Mommies come in: Baby Blues?

KariChadDora · April 2009

Did any of you all experience would you would call baby blues? If so, how long did they last?

I have been in tears every day since coming home from the hospital, usually 2-3 times a day... for the silliest little things and I am so sick of it. I hate crying and I know I am being totally irrational. The worse part has been the last 3 days, my DH has been out of town on a business trip and so baby and I are flying solo. Every day my mom or grandma have came over and stayed for 5-6 hours mid-day to keep my company and give me a hand, but the second they walk out the door I get completely panic stricken. Which I feel so stupid about because everything is going JUST FINE... I probably have one of the world's easiest babies and nothing has gone wrong, but yet I can't help but sit here and cry over the thought of being alone with the baby all evening/night. It's driving me crazy because I feel like I should be enjoying just spending time curled up on the couch with Cal on my chest since I have absolutely nothing else I need/have to do, but yet I can't shake this horrible, horrible anxiety, thus keeping me in tears all evening. It's so annoying!

StephanieBride1 · April 2009

Yes, I definitely had baby blues. Mine actually turned into PPD, so just keep tabs on yourself and if it doesn't go away after 2-3 weeks talk to your doctor. You can pm me anytime if you'd like.

tri047 · April 2009

Still not a mommy yet Kari, but I wanted to say that I'm sorry. I am sure you are doing a great job!

princess101 · April 2009

I actually was prescribed Zoloft for PPD because it got bad. I was crying every day for no reason and sometimes just wanted to get in the car with DS and DH and just leave our life, even though our life is perfect and logically I knew there was nothing wrong.

Your hormones are still going crazy and many of us have felt like you are feeling. Talk to your doctor about it at the two week check-up. They have things they can do to help.

KariChadDora · April 2009

StephanieBride1:
Yes, I definitely had baby blues. Mine actually turned into PPD, so just keep tabs on yourself and if it doesn't go away after 2-3 weeks talk to your doctor. You can pm me anytime if you'd like.

This is my fear..... I am so afraid of this not going away and turning into something more. Thanks for sharing.

KariChadDora · April 2009

tri047:
Still not a mommy yet Kari, but I wanted to say that I'm sorry. I am sure you are doing a great job!

That's the worse part Tri, logically I know I am doing just fine and that we are both OK and that I have already done this for 2 nights in a row now, but yet I can't shake this feeling. It's awful and completely irrational.

WinsyWade · April 2009

I think for me it was being alone (Dh worked a lot right from when we came home from the hospital). I was lonely and had noone to talk to/ visit with. I felt cut-off from the world as well. I know the crazy hormones fluxuating didn't help either.

I was reading about baby blues in My Pregnancy Week by Week. By their definition, baby blues and other post pardum depression disorders start after a few weeks. I didn't think this rang true. I was feeling sadness, anxiety, etc even in the hospital.

I agree with Steph. Make sure you keep up with it and call your doc if you think it's getting worse. I know your Dh goes out of town alot. Is there a friend, etc that come stay with you when you feel down?

sandy02 · April 2009

That is one of the things they dont tell you... that your PP hormones will kick you pg hormones A$$!!! You thought it was bad pregnant, that's NOTHING compared to after L&D. The emotions/hormones/lack of sleep/everything else realllly gets you after birth! I cried in the car because we forgot Ethan's hat... DH felt helpless and thought I was losing my mind, LOL. It should go away in a week or so, if you're still feeling overwhelmed talk with your Dr. I think I was good to go and leveled off about 3 weeks PP. (A week after DH went back to work)

KariChadDora · April 2009

Thanks for all the encouraging words ladies. I had thought about asking my mom/g-ma to stay the night, but that's the other kicker... when they are here I feel slightly annoyed and eager for them to leave after a couple hours. I have such an easy-going baby that all he does is sleep for a few hours, wake up and eat and go back to sleep, he's awake about twice a day for about 2 hours each time and is usually very content just hanging out, so I feel silly having "help" because there's nothing for them to really do. I am sleeping about 6 hours (broken up into 1.5-2 hr chunks) at night which was good for me pre-baby and so I don't really feel like I could nap while they are here, plus I feel somewhat stressed to "entertain" them while they are here. So I am always a little eager for them to leave after a few hours... until they step out the door, then the waterworks start. Ughhh.... no fun.

I think I will feel a lot better when DH returns home tomorrow, the thought of being alone with the baby all evening/night/early morning until somebody stops by is just eating away at me. Plus my mom/g-ma are just not my DH, he fills a void in me that they cannot. It's one more night... I can do this. I just hope I don't feel like this all day once he goes back to work next week.

tri047 · April 2009

KariChadDora:
tri047:
Still not a mommy yet Kari, but I wanted to say that I'm sorry. I am sure you are doing a great job!

That's the worse part Tri, logically I know I am doing just fine and that we are both OK and that I have already done this for 2 nights in a row now, but yet I can't shake this feeling. It's awful and completely irrational.

Awww...I'm sorry Kari. Sad :hugs:

sweetpea7628 · April 2009

sandy02:
That is one of the things they dont tell you... that your PP hormones will kick you pg hormones A$$!!! You thought it was bad pregnant, that's NOTHING compared to after L&D. The emotions/hormones/lack of sleep/everything else realllly gets you after birth! I cried in the car because we forgot Ethan's hat... DH felt helpless and thought I was losing my mind, LOL. It should go away in a week or so, if you're still feeling overwhelmed talk with your Dr. I think I was good to go and leveled off about 3 weeks PP. (A week after DH went back to work)

This!!! I've cried more since Emme was born than I did when pregnant with her. Having a baby is a huge thing and it's easy to feel overwhelmed and out of control, especially when your DH is out of town. My DH went out of town 2 weeks after Emme was born and it was hard. The baby blues shouldn't last too long but don't expect your hormones to go back to normal anytime soon. Mine are still out of whack!

WinsyWade · April 2009

sweetpea7628:

sandy02:
That is one of the things they dont tell you... that your PP hormones will kick you pg hormones A$$!!! You thought it was bad pregnant, that's NOTHING compared to after L&D. The emotions/hormones/lack of sleep/everything else realllly gets you after birth! I cried in the car because we forgot Ethan's hat... DH felt helpless and thought I was losing my mind, LOL. It should go away in a week or so, if you're still feeling overwhelmed talk with your Dr. I think I was good to go and leveled off about 3 weeks PP. (A week after DH went back to work)

This!!! I've cried more since Emme was born than I did when pregnant with her. Having a baby is a huge thing and it's easy to feel overwhelmed and out of control, especially when your DH is out of town. My DH went out of town 2 weeks after Emme was born and it was hard. The baby blues shouldn't last too long but don't expect your hormones to go back to normal anytime soon. Mine are still out of whack!

SP is right about the crying excessively after having a child. I'm an emotional person but I get choked up about everything since having DS (even when not pg). Even when I am just super happy I will feel so overwhelmed I cry.

RustyGirl3 · April 2009

Oh wow...yeah. It started before we even left the hospital. Don't ever feel like you are being irrational. It's okay to let out your emotions even if it involves crying and even if you were fine two seconds ago. It would hit me out of nowhere too. We would be sitting there and all of a sudden...TEARS. DH would look at me and be like..."OH NO...not again!" He felt like he couldn't do anything to help me, which he did, just by supporting me and trying to make me laugh and get through it. I don't remembe exactly how long it lasted, but it was definitely for a couple of weeks after birth...I know for some it gets stronger but you just need to keep an open dialogue with your Dr to see if you'll need more help.

Don't ever feel like you are being crazy...your hormones are all over the place and your body just went through a lot...it's only natural that there would be more than just the baby coming out. Hang in there...You'll get through it.

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