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gentrylove13gentrylove13
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My son is 3 weeks old, and has to be held ALL the time. Even at night when he sleeps, if I put him down, he screams bloody murder. I sleep in the rocking chair all night holding him so he will sleep. I know right now its all about forming the parent-child "trust", that when he cries, Mommy is there to comfert him, and take care of him, but we seriouly hold him 22 hours a day. Have I already created a spoiled monster? How do I break him of this habbit of need to be held?  Any advice would be greatly apprectiated! Thanks!!
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  • Tina2007Tina2007
    I know that it is hard but, put him down and walk away. He will cry himself to sleep at some point.
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  • jess1984jess1984
    My ds was a cuddle moster from the getgo... He slept on my chest for the first 4 weeks. you can't spoil them at that point and he will grow out of it. I had ds on my chest for 4 weeks, in bed for 1 and he was in his crib by himself by 6 weeks. And he was STTN by 8 weeks. Good luck.
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  • redhead2466redhead2466
    The book: "The No Cry Sleep Solution" has lots of gentle tips on how to do just this, without leaving your newborn to cry it out (it has a newborn chapter, then a chapter for older babies).  Once your LO reaches 3 mos then you can worry about spoiling him, but right now, I understand you need to take care of yourself as well as him!
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  • djandkellendjandkellen
    At 3 weeks, it's not a habit and that's not spoiling. ?I had to hold DS a bunch when he was that young and for quite a while. ?It will get better! ?I would suggest getting a wrap if you want some hands free time while still holding him. ?HTH. :)?
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  • SpecialWifeSpecialWife
    No you haven't created a monster! Are you sure his tummy is full and he's a comfortable temperature? The only time my dd was like what you're describing was when she was hungry the first week(my milk took forever to come so we had to supplement a few ounces of formula here and there). Have you tried swaddling? That's another thing that worked for dd in the early weeks.
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  • Karen_77Karen_77
    It's completely normal, you are not creating bad habits or spoiling him.  Please don't listen to the 1st poster and let him cry himself to sleep at 3 weeks!  Try swaddling, white noise, letting him sleep in bouncy chair or swing if you need a break and to start adjusting him to sleeping somewhere else.
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  • eris1995eris1995 member
    DS was like this in the beginning as well.  I held him all the time (a sling or carrier is great for this).  At night he would sleep on my chest.  In the beginning if DH wasn't going to be home I would have my mom come over just so I could shower.  You're not creating bad habits at that age.  Now
    DS sleeps in his crib for naps and bedtime and does fine playing by himself on his activity mat or bouncer. 
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