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Anyone having a surprise baby?

Last night DH came clean that he really wants to be surprised with the sex of the baby.  I've always just assumed that we would find out, since DH never really feels strongly one way or the other and goes along for the most part.  Well, I don't think he's going to let this one drop.  He sent me a text this morning saying that I should keep thinking about it. 

I feel like there are so many women on here that find out - just curious if there are any who are waiting to find out?!?!   Has it been really difficult for you??  I'm wondering if we could compromise and have it put into a sealed envelope in case by month 7 I "need" to know  ha ha 

Re: Anyone having a surprise baby?

  • We are not finding out.  I already had several u/s and I know the tech can tell - but I just tell her at the start of the scan that I do not want to know, this way she does not let it slip.

    It does not bother me at all not to know, I am excited for the surprise :)

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  • Dh wants to know and I don't. I am secretly hoping that the baby is very shy at the big u/s apt so we can't find out what he/she is.

    There is no way that they could only tell dh and not me. He can't keep a secret at all so I would end up finding out shortly after!

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  • At first we wanted to be surprised, but now that the whole thing is "real" to both of us, I want to know everything about my baby ASAP. I can't make it a full 9 months, 20 weeks is enough for  me lol
  • We chose to keep it a surprise and it made the delivery even more special.  Something about that huge element of surprise was really exciting!!  And it make the aniticipation that much greater.  Neither of us was ever tempted to find out ahead of time.
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  • H and I haven't decided yet. There are benefits to both. Planning ahead if you know. Being so excited at delivery if you don't. Being able to call her by name if you know, not being presured about names if you don't...

    We have a while to decide and I hate surprises normally, so we probably will end up taking a peak in the end =) 

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    We chose to keep it a surprise and it made the delivery even more special.  Something about that huge element of surprise was really exciting!!  And it make the aniticipation that much greater. 

    ABSOLUTELY! although I was tempted at times I'm sooooo glad we waited. what a truly amazing gift after hours of pushing and a terrible delivery "it's a girl!" one of the best moments of my life.

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    We have decided to wait for a delivery surprise. I was certain about not finding out from the very beginning and DH was very inclined to find out - so much so that he would "peek" when the u/s tech would tell us to look away. He has since come to terms and now says that he is happy we didn't ruin the surprise. We haven't had any problems preparing because I would never have any pink/blue overload regardless.I picked out items that are neutral in the opes of having a second baby down the line. It's obviously an amazing experience either way, but I have only heard wonderful things from parents who wait to find out ... they still gush about that moment when baby's sex was revealed. Good luck with your decision!
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    We did not find out with DS and we won't be finding out with this one either!

    We LOVED the surprise! I didn't get "itchy" about it until the latter part of my PG :) It was hard waiting, but I really wanted that surprise in the delivery room! It was really neat when DH went out to the waiting room and made the announcement to our families.....we also kept our names a secret, so there were a lot of "announcements" the day he was born!

    We can't wait to do it again with this one :)

    GL!

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  • I always thought that I would want to find out. I am such a planner! But, ever since I got pregnant (and was easily persuaded by DH) I don't want to find out. I think it's going to be the greatest surprise ever.
  • Thank you all so much for your thoughts!!  Reading your comments actually makes me excited about waiting and like someone said - having a real treat after going through labor.  Thanks so much - I'll keep you posted on what we decide.  Smile
  • We aren't finding out. Our BIG US was last week and we had our eyes closed at the appropriate times. 
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  • I have had 10 ultrasounds with this pregnancy & an amnio (so I could find out with 100% accuracy!) & we are committed to keeping it a surprise.  We figured that not finding out is the only this we have control over in this pregnancy, so we are waiting!  Seems to be an unpopular choice though, especially on The Bump.
  • We didn't find out and now that ship has sailed since my OB says no more ultrasounds for me.  I'm honestly ok with it.  It was DH's decision and something he felt strongly about and it surprised me since he's usually laid back about everything.  It was tough during the weeks when people near me in pregnancy were able to come on here and post "It's a ..." posts but then it just went away and now I'm sort of zen about how each day brings us closer to knowing. 

     We couldn't decide on final names anyways so we have a list of at least 2 girls names and 3 boys names we'll pick from, our nursery was always going to be more modern and less cutesy themed so there was no problem in picking furniture and artwork and crib bedding, and with the exception of baby clothes we've found lots of fun things to register for that don't scream boy or girl, so it is possible to do it and still plan for everything that you want and don't want.  GL!

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  • DH and I agreed a long time ago that we didn't want to find out the sex, so it hasn't really been an issue for us. I'm sure as I get farther along, it will become more difficult, but I am honestly happy to wait.
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