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How many trade time?

sdc81sdc81 member
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There seem to be a lot of posts about custody and who-gets-what-time lately.

Just wondering if anyone else out there trades time? As in, BP takes your SC for a week when you & DH/DW are supposed to have the SC 4 days... so when the BP gets back, you get four extra days to amke up for the missed time?

Frequently, we trade time with my SS's BM in order to allow her to vacation with him, or for us to bring him somewhere. It seems like we're the only people that do that whom I know of, and I was just wondering -- is it really that foreign a concept, or are there really just *that many* BP's that remain so resentful & therefore uncooperative?...

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  • mom2onemom2one member
    Ex and I rarely follow our CO...we trade time to make sure DS gets to participate in any activity at either house...only on weekends though.
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  • KyahKyah member
    We trade time. Actually, what usually ends up happening is we take SS more because BM has something going on. Once in a while she asks to take him somewhere on a normal visitation day, and if its feasible we'll have SS on a different day. Sometimes we just miss a day too. It pretty much evens out. That is one thing BM is really great about imo, she never tries to keep her son from his dad.
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  • MissSusieQMissSusieQ member
    We trade time. Sometimes BM takes advantage of DH though because he doesn't always look at a calendar. But we do trade time.
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  • Mrs.Astros_FanMrs.Astros_Fan
    We rarely follow the CO.  Ex is a pilot and his schedule is different every month.  If we went by the CO, he's rarely get to see DD.
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  • frklsbridefrklsbride member
    we trade time.  bm has started law school so we have switched some stuff around to accommodate her class schedule.
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  • taagenttaagent member
    We make up time and if there is an event work it out so SD gets to go and the parent whose time is lost gets it back.  I don't look at it as trading really but I suppose that it is.  BM fights more about it than anything.  It seems that when she has an event and wants her to go there is no offer of making it up but when the opposite happens she freaks out.  It never seems to be very even unfortunately. 
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  • SaranSaran member
    We trade all the time. If BM has to work we keep the kids and they'll go back early or if her or our family comes to town we switch days or just let the other one keep the kids so they can spend time with their family on both sides.
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  • FthtrstnpxiedstFthtrstnpxiedst
    We no longer trade time with BM because she started taking advantage of it.  She would delibrately plan things on DH's weekend expecting us to say yes because we had in the past regarding sport team parties and things like that, but when she started planning personnal things on DH's weekends every month we had to put a stop to it.  We haven't switched weekends in almost 2 years.  We recently agreed to a weekend trade in June because she wants to take one of her uninterrupted vacation weeks during our weekend so we ended up switching for the weekend before because it is Father's Day.
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  • snarkisthenewblacksnarkisthenewblack
    we have traded time in the past, like last year mother's day fell on our weekend and father's day fell on hers, so we just swapped those two weekends. we prefer not to if possible because there have been times that she tried end up giving dh less time with the skids. we have no problem taking them for extra time though if she is going out of town or something.
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  • PhantomgirlPhantomgirl member

    We rarely follow the court order and basically just work it out as things come up.  It stands that SS misses very little as both SO and BM are very accommodating. 

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  • Mrs.H.Mrs.H.

    We do it when necessary.

    We may have a family event we want SS to be with us at. BM has no problem with trading a weekend or what ever.

    The same goes on her end. If she has the opportunity to do something with her son and it is our time with him, we just swap it out.

    It is about the CHILD.

     

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  • justslidejustslide

    We trade from time to time.  Swap weekends here and there as needed.  SD's BM is actually pretty easy to work with and can be fairly flexible. 

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