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Non-preggo friend vent...

adrianLOadrianLO
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I don't know why I continue to call my single party all the time girlfriend..  EVERYTIME I talk to her it's the same questions, "when are you having the baby, again?  It feels like you've been pregnant for a year"  or  "Do you know if it's a boy or girl yet?"

Last week she actually asked me if I was interested in going on a girls trip to Miami in July......hmmm, that would be a month after my baby is born???  I told her to put me down as a "no" for girl trips for the next 18 years or so.  So she says "God I'm so glad I'm not having a kid, you miss everything!" 

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  • NewlywedNVANewlywedNVA
    Yeah, it's a different world!  My friend posted on Facebook that it seems everyone she knows is pg, and all the pgs and mommies were like "Join the club!" and all the singles were like "stay away from the pastels and baby stuff!"  It was funny.
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  • ParisPreggoParisPreggo
    Hmm. It's probably a good thing she's not going to be a mom for a while.
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  • AshleyKassAshleyKass member
    You obviously have different priorities in life.  I feel like my friends act the same way.
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  • heyyoheheyyohe
    Ugh...I know how you feel. I actually got this comment: "Are you SURE you wanna do this? It doesn't seem very fun"
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  • KateandEdKateandEd
    imageadrianLO:

     you miss everything!" 

    you could argue the same thing to her Wink

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  • rommelearommelea
    Haha my girlfriend planned a girls' trip in July and invited me.  I'm due in July... don't think I'm gonna make it to the all-inclusive resort and get wasted with you for 3 days.  Thanks though!
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  • cabana1cabana1 member
    Yeah, I feel ya I have friends like this. But I have to say, if you want a girls trip there's nothing wrong with going on one in the next 18 years! I will not be going on one when my kids are little, but I am so up for a few days away with the girls if I can afford it in the future....
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  • CalledOutCalledOut

    Eh, the "miss out on everything" comment was way out of line, but I feel like I'd be hurt if my good friend didn't invite me on a girl's trip just b/c I was preg. / had a child.  We're still the same people - just b/c you have a baby doesn't mean you wouldn't enjoy a little party-time with the girls.  Of course, one month after the birth is maybe too soon, but I think that it was nice of her to include you.

     And honestly, if I asked a friend to go on a trip and she was all "ohhhhh noooo!  I could never leave my darling child - you just wouldn't understand," I'd probably roll my eyes.

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  • k_kapralk_kapral

    I know exactly how you feel. I was at a family reunion last weekend and my cousins don't have kids (I am the first grandchild on both sides to have a baby)... they were all saying things like, "Yeah if you ever call me I am just going to ignore the phone because it's probably you asking for babysitting or help."

    So I turned to them and said, "I guess when you call me asking me pregnancy, birthing or parenting questions I will be ignoring your calls as well."

    I was seriously SO PISSED! Why are singles so rude?? I want to have more joy and fulfillment in my life!

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  • bchlvnmom09bchlvnmom09
    It is so annoying to have her say that, when you are already aware that your life is changing forever. My friend actually had a baby in Sept. and while she pretends to be "Worlds best Mom" she actually has no interest in her kid. She thinks I will be ready to go out for a night on the town a week after I have my daughter, because SHE was. I hate talking to her anymore because all I listen to is how much she does for her little girl, she holds her all the time and has no time for anything else ( when really it is because she doesnt want to hear her baby cry for a minute ) All she wants to do is plan trips for the girls, and girls nights out.   I would like to enjoy my baby for a little bit, not have her and run away.
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  • Choco80Choco80

    I hear you, I feel like I've seen a lot of this. ?One guy friend of mine (who has made it clear he NEVER intends to have kids) berates pregnant women and families with young babies all the time and doesn't get what the "big deal" is - he hates it when people post ultrasound pics on facebook too, it disgusts him, yet he is obsessed with his two cats and puts up pictures of them everywhere. ?He really thinks they are human and better than babies, and implies they are the same amount of work.

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    Don't get me wrong, I looooove animals (we have 4 dogs), but I don't think this type of comparison is appropriate or correct...?

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