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Things have gone from bad to worse

I'm going to try to be as brief as possible. My sister was outside and she called the landline telling my mom something and mom went out. She left the door cracked so I could hear shouting. It was something about the neighbor's daughter and her dog and my sister cussing at the girl. I don't know. My mom and the lady were arguing and having some colorful words when I got out. I only went b/c the lady had a bat and looked like she was stepping towards my mom with it. They went back and forth for a while and I caught the lady making some contradictory statements and told her so. My mom said some more "things" to her and walked off. I told the woman that she handled it wrong and should have knocked on our door as my mom had said. I told her they were acting just the way they said my sist & her daughter were and weren't setting any kind of example of them or the kids standing around watching. She said I was right and she understood my point. Even more so, my sister and this girl are 20 and 19 and should be handling this themselves.

I walked off (as my mom started yelling at me to stop talking to her) and mom was talking to another neighbor cussing and being loud. My sis had brought A out and I told my mom to stop talking in front of her like that. I should have just taken her in and said nothing. Then mom started telling me to shut up and cussing at me. We went round and round about something else and she bristled up at me and told me if I didn't like it I could get out. I told her I wished I could. Then she started towards me and I said she was acting ignorant ... she told me to take my "half-white acting ass on." I snapped and told her to shut the F up. I started in and she closed the door and locked it on me. When I told her I needed my keys she said she would give them to me and I said to give me A and her shoes. Then I changed my mind and told her I wasn't leaving. Do you know what she did? Went into the kitchen and got the butcher knife. Yeah, how's that for motherly love.

I had my sister get my laptop and A's shoes b/c I never grabbed them and I left. I'm at my sister's and I talked to my friend on the way here. A and my sister went for a ride b/c I was still agitated. My sister was going over there to talk to her but I started crying and begging her not to get in the middle of it. I don't know what to do. I have to get a good job asap b/c I have to get out of there. The timeline and plan I made over the weekend is shot to hell. I really don't want to go back there. I hate my life.

 Yeah, so... that so wasn't brief.

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Re: Things have gone from bad to worse

  • oh, honey, that is awful. ?You need OUT of that situation. ?((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))
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  • Oh Belle.

    I wish I was near you so I could give you a big hug.

     

  • Wow, I'm really sorry {{{hugs}}} That is no place for you and for A. I hope that you are able to get out of there on a permanent basis sooner rather than later.
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  • I've got nothing but ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) and I agree, it sounds like you need to get out of there NOW. ?Sending prayers your way, belle. ?I hope things start getting better for you. ?Hang in there!
  • ah hon, I am sorry.  that sucks.  try to go to sleep.  you need to get yourself out of that situation.  you can sort things out in the morning.  you are too heated now.

  • Oh man, I have not followed all of your story because I have not been around a lot lately.  But ((hugs)) to you and I really hope it gets better for you guys really soon!
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  • OMG.  How do you feel about NoVA?  We have a lot more house than we need...come here.  That's just freaking insane.


    I am so sorry that you have to deal with this.

  • ***. I forgot the even better part. On my way here she had my sister call me to check on A. I said she was fine and looking at the local attraction we were passing. She said mom was telling me to bring A home and I let her know I didn't want to come home. She then told my sister she was going to report me for child endangerment (b/c I was driving upset). Um, anyone remember my dream/nightmare post from this a.m. that A was taken from me? My heart fell to my feet even though I knew it was an empty threat.
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  • How scary. That is a toxic relationship. Hugs!
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  • OMG hun, I'm sorry. You really need to get out of there ASAP.

  • I am so sorry Belle. I would be frustrated as well. Sad

    From what I know of you, you are a beautiful person inside and out and I will be saying some prayers for you that you can get control of your life and have things start working in your benefit. You can get through this. You're strong and capable. Just try to be postive and hopefully you can figure out where to go from here. ((((HUGS))))

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    ***. I forgot the even better part. On my way here she had my sister call me to check on A. I said she was fine and looking at the local attraction we were passing. She said mom was telling me to bring A home and I let her know I didn't want to come home. She then told my sister she was going to report me for child endangerment (b/c I was driving upset). Um, anyone remember my dream/nightmare post from this a.m. that A was taken from me? My heart fell to my feet even though I knew it was an empty threat.

    that is SOO low!

  • Good lord. I'm so, so sorry. I hope you're okay and that you can take some time to figure things out.

    (((((((((((hugs))))))))))) my sweet belle!

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  • ((((hugs)))) ?

    I'm sorry you're dealing with this. You are incredible strong and will get through! And I hope you can get out of there sooner rather than later. ?

  • I'm sorry you are going through this, I hope things get better. 
  • Y'all my poor baby was telling my sister, "grandma locked the door and mommy couldn't get in." What kind of mom am I to let her see this stuff? I feel so awful...

    Thanks Co. I just might have to take you up on it. A would love to see B.

    Thanks. I'm trying. I really am.

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  • (((hugs)))  I am so sorry.  Don't go back, do what you can, but don't go back.  GL and I'm so sorry.
  • Belle, you're a good mom who obviously puts her daughter first. Don't let your mom scare you. I've seen ordeals like that when I was little; A will be fine...she knows you love her and will protect her. ((((hugs))))
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    Y'all my poor baby was telling my sister, "grandma locked the door and mommy couldn't get in." What kind of mom am I to let her see this stuff? I feel so awful...

    Honey, it wasn't YOU who did that. It was your mom. However, it sounds like it's time to get the flock out of there. For your sake and A's sake.

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  • You're doing the best you can.  You need to get out of there.  It's not a good place for you and your daughter.  Keep doing the best you can.  I can't believe she pulled out a butcher's knife.... ((hugs))
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  • OMG Belle you poor thing (and poor A). If only you could come to Australia - she can't get over here in a hurry I bet. A and DS would get on like a house on fire.

    I really hope you can move out permanently very very soon. Hang in there. 

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