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2nd Trimester
So it's official, DH will not have sex with me....
This sucks. He finally admitted yesterday that is totally freaked out and no matter what I or the doctor tells him, he needs time. I just started really showing this week, so I think that has something to do with it, maybe? Of course, this just plays into all of my insecurities, but I am trying to stay objective about it.
He also felt her kick for the first time this week, and of course the big ultrasound. It all went down hill from there. Anyone else have this issue? I just know our comfortable sex time is limited, oh well.
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Re: So it's official, DH will not have sex with me....
This is exactly how DH was while I was pg with DS, lol. That was o.k. though as I didn't want to have sex anyways, lol.
This time we're both up for it. He has no problems no whatsoever. It took him an entire pregnancy to realize it's o.k. LOL.
I'm glad I'm not the only one
DH says he's fine with everything that's happening to me - he's even been really nice about the leaking boobs (which totally freaked me out). But he's been completely hands off and it's really starting to hurt :_(
I'm sorry that your DH is acting like that. Maybe try taking it back to 7th grade, you know, with the makeout sessions and heavy petting. And then work your way back up to sex. I think sometimes going back to the basics is even fun!
Yep, DH and I have only had sex once since February. However, his work schedule is more to blame then anything else. He's currently working a 3am-11am shift, and I'm at work when he's "ready" and he's asleep when I'm "ready". However, for a lot of men their opinion of their wife changes during her pregnancy. she is now the mother of their child, and not the wife they can do kinky dirty things to. If he does want to work on it, there is always counseling, but thats for extreme situations. there are some helpful sites if you search for male libido loss.Getting back to basic intimacy, cuddly kissy touchy intimacy without any expectations might help
But don't push him. It will just make him feel worse. My poor Hubby feels horrible about our situation, and me whining about it has just been making it worse. Good luck!
Total aside, but I am a runner too, and Oregon is my favorite state. I LOVE running there, and wish I lived there.
*waves*
I don't even think that it is a safety concern. He made a strange comment that is the baby was a boy, it would be different. Like us girls are more fragile or something, and he doesn't want to have sex with me with his little girl inside of me. I am trying not to push, because I can obviously see there is something that is bothering him. We have been somewhat normal up to a point, and then in the last few weeks it has just been nothing.
So yes, he has been very hands off like a PP says and it hurts. We don't have to have sex for that connection, but right now, we got nothing.
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