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3rd Trimester
Are you "allowed" to feel crappy now??
Earlier in 3rd tri, I posted that it seemed that when people asked how you are feeling they seemed to only want to hear "good" or "fine." They seemed dissatisfied with anything else. I'm not talking about giving them a sob story, but even a little "a little tired" seemed to be unacceptable.
However, it seems I've crossed that magic line where I'm expected to feel like crap. I keep having coworkers ask me how I'm feeling and want to know every aspect of my suffering. Then, they are disappointed if I am not suffering as much as they expected. I even had a janitor ask, "So, how uncomfortable are you now?"
Anyone else notice this?
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Re: Are you "allowed" to feel crappy now??
Um... yes. I crossed that line last Thursday. I remember the exact moment.
But I'm a big whiner. I don't like being "uncomfortable." I can take pain... just not lingering pain. And now- I'm uncomfortable. I try not to complain b/c I'm looking at another 7, possibly 9, weeks in this condition- so I'm trying to keep the complaining to myself.
Just don't ask me how I'm feeling- b/c I will really tell you.
WORSE..People TELL me I feel bad. They ask how I m feeling/doing, I say, "I'm good" and smile - because I am fine - for the most part - so it's genuine..and they nod knowingly and say..."hmmm, pretty uncomfortable now, huh?" OR "Don't worry, you're so close, any day now.."
What?? I said I was good... I don't understand.
LOL..This made me think of how well meaning people react any time I dared to try to pick something like a piece of paper up off the floor... People lung for it. I am more afraid they will knock me over trying to help me than anything else. It's hysterical to me. I can still move, people!