SD's mom called- she's putting SD in a bra

thatgirlang · April 2009

I have no clue why. The girl has nothing to put in a bra! Her mom says she "needs" it but we have to be careful because she's embarassed about it. I'm not hearing that she grew boobs since we saw her last weekend. Poor DH- he isn't ready for this. I'm not either. She's not even 10 yet!

There are some 9/10 year old girls at my school who do need bras, but SD really does not.

Tonya Martin · April 2009

That is just silly.

My DS had a sex ed class this year (10yrs old). They told him he needed to wear deodrant everyday.

I think everyone is trying to make kids these days grow up too fast.

mrsbhk22 · April 2009

Maybe the older girls or the ones that need bras are picking on the younger/later developed ones. I remember it being a BIG deal in gym class when people started wearing bras. As you can probably guess, I was one of the later developed ones so I remember PRAYING my mom would let me get a bra (even though there was no need for it). I do feel for your DH though - I imagine it would be hard for a dad! Smile

JCapp8306 · April 2009

That's strange, maybe SD wants to be in a bra since her friends are to be more grown up. I think I wore a sports bra, or maybe it was a training bra in like 5th grade... How old is that? ...12.

MommaD2Be · April 2009

Awww. Well maybe she confessed to her mom that she is embarassed about some of the other girls at school having them and not her. I remember that feeling.

That said, I did not get a bra until I was 12 and didn't really even need it then! Smile

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · April 2009

As much as she might not need one now, it will help to get her used to wearing one now so that when she does need one, there won't be as much of an adjustment to it (we all know just how uncomfortable those things are).

I was a really late bloomer (I was a gymnast), so to have to adjust to a bra at age 14 sucked. At the same time, maybe it's best to get her into an undershirt, or sports bra like item, rather than an actual starter bra for now, since all it's going to do is ride up (there's nothing to hold it down)

Elaine&Matt · April 2009

mysticfishtales:
That is just silly.

My DS had a sex ed class this year (10yrs old). They told him he needed to wear deodrant everyday.

I think everyone is trying to make kids these days grow up too fast.

Some 10 year old boys need to wear deodorant. My DS is almost 14 and he's been wearing it since he was 8. But that's just when his BO capabilities kicked in.

thatgirlang · April 2009

Thanks girls- maybe she wants to fit in, maybe she needs the "training".... I don't know. It still sucks- I've known her since she was a baby. It's weird.

thatgirlang · April 2009

Elaine&Matt:
mysticfishtales:

That is just silly.

My DS had a sex ed class this year (10yrs old). They told him he needed to wear deodrant everyday.

I think everyone is trying to make kids these days grow up too fast.

Some 10 year old boys need to wear deodorant. My DS is almost 14 and he's been wearing it since he was 8. But that's just when his BO capabilities kicked in.

True!

simbaroo27 · April 2009

I know I wanted to wear one pretty young as I felt uncomfortable changing in the locker room especially when the gym teacher was around. Didn't realize till later that (much later) that my gym teacher was a lesbian and looking at everyone! She would stare at EVERYONE.

I would talk to her and see if there is something else going on - you never know now-a-days!

christin3580 · April 2009

Which brings me to a point that I was at target the other day... and the end of the maternity is the underwears of the mini tweens or whatever they call them these days... and they had PADDED bras... PADDED.. REALLY... lol

Genevieved · April 2009

I don't know why her mom would put her in one if she doesn't need it and also if she is embarrassed about it, It sounds like she isn't ready for one.

mavilabride · April 2009

My very first bra wasn't because I had anything to hold up. It was because the other girls in my class did and I felt left out. I was around 10 too.

emm325 · April 2009

I would talk to your SD and see whats going on. And talk to her mom with your DH. Maybe you can come up with a compromise, like a sports bar or tighter fitting undershirt. My SOs little girl is 8 and her YOUNGER cousin wears bras and it totally baffles me. These girls are so influenced by what they see on television that they do just want to grow up so fast. I think a compromise to a nice sports bra type trainer would be a good idea if anything.

borc0080 · April 2009

MommaD2Be:

Awww. Well maybe she confessed to her mom that she is embarassed about some of the other girls at school having them and not her. I remember that feeling.

That could be. I got my first when I was 11 and starting 6th grade. Didn't need one, but we started changing clothes for gym at that time and most of the other girls had one.

annibes · April 2009

christin3580:
Which brings me to a point that I was at target the other day... and the end of the maternity is the underwears of the mini tweens or whatever they call them these days... and they had PADDED bras... PADDED.. REALLY... lol

I saw that!! Every time DH and I go to the baby section at target, we cut through the kids' clothes and that's the section we walk through.. there is stuff that I would consider pretty racy for a 10-year-old..?

The first time he saw what was available in the "training bra" section, DH said, "I hope we're having a boy." LOL.

Ang- hopefully the mom just wants to get SD used to the idea of a bra, or SD decided that she wanted to wear one to fit in.. 10 does seem awfully young, but the transition to having to wear a bra would definitely suck more if she didn't have the "practice."?

tak2002 · April 2009

From a 4th grade teacher's perspective...a lot of girls who don't technically NEED a bra still wear shirts that are thin enough that you can see their nipples sticking out. I wish some mothers would be more aware of this and want to cover up their daughters a bit more! I think sports bra/half undershirt is more appropriate though- the girls who wear bras at 9yrs old get noticed- and not for the right reasons! Good Luck!

taciboo25 · April 2009

step into a room of third or fourth graders and you'll be wishing the boys were wearing deodorant....whoa!

BeaverBeliever12 · April 2009

simbaroo27:

I know I wanted to wear one pretty young as I felt uncomfortable changing in the locker room especially when the gym teacher was around. Didn't realize till later that (much later) that my gym teacher was a lesbian and looking at everyone! She would stare at EVERYONE.

I would talk to her and see if there is something else going on - you never know now-a-days!

Did we have the same gym teacher? Ours even let certain girls change in her office which was in the locker room. SO wrong!

jmubride2 · April 2009

mysticfishtales:
That is just silly.

My DS had a sex ed class this year (10yrs old). They told him he needed to wear deodrant everyday.

I think everyone is trying to make kids these days grow up too fast.

Please don't take this the wrong way, I am not saying this about your son in any way.

My mom works with 5th and 6th graders and I've subbed for her class in past years. When you get 30 kids in a room together after PE they stink! Some of them are very ready to wear deodorant and so it is easier to make a blanket statement to all of them then embarrass anyone by picking them out.

aniceucchik · April 2009

my mom got me one when i was like 8, but it wasnt a real bra..it was more of a flat sportsbra type...i didnt need one til maybe 5th grade...

thatgirlang · April 2009

Thanks for all of the comments, ladies! I was gone for a few hours and having time pass plus reading your responses has calmed me down a bit. I really didn't think about most of the things you all have said. I just thought, "She's rushing her to grow up!!" But... you've made some good points.

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