How to calculate how long you've been trying?

charo1111 · April 2009

I hope this doesn't sound like a dumb question. I know I haven't been trying as long as some have to get pregnant but I'm starting to get frustrated. I had a chemical pregnancy last April and we've been having unprotected sex since then. Technically it seems that we've been trying for about a year. We took two breaks- one month because I was out of the country studying and another month because we had a trip coming up and if I got pregnant that cycle I would have been due as we were flying back home from overseas.

My husband says we haven't been trying seriously that long. I see what he means. We've been charting for about 6 cycles and using opk's and all that. I am due for my annual exam and I'm wondering if I should talk to the doctor about not conceiving just yet or wait another 6 cycles. I'm getting worried that something could be wrong. Everyone I know IRL is getting knocked up left and right on their third cycle at the latest. What do you think has it been closer to a year we've been trying for just 6 months/ cycles? I hope no one takes offense. I know many of you have struggled much longer than I have.

Dr.Loretta · April 2009

janineb:
you have been trying for a year. I would bring it up at your annul appt.

^This. Don't get caught up in semantics.

easjer05 · April 2009

I would say exactly what you said here. You've been charting for 6 cycles and having unprotected sex for about a year, minus a cycle you were avoiding.

Your gyn will want to discuss further and consider some testing or will tell you to come back in a certain timeframe. You lose nothing by bringing it up at your appointment.

charo1111 · April 2009

Thanks, that's what I thought but my husband had me convinced otherwise. He's just so logical sometimes.

yogisunam · April 2009

Agreed. Tell your ob/gyn and he or she will go over the next steps with regards to testing. They can probably order some initial bw and a SA for your DH. Once you've got that out of the way then you can determine if you want to see a specialist.

Nikki1007 · April 2009

Ditto. Technically having unprotected sex at regular intervals = TTC. This will be the info your dr. is interested in. I would bring it up and take your charts.

Serendipitie · April 2009

I think it's all personal opinion. If you were just "not avoiding" you may want to chart a few more cycles, but if you were trying to time sex/having lots of sex for 6 months, you were trying, you know? I don't think you would be wrong in seeking medical attention at this point.

ebat · April 2009

easjer05:
I would say exactly what you said here. You've been charting for 6 cycles and having unprotected sex for about a year, minus a cycle you were avoiding.
Your gyn will want to discuss further and consider some testing or will tell you to come back in a certain timeframe. You lose nothing by bringing it up at your appointment.

I agree, you don't need to flat out say a number at your appointment, you can explain you situation to your doctor and go from there

pmarie33 · April 2009

men don't get it.

If you've been charting and it shows that you are ovulating and having unprotected sex, then you should bring it up at your appointment.

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