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Is it strange?

edimleredimler
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that I am thrilled beyond belief for regs here to get BFPs, betas, U/S, etc. and yet it's hard to be as happy for some of those I know IRL.

am I a horrible person? anyone else feel this way?

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  • AdamsWife08AdamsWife08
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    am I a horrible person? anyone else feel this way?

    No this does not make you a horrible person.  I feel releived when a reg get her BFP, because we know what most of the girls on here have gone through to get that positive.  IRL, we have no idea how long they tried, if they struggled, etc....  Most people just assume it happens right away and don't talk about if they tried to however long.

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  • MoonBaby123MoonBaby123 member

    I don't think so. I feel the same way, although I'm not sure why either?

    Maybe it's because we are exposed to each other's intimate TTC journeys, where as with others we are not? Making us more sentimental for each other's successes?

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  • Kie310Kie310 member

    I don't think that makes you a bad person - I don't even know how I will feel the first time that someone IRL tells me they are PG - I hasn't happened since we have seriously started trying. I hope I can be happy, but who knows!

    But as for the girls here, as they get their BFPs I'm so excited! Maybe because we hear about the ins & outs, whereas IRL you don't?

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  • Mrs. BZMrs. BZ
    No, I feel the same way...its almost like I know the "regs" better.
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  • LOVEDBYDLOVEDBYD
    No you're not a horrible person. I feel the same way. The regulars that post their betas, u/s pics and other issues keep me hopeful and sometimes takes my mind off my unexplained IF.
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  • Rubys_MomRubys_Mom

    First, Hi Em!  How the heck are ya??

    Second, no you are not a horrible person!  I am the same way! 

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  • edimleredimler
    thanks ladies. I'm trying to understand my own feeling about this. You all made good points that we do know the ins and outs of each others journey and that's not always the case IRL. Thanks for the insight.
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  • MSC03MSC03 member

    You are most certainly not a bad person! I think it's totally normal.

    I think online friends also have the advantage of very limited history together, so there's no jealous/competitiveness. We only know each other as people in the same boat, so we are more easily able to see ourselves in each other.

    Did that make a lick of sense?

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  • wlknsnlrnwlknsnlrn
    No. I know what they have gone through to get a BFP. IRL people don't talk about it much.
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  • edimleredimler
    imageMrsSummitCounty:

    I think online friends also have the advantage of very limited history together, so there's no jealous/competitiveness. We only know each other as people in the same boat, so we are more easily able to see ourselves in each other.

    Did that make a lick of sense?

    you are wise. mwah!

    thanks ladies. I've been feeling guilty about how I felt yesterday when a co-worker/friend announced she was PG. I tried to rationalize that I was having a stressful day and that put me over the top but when I was honest with myself, I was jealous.

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  • tct1219tct1219 member
    imageAdamsWife08:
    imageedimler:

    am I a horrible person? anyone else feel this way?

    No this does not make you a horrible person.  I feel releived when a reg get her BFP, because we know what most of the girls on here have gone through to get that positive.  IRL, we have no idea how long they tried, if they struggled, etc....  Most people just assume it happens right away and don't talk about if they tried to however long.

    i agree with this. plus, i think because we're all in the same boat on here, it's not like real life people who are more judgmental and don't really know what you're going through.
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