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Childish and has nothing to do with pregnancy..Lol

So my fiance and I live together and we met on this site called "Mocospace". Kinda werid yea I know but anyways, he asked me to erase mine cuz I didn't need it anymore and I found what I was looking for so I did. I also had a myspace and still do, but I have it cuz thats the only way I can talk to my friends. I didn't know he had one till a couple months ago and I was ok with it even tho he hadn't been on it for a while and it said he was looking for that special someone. Until he told me to erase my myspace, so I told him I had and I really didn't I dont think its fair that he still has his myspace and mocospace and I can't have either to talk to my friends...Don't you find this a little weird and stupid? So now he thinks I don't have a myspace and mocospace which I do. Oh and he only logs on to them when i'm asleep or not here...And the only thing he does on there is look at his ex's pic which she's half naked in...I really think he's hiding something..What do you guys think I should do?

Re: Childish and has nothing to do with pregnancy..Lol

  • that's a toughie, my DH doesnt have any accounts like that but he hates that I do, he's always asking, who ya talking to etc. 

    i would be worried to especially since he is sneaky about it.  do you know how to check the history on your computer?  i would confront him about it. 

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  • I still think you are an AE and all of this is MUD, but WTE. No

    Yes, it sounds to me like he iis hiding something, but SO ARE YOU! You are lying to your fiance and if you want to start your marriage off by telling each other lies, then go ahead. But I think you need to have a serious talk with your fiance and confess to him. Maybe then he will be honest with you. 

     

  • If you have concerns you should be talking w/ your FI...not the ladies here. I'm sorry you are dealing w/ this but this is definitely something you two need to settle before the baby is here.
  • Dump him, sorry.  He sounds like a controlling, cheating DOG.
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  • Let me see if I have this correct - he doesn't want you having myspace or the otehr site because ??? - did he give you a reason? Is it because he thinks you will do something inappropriate on it? Umm - if so, it is because he would do something inappropriate like oh I don't know - look at naked ex girlfriends on there. So now you lie to him and tell him you don't have it, but you still do? Is that correct?

    Sounds to me that neither of you are mature enough to be in a commited relationship. Sorry, harsh but true. 

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  • I think you have two options:

    The hard one is - talk to him about it! LOL. I know it may be uncomfortable but you have to. Besides, look at it as training. When you're married and when the little one comes - you'll have really important hard stuff to talk about and this conversation will seem small in comparison!

    The easier one: Hack his account LOL

     I'm sure if he knows that you're uncomfortable with him having those accounts while he says that you can't have them he'll either say you can reopen your account (not hard to do haha) or close his. If he gets all defensive and says "it's different" then you may have to pry a lttle bit to find out what's really going on.

     I had this happen to me once and it was a really tough conversation...

     

    Best of luck!

  • how long have you two been together sounds like he is trying to control you! i had an ex try to do that kind of stuff and i didnt let him get away with it i thought it was ridiculous cuz he didnt mind that i had those thing until after i agreed to marry him then he tried to take my friends away from me, and tried getting me not to go see my family i saw red flags lifting everywhere and didnt want to go through that! so i think if you look at some of the other things he does (observe very carefully) your answere will become suddenly clear!
  • Yea I always check it after he gets off the computer thats how I know he looks at his ex's pics.I have confronted him about it and he says that its not him...Or he was sending a message to his cousin who isn't even on his myspace..So yea i'm worried...I don't know what to do.
  • You can't change him, only yourself. Kick him to the curb and release you deserve better!
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    After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
    My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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  • www.babygaga.com

    The girls there have excellent advice.

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  • imagedori1678:

    I still think you are an AE and all of this is MUD, but WTE. No

    Yes, it sounds to me like he iis hiding something, but SO ARE YOU! You are lying to your fiance and if you want to start your marriage off by telling each other lies, then go ahead. But I think you need to have a serious talk with your fiance and confess to him. Maybe then he will be honest with you. 

     

    this-

    and also what jennybeams said-

    they said it perfectly!

  • Sounds like he may be hiding something, but you are not telling him the truth either.  Maybe you two should sit down and have a serious talk.  Good luck!!
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  • imageheather_09_15_07:

    www.babygaga.com

    The girls there have excellent advice.

    I agree with this.

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  • imageheather_09_15_07:

    www.babygaga.com

    The girls there have excellent advice.

    This.

    And grow up, you and your FI. You're going to be someone's parents.

  • Well thanks for everyone's suggestions I defenitly have some thinking to do...=] 
  • imagegigglez178:
    Yea I always check it after he gets off the computer thats how I know he looks at his ex's pics.I have confronted him about it and he says that its not him...Or he was sending a message to his cousin who isn't even on his myspace..So yea i'm worried...I don't know what to do.

    So you get up outta bed to check it?? I thought he only does it when your asleep?? Confused

  • imagesara_smile:
    imageheather_09_15_07:

    www.babygaga.com

    The girls there have excellent advice.

    This.

    And grow up, you and your FI. You're going to be someone's parents.

    she already is a parent- there's a scary thought!!

     

  • No I take little naps and when I wake up he's always the last one on the computer so thats how I know...
  • sounds like my hb.  he hates it when i check my myspece ( maybe once a month) but he still has his.

     

    I say tell your man where to stick it :) thats what i do now. and quite frankly it works alot better.

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