anyone tell family before 1st dr. appointment?

ninasc · April 2009

I am not seeing my OB until I'm 9 weeks and we would like to tell our parents earlier. I feel like I should get confirmation from a Dr. before making the big announcementand not just rely on a pee stick . I have zero pregnancy symptoms which isn't helping either.

I wonder if I could call my general practitioner and see if they'll let me come in for a blood test....

BrittKav · April 2009

My doctor didn't even do any sort of confirmation at my 1st appointment. I guess he figured 8 (yes, 8...) positive HPTs was confirmation enough.

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But, to answer your question, yes. We told at around 5 weeks.?

Meredith Shaw · April 2009

Definitely call your GP for a blood test! They probably do it all the time.

We didn't even wait for that, though. We told our families (parents & siblings) within hours of getting the BFP. I got a blood test the next day, but by then the secret was out!

Alex17 · April 2009

We haven't told anyone yet and don't plan to for a few more weeks.

luckyangel · April 2009

I told my parents but we aren't telling DH's until after 13 weeks. ?Just closer to my parents. ?

HisKathy · April 2009

I told my parents right away and DH's parents as soon as I got my first beta - both times. As long as you have a good relationship with your parents it helps to have that support in case something does go wrong. I do regret my decision to tell the extended family so early the last time because it's really hard to "untell" people you don't talk to on a regular basis.

btw, congrats on your BFP!

madalynnsmommy09 · April 2009

We told before our first appointment, actually the day we got our BFP so before ANY symptoms!

Our first appointment there was really nothing saying we were pregnant, she did feel my uterus and said it felt 8 weeks, but when sent us for a U/S for dating purposes and we weren't that far, so who knows.

ZacksBride · April 2009

your doc probably isnt going to do any "confirmation" - mine didnt. we told our moms within hours of bfp - i was just too excited to keep it in!

LizBusch · April 2009

we told ours after our positive pregnancy test at the doctor (all i did was pee in a cup)...we were 5+ weeks then. we definitely didn't wait until our first big exam, at least with our parents.

ninasc · April 2009

ZacksBride:
your doc probably isnt going to do any "confirmation" - mine didnt. we told our moms within hours of bfp - i was just too excited to keep it in!

I am getting an ultrasound so that will be the 'confirmation'

vegemom302 · April 2009

We both told our parents and I go to the doctor next week. We are really close with both sets of parents. Not very many secrets between all of us.

MrsBunches · April 2009

We told our parents before our first appointment. At my first appointment my midwife didn't do anything to confirm my pregnancy. I think HPTs are so accurate now that they don't really bother with additional testing unless there's something odd going on to make them question it.

My FIL did ask when the pregnancy would be a "medical fact" when we told him. Very cute.?

renea&wesley · April 2009

we didn't tell anyone until 8 weeks with our first. with this one we told my mom early because she watches c and i had to leave work early for bloodwork. she told my dad when i had a scare earlier this week.

bluedawn914 · April 2009

We told three days after my BFP on pee sticks. Which at that time was about 3.5 wks along. Did not have my first appointment until 5 wks. So if you want to tell I would. Chances are the doctor is going to tell you the same thing the pee sticks did! Congrats!

sdc06 · April 2009

We told our family right away. We told our closest friends after our 8 week u/s and just told everyone else today (11 weeks).

DiscusCoach · April 2009

I didn't even tell my DH until I had it confirmed the next day.

Do what feels right for you!

jam1111 · April 2009

We told them w/ the first pregnancy. That ended in m/c. The 2nd, we didn't tell and told after we knew it would be a m/c. With this one, we just told tonight and will tell tomorrow too. Way too difficult to untell. It is a personal decision though.

juliane2004 · April 2009

I had told everyone, Facebook included, by 4w2d. So yes, before my first OB appt.

minda31807 · April 2009

With DS, found out we were expecting Dec. 10th, told families on X-mas several weeks before 1st appt. With this one, I had left the hpt on the bathroom sink that morning, hoping he would see it and call me at work, npoe. I call on my way home and he tells me that the ILs are over because a pipe broke at our house and FIL was helping fix it while MIL was watching DS. So I panic, hoping that neither of them had gone into the bathroom and tell him that he needs to clean the sink off in the bathroom, so his mom didn't think I was a slob. When I walked in he confronted me about it in front of them, so they knew a about 13 hours after I found out. Yet to go to my first appt. this time around. I have yet to tell my side of the family, I am waiting until after my first appt. My eldest sister, had many (10+) m/cs and she was cautious about my first pg until I was out of the first tri, so I know that she will be more excited if I wait to tell her. My mom swears that she knew that I was pg with DS before we told her, even though she hadn't seen me since thangsgiving that year,had a dream that it was going to be a boy. She was right about the sex. So I am waiting to see if she has anymore visions about this one.

angiec418 · April 2009

we actually told my dad the day we found out, and told eveyone else within a week of that. My mom was last to know because she's a gossiper. She was already telling the whole family that we were trying because she eavesdropped on a phone convo between my husband and sister....

We told early but we wanted our family to be a part of it from the very beginning.

high_hopes · April 2009

We told parents & siblings (all adults) at 4 weeks. Obviously we would tell them if we had (heaven forbid) a m/c. Our first appt wasn't until 8 weeks.

gin78 · April 2009

We told my parents and my husband's dad. ?His mom guessed the other night at dinner. ?A few others know from guessing but we are trying to keep it quiet until at least after my May 18th appointment. ?I'm dying though and my parents are dying to tell people as well!?

sunnysmile9 · April 2009

Peeing on a stick is a pretty sure indicator that you're pregnant. But if you are really worried, go get a blood test done. However, just for your sake of mind ... your hCG level (the pregnancy hormone) is below 5 when you're not pregnant, and no HPT is sensitive enough to read it that low.

And yes, DH and I told our families before our first "real" OB appt (next Friday). We had a miscarriage/ectopic scare though, so we needed the moral support. I don't know how close you are to your family, but having my mom there to answer my questions before I go to the dr is amazing

kimberleigh30 · April 2009

We haven't told our families yet. ?I go to my first appointment this Thursday and are hoping everything is going okay. ?If we can I like to wait until Mother's Day to let the cat out of the bad, at least with our close family.

?I did however tell my best friend that I was pregnant 2 days after I took my HPT. ?I just needed to tell someone and if I would of told my sister, my entire family would of known within minutes.?

catherine24 · April 2009

Most docs don't do blood tests to confirm anymore, except in special circumstances, so it's normal to not have your first appointment until 8;10 weeks. ?The HPTs are very accurate, so if it was positive, you're pregnant (this is why they don't do very many blood test confirmations anymore).

We decided not to tell anyone until close to the end of 1st tri because we don't want to have to "untell" people if something goes wrong. ?We figure if we want support from people after a m/c, we'd rather just tell the select few we'd want support from at that time.

That said, plenty of people tell before the 1st appt - like I said, the HPT is confirmation enough that you're pregnant. ?It's all a matter of what you're comfortable with.?

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