Feliz Viernes! (And just a little whine)

mmariluh · April 2009

Hey! I'm so happy it's Friday!

I have a little bit of a vent/whine and just wanted to share...

My coworker just came back to work from her maternity leave. I really like her, she's nice, very hard working and she and I get along really well. When we first started working together she had been TTC for about a year and worried, so I gave her some pointers and some recommendations. I also told her about some tests she could ask about. She got her HSG and about a month later, she was KU.

She knows I've been trying for a while (I never told her exactly how long - I try not to tell anyone IRL that), so I mostly felt comfortable around her.

But, since she's been back. She keeps talking about her baby, which, of course I don't mind. I would too if it was me. And I understand her excitement.

BUT, her comment to me is ALWAYS the same, every single time she says "They say it changes your life, but you don't even know how true it is, It is incredible". (Of course, I know that's true) BUT the hard part is that she always adds "You should do this soon" or "you would love it" or "what are you waiting for". I'm used to hearing this from others, who don't know... But her?! She knows I had been trying longer than she had (and that was a year ago!) So how can she not know that I would DIE To know what it feels like? I would LOVE to do this soon, to have already done it! I'm waiting for nothing.

I've been kind of convinced for a while that it just won't happen. But every time she makes the comments, I just want to start walking and just never stop. It's getting really horrible because she's said it a bunch of times now.

Argh. Vent/Whine over. I just have to get myself together.

Mrs White · April 2009

Hugs! She may have new mommy brain and have forgotten your struggles. I would gently remind her and if it continues then flat out tell her that those comments hurt and remind her of the pain of the struggle

GIANT HUGS!

mmariluh · April 2009

Mrs.W, thanks.

I will try and kind of nudge her along.

The only thing is that when she came back, she asked me whether we had gone along with any additional procedures or tests. So I thought that she knew.

Still, I know that she may not realize the effect or the extent of her comments and suggestions.

I truly don't mind hearing about her baby, or seeing the pictures. In my brain, I can understand how excited she must be.

gidge · April 2009

I'm so sorry. It's hard enough to hear that from anyone, but especially someone you think should understand! :-(

JackiTiger · April 2009

Ugh...I'm so sorry. Maybe she just needs a little reminder. Like just honestly saying, "You're right, I don't know how true it is and I'd love to. We're still trying." Not mean, just honest. I think (at least I hope) she'd get the point. Sorry, mariluh...that's really sucky.

JackiTiger · April 2009

And Happy Friday, everyone!

murphyec · April 2009

It is easy to forget how hard it was when you have the little one in your arms. I think Mrs White suggestion is a good one.

pmarie33 · April 2009

Someone had a memory lapse

(((hugs)))

mmariluh · April 2009

murphyec:
It is easy to forget how hard it was when you have the little one in your arms. I think Mrs White suggestion is a good one.

Yes, you and MrsW make good points. Thanks.

And 1 week til' your vacation! Yay!

t.bird · April 2009

how annoying- she should no better.

i would honestly say something- i know she's a new mom & uber stoked- but you shouldn't have to deal. poor mm

Nikki1007 · April 2009

((HUGS))

HikerBride07 · April 2009

JackiTiger:
Ugh...I'm so sorry. Maybe she just needs a little reminder. Like just honestly saying, "You're right, I don't know how true it is and I'd love to. We're still trying." Not mean, just honest. I think (at least I hope) she'd get the point. Sorry, mariluh...that's really sucky.

I think this is a great suggestion. I'm sorry that you're in that situation. :-(

Chrysallys · April 2009

That sucks

I would remind her that it isn't for lack of trying that you are not pregnant and be honest with her about how her comments are hurting your feelings. I don't think she'll stop otherwise.

mmariluh · April 2009

Chrysallys:
That sucks

I would remind her that it isn't for lack of trying that you are not pregnant and be honest with her about how her comments are hurting your feelings. I don't think she'll stop otherwise.

Thanks for the great advice.

Thank you all!