So what have you learned?

easjer05 · April 2009

What have you learned during ttc that you didn't know before-hand?

tri047 · April 2009

Patience! I am still trying to learn this lesson. Lol.

That and a lot about my body after reading TCOYF.

cedge05 · April 2009

Well of course I have learned a lot about my cycle and my body but the biggest thing is just how much we really want a baby. We especially learned that after the MC. We learned how much you can love someone that you haven't even met yet.

buckin · April 2009

That you will never know ENOUGH about your own body, and will always learn something new until the day you die.

Also, that my uterus is a biatch and my ovaries hate me.

heather_09_15_07 · April 2009

That for me, getting the bfp was on a very small part of the battle.

easjer05 · April 2009

I learned that I don't really like having lots of sex. I always secretly felt something was off since we only had sex once or twice a week. Then I learned I prefer that to massive quantities.

easjer05 · April 2009

I learned that getting pregnant isn't the hardest part for me.

staycee · April 2009

so much more than I ever thought I'd need to know.

I learned that I am exhausted at the thought of starting with the RE again, and I may be fine with having only one child now.

mrsmacias2008 · April 2009

That sex does not equal baby. It takes some work. Just getting off bcp/condoms doesn't always work. That a loss/losses take a lot out of you and can test your marriage but it makes you and yor husband stronger.

easjer05 · April 2009

I learned that charting to get pregnant is a lot harder than charting not to get pregnant and that charting can be stressful. I still personally believe it to be less stressful than not charting, but I get why people don't want to bother.

easjer05 · April 2009

I learned that ttc can either make your marriage stronger or seriously strain it.

pmarie33 · April 2009

I've learned more than I ever wanted to know about the reproductive system.

heather_09_15_07 · April 2009

fredalina:
i really knew almost nothing about my reproductive system. i didn't know the names of any of the hormones or what they did (except maybe Estrogen, but not really even then, much less the different types of Estrogen). i didn't know what could go wrong when ttc and why each conception is practically a miracle. i didn't realize how common IF is. i certainly didn't know how stressful or painful it is. i didn't know anything about ethical issues surrounding fertility treatments or adoption. i didn't know much, frankly.

And also, all of the above.

MamaKlein · April 2009

I find that I'm having to learn to let go of my feelings of envy for those who can get pregnant at all because not all of them can stay pregnant easily. The grass is not always greener.

I've also learned that being bitter with cause is something many people still can't understand.

I could go on and on.

Mrs.Wifey318 · April 2009

I have learned a ton about my body, but mostly I have been trying to learn patience.

I think I have also learned alot about my husband and his dreams for our family, and our worries about being good parents.

two-pink-shoes · April 2009

I am learning that the female body is freakin' awesome.

easjer05 · April 2009

Oh yes. The bitterness - I learned that bitterness, envy and anger are not emotions I can control. I can only control my reactions to them.

lenloe · April 2009

i learned to never ask anyone things like:

when are you going to have kids?

do you want kids? how many?

or say things like:

you don't have kids? i'm so jealous you don't have any responsibilities.

CassieD · April 2009

Good question. I agree with most of what's been said already, honestly. I also learned that, even though he doesn't always want to talk about it, my husband is just as effected by what's going on as I am. He's a lot more private than I always thought, but he's also amazingly sensitive and sweet and caring.

I also learned that there's a time for everthing. I had wanted to ttc years ago, but he wanted to wait. Our marriage has become so much stronger, and I'm so glad we're going through all of this now instead of 4 years ago.

aphrodite2 · April 2009

I've learned that I am much more jealous and bitter than I will ever be able to admit. ?Thankfully, I've also come to understand (to a greater degree than pre-TTC) that I have a very strong marriage.

yogisunam · April 2009

easjer05:
Oh yes. The bitterness - I learned that bitterness, envy and anger are not emotions I can control. I can only control my reactions to them.

here, here. well said.

buckin · April 2009

That family can't always support you when they don't understand what you are going through and have no concept of manners in an unknown (to them) situation. I thought my family had some class, but I had to question that when it came to their treatment of me during IF.

IF can also severely strain your relationship with siblings and cause you to grow severely apart.

Mrs.PeachyKeen · April 2009

I have learned that I can plan til I am blue in my face but if my body doesn't agree then oh well.

I have also learned that sex ed in school is crap.

I haven't gotten to the IF stage of TTC so I can't speak for those comments, but everyone is dead on.

Becky19 · April 2009

That making a baby takes time, regardless of how fertile my mom was; that miscarriage and bad luck does not discriminate.

yogisunam · April 2009

Patience, I've learned that I have toms more than I ever thought.

And I am constantly learning and relearning how to let go of expectations.

And I am learning how to be more compassionate to myself and to others who are dealing with crap situations.

melodylb · April 2009

That making a baby is a lot harder then they tell you in school.

tri047 · April 2009

lenloe:
i learned to never ask anyone things like:

when are you going to have kids?

do you want kids? how many?

or say things like:

you don't have kids? i'm so jealous you don't have any responsibilities.

This! Or things like, "When are you due?! You look like you are about to pop!"

Uhh...ya, thanks!

Dr.BeepersWife · April 2009

fredalina:
i really knew almost nothing about my reproductive system. i didn't know the names of any of the hormones or what they did (except maybe Estrogen, but not really even then, much less the different types of Estrogen). i didn't know what could go wrong when ttc and why each conception is practically a miracle. i didn't realize how common IF is. i certainly didn't know how stressful or painful it is. i didn't know anything about ethical issues surrounding fertility treatments or adoption. i didn't know much, frankly.

This.

I thoought I knew a lot until I started reading more about it, which really means I didn't know shiit.

Bubbles1022 · April 2009

I'm still trying to learn patience. I find for me the wait to ovulate is way way worse than the 2WW. Recently coming off bcp I fear I'll never ovulate again!

I believe more and more each day that getting pregnant and having a baby is truly a miracle. So many of the stars have to align *just right*, all just for a chance at conception.

kkmay395 · April 2009

Wow. I have only been ttc for a month, but I have learned so much from this board. I have learned to be more careful with my words when speaking to a couple who may or may not be ttc. and agreement with everyone else!

sazzette · April 2009

I learned that is not that easy to have a baby, that my cycles are not great and that I don't ovulate most of the times. I learned that it's hard for our marriage. I learned how to understand my body and my cycles better and that we both would love to go back to having less sex when we want to than a lot when we don't.

buckin · April 2009

That selfishness isn't always egotistical in nature. Sometimes its self-preservation.

ourlove4ever · April 2009

that all of the "stars" really do have to be in line to get pregnant...it is not as easy as they said when you were in high school, that was all a load of bs!

Anna&Matt · April 2009

heather_09_15_07:
That for me, getting the bfp was on a very small part of the battle.

This. And patience, which I'm still working on.?

nikkifudgestick · April 2009

I've learned that when people with children say babies are miracles, it's true and not just cheesy bullshit. I've also learned that I want a baby more than I thought when we first started. Patience is another good one. Still working on it.

Like everyone else has said too, I've learned more about my body than I thought possible. lol One of the favorite things I've learned is that you don't have to meet someone face to face for them to be a good friend.

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