2nd Trimester

Interesting baby shower- re: that dreadful "measure the mom" game

Well, not everyone thinks it's dreadful, I know, but there was a post about it a few days ago where some did.  

Today, I went to a shower and this game was played. They passed around rolls of toilet paper and asked everyone to pull a piece and guess how big the mom was. I whispered to the person next to me, "I kind of hate this game and don't really want to play it." She responded, "Well, this was done at my shower and I hated it so I am NOT playing." Then a friend of mine who was sitting there too said, "I was humiliated when they did this at my shower. I'm not doing it either." And one by one, women who'd been pregnant and either hated the game from experience or hated the idea of it, refused to play!

I know that some women are fine with it. It just so happened that most of these women were not. We didn't make a big deal of it. We just sat quietly and smiled and passed the toilet paper when it got to us. I guess we increased the odds for the few that did play. LOL

FWIW, I didn't care for any of the games. Sorry if that makes me a party pooper. I kind of hate showers! The best part was the cake and punch.

 

Re: Interesting baby shower- re: that dreadful "measure the mom" game

  • I don't blame you for passing it.

    I honestly feel that's one of the most humiliating shower games ever invented.

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  • I've never heard of that game but I wouldnt want people guessing my size, either.

    I've never played it but I think the game where they melt different chocolate bars in diapers and then you have to figure out what kind of chocolate bar it is sounds fun.

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  • Who the hell came up with the idea for that game?? Cruel and unusual. Sorry if anyone thinks it's cute and fun, but I don't.

    Why not just get out the scale and play "Guess the new mommy's weight?"

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  • Yeah, the game is lame, but if people refuse to play the games at my shower, I'll probably cry.
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  • I lurve baby showers but I despise games.

    And I seriously think the measuring mom game is the absolute worst game ever. 

  • While I love the games except the toilet paper one b/c then I feel bigger than I am, I would pass up games to eat all the punch and cake i can get my hands on now!
  • I agree with you 100%. I am having two showers and I have vetoed all games at both of them. One of my hosts is fine with this but the other hasn't quite decided that this is ok, I will convince her because no one wants to play them anyways and alot of them are cheesy or just plain?embarrassing?for the mom to be.
  • imageSharonWantsABaby:

    Who the hell came up with the idea for that game?? Cruel and unusual. Sorry if anyone thinks it's cute and fun, but I don't.

    Why not just get out the scale and play "Guess the new mommy's weight?"

    ZOMG I would die.

  • imageladysingstheblues:
    Yeah, the game is lame, but if people refuse to play the games at my shower, I'll probably cry.

    She didn't seem to enjoy standing there with her arms out while people came up with their paper and screamed, "Tooo small!! You're way bigger than I guessed! hahaha!" etc etc. I think we helped her by shortening the length of time that this had to go on.

  • The game didn't really bother me at mine, BUT, I've always been big so maybe because I was used to it? I don't know.

  • imagethatgirlang:

    imageladysingstheblues:
    Yeah, the game is lame, but if people refuse to play the games at my shower, I'll probably cry.

    She didn't seem to enjoy standing there with her arms out while people came up with their paper and screamed, "Tooo small!! You're way bigger than I guessed! hahaha!" etc etc. I think we helped her by shortening the length of time that this had to go on.

    I didn't mean to imply that I would allow that game at MY shower, lol.

     

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  • I won't mind if they want to play it at my shower because I love my bump, and how big it is getting, but I can see why some people don't like it. I wouldn't want to play a game where they were measuring round my a$$ or thighs.
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  • Funny thing, several years ago now (16, yikes) they played this at my SIL's baby shower. She is very tiny (think 00) and at 40w was still wearing size 6 or 8 normal pants. She was about 32w at the shower. Most of the women at the party overguessed her size by a ton because they were measuring off themselves. When it came time to measure their pieces it was just embarassing. And even funnier, her actually measurement in toilet paper ended up not fitting around a majority of the people at the party (it was too small). Ha ha...there's reverse humiliation for you!
  • I'm not sensitive, but think the game is dumb.  Shower games overall are not my thing and as far as I know it's not common where I am from (with my family at least) and so I don't think there will be any at my shower.  I would rather enjoy visiting with people than playing games...but that's just me.

  • Well I know that the hostesses have probably worked very hard to make the shower nice, so I just play along to make them happy. I don't see why this game would be so humiliating. I mean your belly is bigger since you have a person inside you. I would just take it with a grain of salt and play anyway.
  • I don't like any shower games.  I would rather eat and talk.  I refused to have any at my wedding shower (thankfully my MOH agreed with me!) so I'm hoping I won't have to deal with it at the baby showers... but if I do, I do, and I'll suck it up and pretend to have a good time.  Hopefully they don't play this game though!
  • They're not really measuring your belly though.  They're measuring all around.

    And if you were one of the lucky ones such as myself whose body decided to grow >>>WIDE<<< then having someone measure all around you sucks beyond belief. 

    Now if you want to measure my fundal height that's totally different LOL

  • Hate this game.  I actually emailed two of my shower hostesses yesterday and begged them to not have this game.  Actually, I told them that I wouldn't cry if there were no games at all...but I would refuse to participate if this one came up.
  • I just e-mailed my girl friends with some idea's from that thread I posted a few days ago and told them if anyone even comes near me trying to measure me with anything I will slit someones throat. Hopefully that got the point through clearly enough.
  • I agree, most shower games are not a whole lot of fun, and frankly, embarrassing.  I was at a shower recently were we were asked to put on bibs and see who could drink the milk the fastest from a bottle.  I excused myself to the bathroom at that point.  I will say though, I don't mind playing the crossword or word search games.  :)
  • Way to go for passing.  I hope they don't do this at my showers.
  • imagethatgirlang:

    FWIW, I didn't care for any of the games. Sorry if that makes me a party pooper. I kind of hate showers! The best part was the cake and punch.

     

    I agree 100%!!!  I love just socializing and munching (on cake and punch!) and "oohing-ahhing" over baby things!

  • imageBCLong21:
    Well I know that the hostesses have probably worked very hard to make the shower nice, so I just play along to make them happy. I don't see why this game would be so humiliating. I mean your belly is bigger since you have a person inside you. I would just take it with a grain of salt and play anyway.

    As mavilabride said, they aren't *really* just measuring your belly. They wrap the paper or string around your whole body and a lot of people get bigger/wider all the way around.

    For me, I didn't want anyone staring at my body or giving me that sort of attention because I was big everywhere! I was very uncomfortable. Very few people JUST get bigger bellies and nothing else. Even if you are just "all belly" some women just have a hard time adjusting to how huge they feel. It's really very surreal by that point how big you are/feel- you can't really get over it! (I know there are exceptions but this is what we were saying today at the shower.)

  • Wow.  I'd refuse to play that if it were my shower.  How humiliating.  I've had one shower, planned by my mom, and there were no games involved at all.  Just lots of fun visiting with friends, eating, and opening gifts.
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  • WTF?  What an awful "game"!  I didn't think the point of a shower was to humiliate the mother!  We didn't have any games at my bridal or baby showers, just a nice luncheon for each.  I really don't see the point of the games!
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  • We are having a Co-ed shower, so no games for us (Thank goodness).  I do NOT need anyone trying to guess my size in front of all of our friends and family.
  • I am a party pooper all the way ... I hate shower games : )
  • This is my first pregnancy, but I still dislike the game.  Women are already self conscious and then some people who have no judgement take a ton of TP to make a person feel bigger than what they were.  At my SIL's shower, her aunt took 60" of string... I felt so bad for my SIL. 

  • That game is pretty humiliating.  I hope I don't have to play at my shower!
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    Good for you for not doing it. I hate shower games and have mixed feelings about showers too. They are so weird...I mean I like the idea of people giving me stuff (I know how that sounds) but it's weird to just sit there and have everyone watch you open presents.
  • imagetaelir:

    I don't blame you for passing it.

    I honestly feel that's one of the most humiliating shower games ever invented.

     

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