am hoping to have a lot of this taken care of though by the end of the weekend.  I know we have time but still I am tired of the not knowing what we are doing yet part.  I want to focus on other things now, like baby showers and preparing for the baby.
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  • Rossi17Rossi17 member
    Could it be that both of you are a little non-chalant about this baby because of the loss you suffered last year? DH and I have been feeling the same way. I really don't care about the color of the nursery, the decorations, baby showers etc. It's not that I don't want to care, I feel like that stuff isn't important anymore. I just want a healthy baby in my arms, the rest are just details. We had names picked out a long time ago, so choosing a name wasn't hard. One thing that I have become excited about is our decision to use cloth diapers. I don't know why that has become the source of my giddiness about this baby, it's just weird. 
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  • ChelM1216ChelM1216

    imageRossi17:
    Could it be that both of you are a little non-chalant about this baby because of the loss you suffered last year?

    I've been dying to get these details set from the get go really.  I think its just been hard for DH and he has wanted to get to 20 weeks to really feel safer with everything.  Its just so hard to get him to buckle down because he gets defensive when I mention it at all.  I know he just doesn't want anything to happen after we truly commit to things but at this point if something were to happen, its out of our hands.  All we can do it hope and pray it doesn't come to that.  Doesn't mean this baby deserves any less than our previous ones.  Its hard on him I know but I am just ready to move past these things and be excited more about the pregnancy. I feel like I am the only one IRL that is truly excited...everyone else is so on edge.  I feel like...hell if I'm doing okay with it, then everyone else needs to relax a bit too...even if just for my sake and sanity.

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