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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
I know people mean well, but...
...this particular comment is starting to get under my skin.
"How old is she?"
"6 months."
"Oh my goodness, she's so small!"
Um, I'm the one who obsesses over her, sometimes weighing her everyday if I don't think she's gaining enough. I'm the one who obsesses over every little ounce and bite. I'm the one who moves her into the next clothing size before she's really ready, as if I can will her to grow. I'm the one who cried in the OR when they told me she was under 5 lbs. I'm the one who felt like a failure, because I thought I did something "wrong" to cause her to gain weight slowly.
But I didn't notice she was so small, so thanks for telling me.
Ugh, I know people mean well, but can't they just say she's cute and leave it at that?
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Re: I know people mean well, but...
She IS cute!
Relax, girl. There is no "normal" size baby. Some days my DD is called skinny, others chunky. People just don't know better. It is not meant as an offense on your parenting and it does not mean they are saying your DD is malnourished. She's just petite and there's nothing wrong with that. As long as you know you are feeding her, don't worry about it! Stop obsessing, you'll only drive yourself crazy.
I am with you.
Signed,
Mom of a 26", 16# 10 month old.
**oops, she's 16#, not 15.
I'm sorry, I don't think people really think before they make comments. How much does she weigh now? DS is actually small for his age and everyone comes up and tells me how big he is! I don't understand... his weight is between the 10-25% not really a big boy.
Your DD is adorable by the way
Ugh that is annoying. People say stupid things. Why do they have to comment on size at all?
She is perfect the way she is
She's freaking adorable.
I get the opposite "Geez, what are you feeding her!"
People just suck is all.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
:-( I have tears in my eyes.
I know how you feel, and HATE that people speak before they think.
I have a different situation (people asking about BFing), but it seems to have very similarly affected me. I (and the nurses) tried EVERYTHING to make it work, but DD wouldn't take to it. I still feel the guilt, even though I did nothing wrong.
Maybe you should play the sarcasm card in the future (if you haven't already)? "Really? Most people tell me she's big for her age" or something like that. Then they'll stop and think (hopefully!) and question their knowledge.
Good luck to you, and keep up the good work with your beautiful daughter!
She's 12 lbs 3 oz. and 23.5"
I just realized our LO's are the same age!!!
And both super cute!
Thanks!!!
Just like some of the other posters said, I can get the opposite comments on the same day - "Oh my! Your LO is HUGE!" or "She's 6 months? Wow, she's so tiny!"
I guess it's all a matter of what they're used to in their own lives. For example, DD is in the 50th% for weight and 75th - 90th% for height. To me, she looks like a normal-sized baby, but she's HUGE compared to the two infants in her daycare class. They're both 9 months and look like she did at 3 months. Their parents make comments to me that DD is a very large baby. I want to shoot back and say that their children are just very small, but I know how it hurts to hear anything negative like that, so I shut up.
I wish everyone was that way. Regardless of what end of the spectrum your LO is on, it's not easy to hear either way (too fat, too skinny, too big, too small). Oy!
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I'm sorry. I know how difficult it is when you are hoping for a weight gain and don't get one. We had 3 pedi appointments where ds either gained no weight or had lost. We struggled with feeding issues for awhile. Now ds is chunky! (or I think so, he's actually 50th percentile - but he was so low he wasn't on the chart for awhile). The worst was when people would give me advice about how to make him gain weight, as if I wasn't trying whatever my pedi suggested.?
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She is so cute!
My DD is about the same age and the same weight - we hear all the time how tiny she is, and we just roll our eyes and move on.
I do worry sometimes, but she is active and happy so I try not to worry.
FWIW, DD#1 has been in the 5th-10th percentile for height and weight since birth. She is now 6 and is still wearing 4T-5T clothes. I heard it ALL the time. It is much worse now that she is in kindergarten with 6 yr olds that are a normal size. I feel badly for her because kids try to pick her up a lot and she's constantly saying "Put me down!!" poor kid
Hopefully it pays off later in life...although she's not coordinated enough for gymnastics or cheerleading...yet...LOL
Holy crap. MIRANDALEE!!! Hi!!
I don't know what it is, but as soon as there is a baby involved people feel the need to comment about everything. She's too hot, to cold, needs socks, doesn't want socks, hungry, thirsty, big, small, blah, blah.
My dd was 2 months premature. I have just started telling the random strangers that ask that she's younger than she really is otherwise I get the "why is she so small". When I tell them they proceed to give me their expert opinion on my pregnancy...lol