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Q: Is it possible to be offended...

EMTXEMTX member
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When someone asks you if you are pregnant (if you are)?

A few months ago I would have said no way, my reasoning being I'd be thrilled to be pregnant, and excited that something about me changed enough to prompt someone to ask me this.

Answer: YES, it is possible to be offended. Girl at the office who I don't know particularly well asked me flat out if I was pregnant.

I was shocked, and thought she was the rudest B alive. WHO, I beg of you, asks? Isn't this an unspoken rule between women?

Haha... Crying

I think she felt like an ass when I had to admit that yes, I am, and that I am not yet 11 weeks.


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Re: Q: Is it possible to be offended...

  • LovinTim912LovinTim912
    This comedian I like (Brian Regan) has a whole skit about that. ?His rule is never, ever, ever, ever, ever, everrrrrr guess at that!!! So true! ?I remember once someone asked my sister if she was pregnant, and she so was not... just chunky. ?Eek!
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  • HapPapFamHapPapFam
    I think it is rude to ask someone, maybe they just put on a lil weight?? you never know. I dont say anything unless I know for sure that person has announced their news. 3 people this week have asked me if I plan on having any more kids, I just kinda of shrug and say, yeah eventually...lol We are waiting until next week before saying anything, so I wish ppl would just Back Off..lol
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  • cleigh11cleigh11 member
    To be honest, even if a woman is in her 3rd trimester and is showing, I STILL don't ask.  You just never know!  So, I am in the camp of "Yes" you can be offended!!
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  • uvalori85uvalori85

    I'm overweight and one day when I was getting lunch at Wendy's I was starving so I rubbed my stomach to get it to shut up. And these two construction workers in line asked me when I was due.

    I politely explained (with a laugh) that I wasn't pregnant, just fat. You should have seen the looks on their faces.

     

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  • Meredith ShawMeredith Shaw member

    imagecleigh11:
    To be honest, even if a woman is in her 3rd trimester and is showing, I STILL don't ask.  You just never know!  So, I am in the camp of "Yes" you can be offended!!

    I'm the same way! Unless I KNOW you're pregnant, I don't ask. What if she had the baby 2 months ago but still have that "look"? I'm not going there!

     On the day that we closed on our house last year, I wore this super cute cropped jacket (you know, the flowy, loose ones), and the lawyer-lady looked at me and said, "Congratulations! A new house AND a new baby! When are you due?" Ugh. No, moron, it's just the style of the jacket. Needless to say, I haven't worn that jacket since.

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  • oregontechmomoregontechmom member
    I was thin in early college (5'10", 150 lbs) and happened to be wearing a suit jacket to work (department store) that had a tie around the waist.  Some woman walked up to me while on her phone for me to check her out.  I was ringing up her items and she asked me how far along I was.  She assumed I was pregnant because my jacket had a tie around the waist (or so she said).  I was so shocked and offended I mumbled that I wasn't pregnant, then had to take my break after she left because I could barely speak, I was so embarassed.  People are stupid.  She didn't even apologize when I told her I wasn't expecting.
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  • jessloveschase08jessloveschase08

    Well, I'm showing a little bit and I was in subway and a couple of frat guys said "Yeah she only needs the 6 inch. But maybe the Jared diet will work for that belly poking out." I cried in the middle of subway. Then I called them douchebags and told them I was pregnant.

     I didn't even think I was fat, I just have a little bit more belly than I used to...

    I did get a gree pack of apples though :D

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  • chrystaleighchrystaleigh
    Yes, I think it is very rude to ask, not to add that it is none of their business. I had someone from work ask me that question today too.
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  • Temp6313048411121614Temp6313048411121614 member

    imageLovinTim912:
    This comedian I like (Brian Regan) has a whole skit about that.  His rule is never, ever, ever, ever, ever, everrrrrr guess at that!!! So true!  I remember once someone asked my sister if she was pregnant, and she so was not... just chunky.  Eek!

    I LOVE him.  When's that baaaaaaby coming (the baby from the zoo)?

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  • nadiarlnadiarl member

    YES! unless you are 7 months + and there is no reason to doubt.

     

    If you have to ask.... DON'T

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