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Your view on daycare
I trouble myself with reading all different studies on daycares...some that make me want to take my child right out of daycare and others that help ease my mind...there seems to be no correlation in the majority that I read so I was just wondering what everyone else thought about daycare. Like do you believe it causes children to be more aggresive? Or that daycare causes children to not be as secure to their mothers? Or do you believe that daycare helps language development, etc?
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Re: Your view on daycare
As a daycare Mom, I think that DS would be better off with me and that he would get more attention/affection and the values i want taught to him from me.
But, right now the trade off for those benefits itsn't worth it yet, and I think he loves daycare and does well there and his teachers have the best of intentions.
Clear as mud? lol
I don't read the studies anymore because fact is, right now I have to work so I have to use daycare. Reading the studies would probably drive me nuts and it won't change the fact that I'm going to need daycare at least for another month or two.
I am sure daycare has its pros and cons just as would having a nanny or being a SAHM etc....
For us Daycare is what we can afford and is the help we need because we are a two income home. I hate the idea that he will be around other children who are sick, because their is a high chance he will get sick while at daycare then if he was at home with no other children.
However, i think daycare is a great place to learn how to be social. I watch friends who are SAHM with two kids, and their 2nd child seems to bloom so much sooner then the first. I have always assumed this was because she was learning from her older sister, but I guess I have no date to really back that up. It just seems that way to me. ?
I think that no matter if your child is at home or in a day care the parents have to set a good example for behavior and set rules. If your child hits others at daycare then you need to address the matter, just as if you child was hitting while at home. Children will go through phases and many things they learn comes from home.?
I taught in a 2 and 3 year old classroom and now teach 1st grade, so I've seen both sides, I guess. My impression of my kiddos who I know have gone to daycare, versus having their 1st all day experience be in grade one is that their social skills are terrific and that they seem to be better self-starters/tend to be more creative in their thinking... maybe it's the blocks?
LOL... It is the blocks! We advise parents all the time to skip all the "Make My Baby Smart Whatever Blah Blah Blah" videos and buy some blocks and play with their kids and they look at us like we're talking Alien speak.
Like do you believe it causes children to be more aggresive? no, on the contrary, I think learning to share at an early age helps kids be LESS aggressive. You could learn this at home, sure, but in daycare, you have many more chances for the lesson.
Or that daycare causes children to not be as secure to their mothers? Again, no. Only from experience. My sisters' kids (in daycare from 4 weeks - she's a physician) are happy, healthy, and attached to their mom and dad. If this was true, wouldn't many kids be not secure to their dads?
Or do you believe that daycare helps language development, etc? Not really. I think they can, if the daycare operates like a school and teaches these things. i think you can do it just as well youself.
Bottom line, for us, daycare is the obvious choice. I love my job and am not willing to give it up; it makes me happy, and happy mom=happy kids. We've found a daycare that we think will work well for us. I think daycares are great because the socialisation and teaching is organic; no special arrangement is required. You can certainly do this at home, but it's more effort.
I like daycare, it gives DS opportunities to do things we might not be able to do at home, I don't know abount Aggressive or security, but I KNOW it helps with language development, DS switched from an infant pre-tot room in Dece to a Pre-tot toddler room, and within 2 weeks, his vocabulary had trippled, and went from using single words to using phrases.
I agree 100%