How do you discipline?

CoachElle · April 2009

I'm unsure if time out would be effective at this age. I've said no, and tried distraction but she just goes right back to what she was doing. What do you do for discipline?

RobynandJason050706 · April 2009

I cant imagine how timeout would work at their age i think they are way to young IMO. All we do is re-direct and move him somewhere else. He does understand no. Alot of times he just tends to ignore us so we pick him up and just give him something else to do.

lanie26 · April 2009

I was just discussing this today. We use redirection, but today she smacked my mom's dog and I had to pick her up, and say "NO" firmly. She wouldn't look at me and wanted to go home and go to bed. i felt awful. Truly. She crawled down the hall and tried to open the front door. ?

But its now when you need to establish rules and being firm ?is important. ?

GettinNervous · April 2009

DD is 18 months old. At her 15-month appointment, the pedi said that we should be telling her "no" and that she understands what it means. But she never said anything about time outs--I don't think my other child was younger than 2 when they told us to do time outs with him.

If I tried a time out with DD, she would just do what she always does--drops to her knees, puts her face on the floor and acts as if it's the end of the world. Drama.

juietbride · April 2009

We do time out, we put him in his pack n play if he is completely out of hand. He understands that when we sit him somewhere that he is to stay there until we get him. I had to try it out at a friends house and he sat there crying knowing he was in trouble. We explained that he had to be nice and listen and he was great for the rest of the visit. We also ignore, the temper tantrums have been cut down by 80%, he now just throws himself to the floor and lays there for a minute. Saying no regularly stops him in his tracks. HTH

andrea922 · April 2009

We do the redirection - ds clearly knows what 'no' means and when we say it he shakes his head no and smiles and goes back to whatever he shouldn't be doing. We have to get him interested in something else.

CleoKitty · April 2009

At this age the only thing we do is redirection and the occasional "No!" or "Not for baby!"

Time outs, IMO, are not age appropriate until closer to 2 y/o.

momtoRaegan041008 · April 2009

Redirection

MrsKellyOrBust · April 2009

andrea922:
We do the redirection - ds clearly knows what 'no' means and when we say it he shakes his head no and smiles and goes back to whatever he shouldn't be doing. We have to get him interested in something else.

Same here! DS's new trick is saying No No No while shaking his finger at me aaaand then he goes right back to it. I move him, meltdown ensues, and I have to find something else to interest him. *sigh*

Sally J · April 2009

Timeout (30 sec or less and we sit with them), hand timeout (hold hands for 10-15 sec), lots of praise for doing the right thing, redirection, saying no/not for baby/don't touch please/eh-eh-eh. I highly recommend Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood.

LoveEeyore · April 2009

We haven't started timeout, though I am a big fan of it. I generally use no and that will work. If not I use "No, that's one" "no that's 2" and at 3 I pick her up and remove her from the situation and set her down and walk away while she protests. I ignore her if she follows me or throws a fit and when she is calm, I engage her in something fun AND appropriate. I really feel like she is learning to exhibit the self control to stop before 3. As she gets older we will switch to time out and go from 3 to no warning (gradually)- immediate time out (depending on the offense!).

That said, I think it's important for me to assess the situation- is she kicking up b/c she's exhausted, hurting, sick or very hungry? If so, I will instead burst into a song that she can't resist and use redirection.

There are also times that she is frustrated b/c she needs help doing something but doesn't have the words. If this is the case, then I will tell her "No" to get her attention and then tell her "say help" and when she repeats (this usually results in giggles b/c she knows the problem will be fixed) I then tell her to repeat "Help _____" to expand and teach her to tell me what she needs help with. Teaching her the word help has actually reduced a lot of fuss!

Spin313 · April 2009

When I want DS to do something or stop doing something, I speak to him in Spanish. I don't know if he responds because he understands or just because it's different, but I've been pretty successful so far. When that doesn't work, I do a lot of redirecting.

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