Anyone else LOVE their MIL?

uvalori85 · April 2009

Dh came home last night and told me that he asked his mom about traveling with a newborn. MIL lives 7.5 hours away. Dh keeps thinking that we're going to be able to travel that far with a newborn. He's so clueless. But he'll learn.

Anyway, in that conversation MIL told DH that she fully intends to drive up here when we have the baby and even stay for a week or two to help us out. She's the only one of the "grandparents" that stays at home. We are so lucky to have her and for her to be willing to come help out. I know it's a long ways away, but I am so excited that she's willing to do that.

Anyone else have great MILs?

jennybeams · April 2009

I guess to each his own. I would not want my MIL or mother for that matter staying a week while I'm trying to learn how to take care of a newborn. They can visit but my husband and I will probably want some time to adjust.

nicolebuchalla · April 2009

I absolutely adore my MIL. It's my FIL that I don't particularly care for. But even he is very tolerable. Smile

bannedmonkey · April 2009

I really like my MIL too. They alos live 7.5 hours away. We're hoping they can come down and stay with my parents right after the baby is born. I told DH I didn't want anyone staying at our house. My parents have said it's fine. We're going to tell the ILs tomorrow night when they come for a visit.

candy_mandy85 · April 2009

nope not a fan of mine, I also wouldn't leave my baby with her. I wish it was different and hate that we have that type of relationship but it is what it is.?

pinksprkl · April 2009

I'm not so lucky... My MIL never talked to me about my pregnancy and then once the baby was born, she was at the hospital everyday. After we were out of the hospital, not so much. I think she's probably seen A 5 or 6 times since then. I'm not complaining, she's gross and she stinks.

dori1678 · April 2009

I like my MIL but I wouldn't want her staying at my house for a week. And I love my mom, but I wouldn't want her to stay either. I don't understand the point in family offering to live with you for a week to help out... it's one week out of 18 years. I think my DH and I can manage it on our own. Yes

But I really like my space and that's just me.

Mandalyn8 · April 2009

I love my MIL as well! She doesn't live far enough away to offer to stay with us, thank God, although I will probably ask her as we get closer if my own mom and dad can come up and stay with her for a few days once the baby is born. But anyway, she's great - she's always tried to be helpful without being overbearing, she sent me an email last night about what she might like to be called (Nana!) but said I should talk about it with Josh and let her know...I mean, she's so considerate and I feel so lucky.

carimeli · April 2009

dori1678:

I like my MIL but I wouldn't want her staying at my house for a week. And I love my mom, but I wouldn't want her to stay either. I don't understand the point in family offering to live with you for a week to help out... it's one week out of 18 years. I think my DH and I can manage it on our own.

But I really like my space and that's just me.

I am the same way. I am already dreading it. We just told my family last weekend and one of the first things my sister said is how she is going to take my niece out of school so they can come down and HELP. Ugh...thanks for asking me! I need to find a nice way to say you can visit, but not move in.

Alana Latiolais · April 2009

I love my MIL! But one of the reasons I like her so much is because her and my FIL always stay in a hotel, they will never stay at our house (their choice), keeps a good distance when they come to town. We haven't told any family the news, but I am actually glad that we will be delivering at holiday time because that means I don't have to travel home this year...such a hassle.

But I am sure that my parents and my in laws will come stay for an extended amount of time, multiple times, in the first few months of our babies life. But I will decide when they come!!

imjjsgirl · April 2009

I think they want to stay because you're gonna need the sleep after the baby is born and if you have to do all by yourself than you won't get any sleep. This is my first, but my sister had two leaving at parents when I was there so I know what it's like with a newborn..............welcome the help. I just prefer my mom over his mom..........my mom is a lot more experienced with babies than his mom is...............

katieL09 · April 2009

I have a great MIL, she always wants to take me shopping and buy stuff for the baby! She is even giving us the down payment for our house!!!!

roxyu · April 2009

Mine is a nightmare-she is for sale. Real cheap.

uvalori85 · April 2009

imjjsgirl:

I think they want to stay because you're gonna need the sleep after the baby is born and if you have to do all by yourself than you won't get any sleep. This is my first, but my sister had two leaving at parents when I was there so I know what it's like with a newborn..............welcome the help. I just prefer my mom over his mom..........my mom is a lot more experienced with babies than his mom is...............

This. That's the exact reason she offered to come stay and the reason I'm welcoming it. MIL is helpful but not pushy in the slightest. I absolutely adore her. Plus she's raised 4 kids. She has tons of experience. And I know she'll respect my preferences and my role as the parent and her as the helper. I couldn't be any more excited!

tmj2008 · April 2009

candy_mandy85:
nope not a fan of mine, I also wouldn't leave my baby with her. I wish it was different and hate that we have that type of relationship but it is what it is.

this exactly!!

Sthrnbell · April 2009

I love my MIL and was actually so thankful that she came and stayed with us for a little while when our first was born. I am not sure how I would have made it throught those first days with out her to help with the laundry and the food, and being my buffer when other people wanting to just drop by for a visit.

She was so helpful that when my DS has surgery on his back in a year or two, she has already agreed to come out and stay with us during his hospital stay and traction. So I am quite lucky.

epuorro · April 2009

Yes, my MIL is awesome. I'm so lucky to have her!

magdusia · April 2009

uvalori85:
Anyone else have great MILs?

nope, not here. My MIL is from another planet Hmm

MSE82005 · April 2009

I love my MIL as well. We live in the same town as my in-laws, so I see them at least once a week. She's great because she's willing to help with anything, but is always worried that I'll think she's being overbearing so she's very careful not to be. The woman is the girly girl that I am not, so I use her help for things like wrapping, flowers, etc. When I was planning the wedding, she was more involved than my own mom who lives 5 hours away, and I was so thankful for her help. She used to work in a floral shop, so she pretty much handled the flowers, bows, etc. As for when the baby comes, I'm sure my mom will come and stay for a little while. I'm not sure I could stop her if I wanted to, but I figure, I can use all the help I can get. My MIL will be around a lot too, but since she only lives about 10 minutes away, she wouldn't be staying at my house.

goldenleaves · April 2009

I love my MIL! She's a wonderful person.

DereKim · April 2009

we have a love /hate relationship. she very very opinionated and im very passive. unfortunately i bite my tongue and vent to my dh. thankfully, he knows how she is.

emmyloustu · April 2009

I absolutely adore my MIL and FIL! They are amazing people. They also plan to come & stay with us after the baby arrives. My parents and ILs will come for the birth, then just my mom will stay & when she lives my MIL will come for a few days. My MIL raised 5 children and has 11 grandchildren, so her advice & help is invaluable to me. She already told me when I need my space just let her know & she will head home

I actually think we will bond more as family if we have a little help, instead of being so stressed and exhausted that we can't see straight, but that's just me. We are also a very close family... everyone is different!

CJ2008 · April 2009

I love my MIL! She's the best. She was an enormous help during the wedding planning (more than anyone, even my mom) and continues to be awesome. She's super friendly and treats me like a daughter, and always offers to help. yay for MIL's!!

neonvicki81 · April 2009

I do! My MIL and FIL are extremely generous! When I wa in the hospital, they both came over to our house and took care of our dog. They doggy sit when we need them to. When I was on bed rest, my MIL brought over food, and brought me over new lounge chairs! They are wondeful people and I'm thankful to have the, . Both my parents and ILs live thirty minutes away!

MsTammy · April 2009

I love my MIL. However, I know we have a different situation than most .She has been my "MIL" since I was 15 and has always been there, even when my own mother was not. I actually consider her my own mom.

She took off a week to help me out with Chase. It was great to have her there.

hopingforababyin09 · April 2009

I also love my MIL she is really sweet. I told Dh that if she wanted to come and help out that, that would be great. I think that I would rather have her here that my mom. My mom would tell me that I'm doing everything wrong and my MIL would just be there to help. The good part about were I live we have a couple of extra places that we can put company, so they don't have to stay in the house with us.

TarheelsInNJ · April 2009

Yes! Mine is really fantastic (both parents are). They have been so welcoming of me, and are just so sweet and generous. I'm very lucky!

I'm sure they'll take a trip up here once the baby's born, but our apartment's not big enough for them to stay with us for any length of time.

Curious - why do you think you can't travel that far? Or do you just mean RIGHT after the baby is born? We're due November 8, and are planning to take an 8 hour drive for Christmas (though certainly will stop overnight along the way).

uvalori85 · April 2009

TarheelsInNJ:

Curious - why do you think you can't travel that far? Or do you just mean RIGHT after the baby is born? We're due November 8, and are planning to take an 8 hour drive for Christmas (though certainly will stop overnight along the way).

Because Dh was talking about going like right after the baby is born. I've been in long car rides with babies before and it is NOT a fun or easy trip at all. I don't think I'd feel comfortable driving that far for several weeks, if not a couple months. But that's just me. 7.5 hours is a long enough drive when it's just us two, if you add in countless stops for diaper changes and feedings and whatnot, I just don't imagine it being a good trip.

Plus it's easier for her to visit us because they're the only family that lives that far away and she doesn't work.

sara_smile · April 2009

I do like my MIL, but wouldn't want her to stay with me. Luckily, she lives one street over, she could walk to our house. Thankfully she doesn't just come over whenever the mood strikes her. She always calls first. Lately she's been spending more time with her BF's kids than her own son, but I keep telling him, "don't worry, that will change soon enough". I hope I'm right!

Amanda Parsley · April 2009

No I am not a fan of my MIL or my FIL. Last night MIL stopped by the house and said now that he husband (my DH's stepdad) took a long haul truck driving job she will be spending so much time with us andwas thinking about moving out of the country to live in town closer to us. Then she pointed out that there is a house for sale about 6 houses down from us(which happens to be right between our house and my brother in law and his wife). I try to like her, but I really just can't. Small doses I can deal with but I may freak if she thinks she is moving by us and coming over everyday.

chelseybelle · April 2009

yep...love love love mine.

She is my shopping buddy

mwalliser · April 2009

actually, yes... my IL's are awesome! MIL keeps DD for us... which is super awesome, and besides that, we just get along really great, lots in common, etc.

getnmarried910 · April 2009

Nope. I like her some days, can't stand her other days. She's very controlling and thinks everything should be her way. She's not even allowed at the hospital while waiting to deliver. She lives nearby, but we don't let anyone (and by anyone I mean that) visit our home the first week or so after our kids are born. We are trying to adjust and it makes it more difficult if people are there. I certainly couldn't stand my MIL staying with us for any length of time! No way! She already tries to override our rules with our other two kids. Be very very grateful you have a MIL you love! I wish I did.

GBucksHollysMOM · April 2009

I do! Shes great. I am actually going down to visit them a week from today. Shes always very intrested in whats going on with us and she is always willing to help out with anything. Shes not to overbearing so it works out well.

nadiarl · April 2009

I like my MIL. She doesn't expect to be all up in our lives, so when we insist, she is appreciative and so sweet. I think she would do anything I ask, but I never do. She and FIL are always asking DH if we are ok with money and offer to send us some all the time, but he turns them down because we are doing great. Haha, I wonder why they do this? We are in a 1bdrm apartment, so thankfully, noone will be staying for any length of time. Except my little brother who loves crashing on the couch.

peas out · April 2009

Mine is awesome too. I don't think that she will try and stay with us as they live only 20 minutes away, but I will welcome her help! She's the type of person that everytime she comes over, my kitchen ends up being cleaner.

TarheelsInNJ · April 2009

uvalori85:
TarheelsInNJ:

Curious - why do you think you can't travel that far? Or do you just mean RIGHT after the baby is born? We're due November 8, and are planning to take an 8 hour drive for Christmas (though certainly will stop overnight along the way).

Because Dh was talking about going like right after the baby is born. I've been in long car rides with babies before and it is NOT a fun or easy trip at all. I don't think I'd feel comfortable driving that far for several weeks, if not a couple months. But that's just me. 7.5 hours is a long enough drive when it's just us two, if you add in countless stops for diaper changes and feedings and whatnot, I just don't imagine it being a good trip.

Plus it's easier for her to visit us because they're the only family that lives that far away and she doesn't work.

Thanks! I was just wondering. I have definitely debated about this, as I hate long car rides too, but ALL of our extended family and close friends live in North Carolina, so we really want to make the trip. That being said, I'm definitely planning for us to stay at least 2 weeks to make it worthwhile!

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