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Jennicap
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My husband no longer wants to TTC
Jennicap
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I've been bawling all weekend, he said he's not ready and he doesn't know when he'll be ready. I asked what if something happened the last few months you wouldn't be happy and he said no I forced him into TTC and he would have resented me so he's glad we didn't get KU. I'm 32 he's 36 my clock is ticking but he doesn't give a freaking crap! I want a baby so badly, my dreams of being a mother are shattered, I partially want to poke holes in his stupid condoms but I don't want them to tear! What do you I do?????
(This is for Rogue Lily happy monday!)
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Re: My husband no longer wants to TTC
Wish I knew what to say to make you feel better. Don't give up hope though.
hahahahaha!!!
I'm sorry you are going through this.
I hate to say it, but you really can't do much. You can't force someone into wanting a baby. If he's not ready, you can't force it.
I'm so sorry honey! Honestly there is nothing you can do other than talk to him and try to find out what's going on in that head of his. There might be something simple setting him off or he may truley not be ready. You need to talk it out and go from there, poking holes wont solve anything and you don't need him resenting you.
Best of luck!
LMFAO
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LMAO. Ditto.
You guys have made my Monday!
Boy, those newbies just stand out like a parrot in a flock of crows huh?
it's called a kilt, he's scottish
LMAO!
You guys are great!!
I ditto poking at the condoms!
Thank you IVF for our little miracles!!
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Me either!!!
aww I'm sorry but happy monday!
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Far from a newb but I must be real tired cause I didn't pick up on the joke! I read that last line AFTER I posted! Oh well!
Oh crap...I failed to read that little note on the bottom too! lol Good one!
Zach Rance 4 President
I'm sorry. That stinks. Maybe just give him some time. He'll come around. If not, maybe talk to someone who can be a median for the both of you....GL in whatever decision you make.
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oops I didn't read your whole post. embarrassed......lol?
m/c 2002 7w2d
bfp 9.6.12 | edd 5.17.13 | m/c 9.19.12 5w5d
bfp 10.18.12 | edd 6/28/13
beta#1 10.18.12 - 96 / progestrone 32 || beta#2 10.22.12 - 711 || beta#3 10.25.12 - 2608 DD born 6/27/13
bfp 7.16.14 | edd 3/27/15
beta#1 7.18.14 - 149 || beta#2 7.21.14 - ??
This! Who can hate a cute baby face!? lol
TTC can be incredibly stressful, but maybe you can take solace in my own story. DH and I tried to conceive for 4 cycles. The temping, and POAS'ing, and everything else was making him crazy. He had always throught conception should be spontaneous and all of my efforts with charting and using the CBEFM were freaking him out. Anyway, in December, DH told me he needed some space from it. The process made him feel he wasn't ready. He needed time. He couldn't tell me how much. We took a break.
Stepping away from the TTC process, however, was good for us. In March, DH decided that he wasn't getting any younger (he's 39) and he was soon going to be ready again. The charting and everything had just spooked him. Now I am one cycle away from us resuming our TTC efforts.
Perhaps the same will happen for you. Your DH may just need a break from the process. I think men take TTC failure more personally than women do. It's like an insult to their masculinity that it takes their wife some time to get pregnant. It's strange and bizarre, but I think that is how some men feel.
My advice is to give it a few months. The "wait" is difficult. But, I am so excited that my DH will be back on board and that giving him time will now make this journey something he really wants too. If nothing happens in those few months, make a point to have a conversation with your DH about when he envisions the time to be right. I hope you two can find a solution that works for both of you. Good luck and hang in there.
ETA: Damn. I thought this was for real. That's what I get for trying to multitask. Apparently I should not bump and "work" at the same time.
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My DH told me he was tried of TTC b/c of the charting and 100% planned sex. But the month I said oh well...no more for a little while ... we got pregnant. DH could not be more happy. I ask him all the tiem about it...he said he got tired of listenting fertility this, the web says this...my chart my temp...the list goes on.
Give him a chance.
I already knew that would be the case.