Tacky to have @ my home?

kp28 · April 2009

So my mom & sister w/ help of a friend and SIL want to throw me a shower. My DH & I just built a new home and have the room to accomodate a large crowd-I think-of about 65 for it. I offered to just have it here so people can come see the new house too. Is this tacky? Its not going to be a coed thing. And if I can squeak by with this-what is the best way to word it on the invite to not scream 'tacky!'?

rebus82 · April 2009

If your home is the best place to have it, then I don't see a problem. It's free, spacious and convenient for gift transport.?

You do not need to worry about the invites, your hosts do that part. Just have them put the address, no need to blatantly point out that it's your house. As long as you aren't planning everything, and are just providing the space, I don't see why anyone would consider it tacky. If anyone brings it up (which would be rude) just say your hosts thought that your house seemed like a perfect location, and leave it at that.?

userdeleted · April 2009

I don't think that's tacky at all. It sounds practical

Jules G · April 2009

rebus82:

If your home is the best place to have it, then I don't see a problem. It's free, spacious and convenient for gift transport.

You do not need to worry about the invites, your hosts do that part. Just have them put the address, no need to blatantly point out that it's your house. As long as you aren't planning everything, and are just providing the space, I don't see why anyone would consider it tacky. If anyone brings it up (which would be rude) just say your hosts thought that your house seemed like a perfect location, and leave it at that.

Agreed.

Stella's_PUMPED · April 2009

My sister and mom are planning my shower at my house too. For most of the same reasons....more space and I can accomodate more people than either of them. At first I wasn't 100% loving this, but it's inexpensive and easier for both of them as well as us!!!

kldanzinger · April 2009

My MIL & SILs hosted my shower at my home. Worked great; centrally located, everyone loved being able to see the babies' room, and some hadn't been to our house before.

aajfoster · April 2009

Not tacky at all, its perfect to not have to try and get all the gifts to your house. The only thing I can think of is that be prepared to pick up afterwards. I know me personally, I would want to have the house spotless before people came over, and then would feel like I have to help clean up afterwards since it is my house. But, I am kind of a neat freak, so maybe that isn't the case for everyone Big Smile

dansozzi · April 2009

Not at all tacky my SIL had her baby shower at her house and it was so convenient because she just moved everything into the nursery.

kp28 · April 2009

Whew! Thanks ladies!!! You made me feel alot better about it. And as far as the cleaning-ambitiously I think I could still handle it. We'll see though.

Glad to hear this has been done before and not been a problem!

groovygrl · April 2009

A family friend of mine is having hers at her house but framing it like an open house b/c they just bought a new house...I know my mom thought it was kind of strange but wasn't offended or anything like that, she just never heard of doing them that way. People are much more flexible about stuff like that now. It's just more work for you in terms of cleaning etc!

deltagirl79 · April 2009

I don't think it's tacky at all. The last three showers I went to were at the mom-to-be's home. One had just moved in also and that was great because we all got to see her new house. Plus it makes it easier not to have to transport everything home.

JennifernKevin4ever · April 2009

I don't think it is tacky at all. If it is good spot, roomie and inexpensive why not? Plus its a new place and anyone that hasn't seen it yet would be able to.

IsaiahGirl · April 2009

Definitely not tacky - my coworkers threw my wedding shower at my house and I LOVED not having to move the gifts!

HOWEVER - it was really stressful the week before cleaning and even afterwards, they helped clean up most everything, but I still had to do more cleaning after they left. It was stressful as a wedding shower, so if you're going to be very pregnant, that might make it even harder. Just something to think about, but I'd still do it again just for the convenience!

noguminbed · April 2009

Sorry to be the only dissent, but I do think it is a bit tacky. I would not be offended if I got this invite in the mail, but I would probably raise an eyebrow. If it is a meet the baby and there will not be any reference to gifts or registries on the invite, different story. This could totally be me, it looks like most are fine with it.

I am wondering if you asked this, do you think it is tacky?

thaira · April 2009

We are having an open house shower at my house! Some people will love it they can come see the nursery and stay as long as they want. People typically complain about showers because they don't want to take time out tof their day anyways so this is a perfect solution for them. If Grandma Jones wants to sit and talk for the full time then awesome...isn't that what goes on at showers anyways. I personallly felt extremely tacky at my bridal shower when I opened gifts up one at a time in front of everyone and then we all left. Wow, a shower really is about come give me a gift goodbye. At least at an open house you can conversate and it's a bit more personal.

kp28 · April 2009

noguminbed:

Sorry to be the only dissent, but I do think it is a bit tacky. I would not be offended if I got this invite in the mail, but I would probably raise an eyebrow. If it is a meet the baby and there will not be any reference to gifts or registries on the invite, different story. This could totally be me, it looks like most are fine with it.

I am wondering if you asked this, do you think it is tacky?

Oh no, don't be sorry. I appreciate the honesty. That's why I asked. I wouldn't think it was tacky if I got the invite from someone with it being held at the honoree's home, but unfortunately I know many 'eyebrow raising' women who I thought might think it was tacky. But my ma is at the top of that list and she didn't seem to care. So that's why I wondered if I was missing something.

kp28 · April 2009

thaira:
We are having an open house shower at my house! Some people will love it they can come see the nursery and stay as long as they want. People typically complain about showers because they don't want to take time out tof their day anyways so this is a perfect solution for them. If Grandma Jones wants to sit and talk for the full time then awesome...isn't that what goes on at showers anyways. I personallly felt extremely tacky at my bridal shower when I opened gifts up one at a time in front of everyone and then we all left. Wow, a shower really is about come give me a gift goodbye. At least at an open house you can conversate and it's a bit more personal.

I think we are due on the same day-Sept 14th? Congrats on your little girl! I totally thought we were having a girl-until last week.

I would love to do an open house kinda thing, but don't want the guys to be there. I work with all men and they hate coed showers with a passion. And my Dad kinda gave me the hint that I need to make sure Hubby is out at Cabela's or trap shooting-aka-he doesn't need to be there and don't make him ;p

I think I feel better about it now. Thanks ladies for all the input!

kp28 · April 2009

thaira:
We are having an open house shower at my house! Some people will love it they can come see the nursery and stay as long as they want. People typically complain about showers because they don't want to take time out tof their day anyways so this is a perfect solution for them. If Grandma Jones wants to sit and talk for the full time then awesome...isn't that what goes on at showers anyways. I personallly felt extremely tacky at my bridal shower when I opened gifts up one at a time in front of everyone and then we all left. Wow, a shower really is about come give me a gift goodbye. At least at an open house you can conversate and it's a bit more personal.

I think we are due on the same day-Sept 14th? Congrats on your little girl! I totally thought we were having a girl-until last week.

I would love to do an open house kinda thing, but don't want the guys to be there. I work with all men and they hate coed showers with a passion. And my Dad kinda gave me the hint that I need to make sure Hubby is out at Cabela's or trap shooting-aka-he doesn't need to be there and don't make him ;p

I think I feel better about it now. Thanks ladies for all the input!

Stella2008 · April 2009

IsaiahGirl:

Definitely not tacky - my coworkers threw my wedding shower at my house and I LOVED not having to move the gifts!

HOWEVER - it was really stressful the week before cleaning and even afterwards, they helped clean up most everything, but I still had to do more cleaning after they left. It was stressful as a wedding shower, so if you're going to be very pregnant, that might make it even harder. Just something to think about, but I'd still do it again just for the convenience!

I completely agree with this. My in-laws just hosted a shower for us a few weekends ago at our house, and although they said at the time they asked to host that they would be coming over ahead of time to "prep" the house, that just meant set up for the party the morning of. I ended up spending the full week before doing alot of cleaning, setting up furniture, planting (we had tables inside and out), and getting ready. Also, I am kind of a type-a and so the whole not knowing all of the plans was stressing me out. If you have clear expectations of who is doing what ahead of time it would make it much easier.

saraprice · April 2009

I had one at a friend's house and one at my house with my daughter. I really enjoyed the one at my house because after everyone left I did not have to lug the gifts home and put them away. My friends helped with everything from the cleaning before to the cleaning/putting up after. It was wonderful in fact my best friend did the same with hers after seeing how nice and easy it was.

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