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Husband's mom refusing to talk to him... what do you think?
The last time we heard from her, was well over a month ago, when she said she'd come down "sometime after Easter". I know she's alright, because I talk to my SIL who still lives at home, and I'm pretty sure she'd mention if their mom was in the hospital or something.
She wanted our son aborted though, and I think she still doesn't forgive my husband for 'letting' me keep our little guy. We still haven't told them about #2.
My husband just got a new job, all the details have been worked out as of two weeks ago. He keeps on trying t contact his mom to tell her, but she is not answering the phone, nor returning his calls. I said to just tell his sister, but he's really hurt about his mom ignoring him or whatever it is she's doing, so he wants to wait. He starts next Monday though. 
I really do not like my in-laws that much, and would really prefer they NOT be here when my husband is at work. They did this to me LAST night they were here, and only stayed around to toss my son around (he was two weeks old and they had no idea how to hold him even...) then LEFT when my husband got home. What the hell? THey only actually visited with my husband on their last day, because it happened to be a weekend. 
They better show up here on a weekend this time, not in the week. Arrrrgh.
But... any insights on why she's maybe ignoring him? I'd ask her myself, but we only have the one phone and I don't think I can block my number from the cellphone, or I would. This is so stupid.
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Re: Husband's mom refusing to talk to him... what do you think?
She sounds like a psychopath. Anyone who told me I should have aborted DD would be STFU right quick.
It sounds like she is jerking you guys around because she can - so don't let her. If she wants to act like a child and avoid his calls, then she can (and probably will) sulk later when she doesn't know about the new job.
As for a visit - I would keep her as far away from my home as possible, it sounds like nothing but chaos and stress. Sorry you have to deal with that! And sorry for your H too, I know it must weigh on him.
She wanted you to abort your baby? How the Hell could she ever possibly think that is her business or even if she thought that, she should ever verbalize it.
Write this beyotch off. Grrrrrrr.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
Yeah... she started to cry and howled how we were ruining our lives by having a baby and how we should abort. Sad thing is, my littlest sister's grandma (different dad) did the exact same thing to my mom. Crazy people everywhere.
The worst of it though... is that she knew I had 2 miscarriages (I actually had 3, but she knows about two) and that I was worried I'd never carry to term. I think she was secrelty hoping I never would.
Hold the phone, you've got to explain this one and be honest about it, please.
Ditto this and ditto Jessibell.
was he not pissed off she wanted you to abort? i understand wanting to be close to family, but holy crap she sounds like a psychopath.
i have no suggestions as to why she would be ignoring him, as i don't know your situation, but she sounds like a drama llama. maybe if he stops trying, she'll feel ignored and contact him. you know, the whole reverse psychology thing.
sorry, that's all i've got. good luck!
this. you should be thanking your lucky stars.
The real issue here is why your DH can't see that this isn't a healthy relationship for him to have.
This shouldn't be about his Mom. It should be about him.
Thanks all. I'm more worried about my husband's well being than this woman being in our lives, obviously. It's just hard to shut her out when he values family so much.
A squeaky little boy just woke up so I guess we're going to go on a walk so I can just relax and not think about her stupid self for a while.
If I was in your position, I would have to have a discussion with my DH about MIL's impact on our family. I wouldn't sacrifice being treated with respect for any relationship, and I would have a hard time watching DH make that choice. I'd be pretty adamant about him having a discussion with his mom if maintaining a relationship with her was important to him. Her behavior just isn't normal, and it certainly isn't healthy for your family. It sounds like you're in a tough situation with all this. GL
ditto. i feel bad for your h for having a loony for a mother, but you're probably better off without her!
Why on Earth did she want you to abort your LO?
I'm sorry, I don't have any insight into this situation. It sounds like a personal thing on her part that a rational person can't figure out.